Please listen to the question: Can we blindly associate with people?
If your answer is "yes", I'm afraid your life will be very bumpy, and Oniguzi will give you a "glorious" title:
Honest people.
What is an honest person? Oniguzi's answer is simple, there is only one criterion "can not know people".
One
In life, no matter how much wealth you have, what knowledge, and how strong your ability is, as long as you ignore this standard, you will often suffer losses. Ironically, people only lick their wounds when they are injured, and suddenly realize that it is "unladylike when they meet people", only because there are eyes and no pearls.
For example, there is a Ghost Valley Daoist friend who mistakenly believes in people and borrows 20 million to a friend, and the result is that the friend disappears without a trace, and it is difficult to contact. A friend who guarantees someone else is also saddled with tens of millions of debts.
These are not the most tragic, there is a distant relative, really can be described as young and promising, when others are still pedaling bicycles, he has driven a Land Rover, BMW, every day always worry about what car to drive.
As a result, the business lost money, the caravan was sold, and the overnight head was white. This is actually nothing, doing business is always risky, where is the business that only makes money and does not lose? Fate will never fail those who work hard. Later, after losing money, he doubled his money and earned it back. Just when his family raised their eyebrows and exhaled a breath, something unfortunate happened again.
Not long ago, he was taken to gamble by an acquaintance and lost nearly 100 million yuan. It wasn't until a group of social people who were "carving dragons and painting phoenixes" all over the body came to him to collect debts, that he suddenly realized and sent a message saying:
"I'm afraid I won't be able to turn over in this life."
Two
Others accuse him of being too greedy, but in fact, he is careless in making friends and meeting people unladylike.
Once a person has wealth, there will be people who will remember, hoping to be able to take it for themselves, causing people to be jealous and secretly calculating. However, people are proud but easy to get carried away, which leads to the fact that money comes and goes quickly. Many people have the ability to earn wealth, but they do not have the ability to keep wealth, especially in looking at people, it is easy to look away.
If you think about it, in fact, strangers have a hard time counting you, only the acquaintance who walks around in your world can, and the person who "loves" the most is often the most hurtful.
This is not the most tragic, the most tragic is that those who have helped you, the backhand has pit you again.
Three
This kind of behavior is called "killing pigs" by some people.
Piglets are not valuable, and they have to be raised and fattened in order to grab higher profits. Therefore, some people specialize in raising pigs and killing pigs, but they are actually butchers.
In the beginning, the butcher will first let the "pig" get some benefits, one can be trusted, and the other can be fattened. For example, the reason why the "distant relative" continues to increase his bets must have tasted the sweetness, so he desperately fell into the trap of acquaintances.
To put it another way, someone once asked me, how could a person quit gambling? There was only one way for me to think about it, to get him out of his original circle, and the longer he left, the more obvious the effect would be.
There are many applications of this method, such as quitting smoking, and I quit smoking through this method. In fact, the consciousness of wanting to smoke is still in my mind, but if I am in an environment where no one smokes, the behavior of smoking becomes tasteless and even inexplicable.
Of course, believe it or not.
Four
Returning to the truth, the most tragic "pig" is probably Han Xin.
Friends often ask me, does Han Xin have any descendants? The "Records of History" clearly records the "Yixin Three Tribes", and Han Xin was cut down and rooted, and the three tribes were killed.
Han Xin was able to thank him in this life, and the Yisan clan was also given by him, and this person was Xiao He who was "Cheng ye Xiao He, defeat also Xiao He" in the idiom.
Can Han Xin not die in the end? This is an unknown. But what is certain is that if Han Xin does not mistakenly believe in people, the end of his life can actually be postponed, perhaps during that time, he can not protect himself, but he can protect his relatives. The shrewd Han Xin actually knew that the Liu family was going to attack him, so he had been pretending to be sick and could not afford to hide.
However, he received a letter from Xiao He, and the focus of the letter was only five words: Although he was ill, Qiang Entering He.
Xiao He told Han Xin: "Even if you are sick, but the boss's family has a happy event, you should also go to celebrate, after all, so many years of feelings, this bit of face you always have to give." ”
Han Xin was not at ease.
Xiao He patted his chest and said, "What am I afraid of, there is an old brother here." ”
Han Xin, who had always been invincible on the battlefield and was scheming, chose to believe in his friends, and as a result, when he stepped into the palace with one foot, tragedy occurred: Xinjin, Lü Hou convinced the samurai.
Han Xin's pig was fattened and finally killed.
Some people are complacent about their status and IQ, just imagine, no matter how strong your business ability is, can you be stronger than Han Xin? How high can your IQ be higher than Han Xin?
As long as you mistrust people, even if you are ten million times stronger than Han Xin, you will eventually live your life into a tragedy.
Five
Sometimes, I have to submit to the oniguchi view of the world, rational and realistic, no matter who I meet, I will first "calculate" and get along with people, if I am too honest, I will lose.
So what should we do? Some people will choose who believes, and naturally some people will choose who does not believe, in fact, they are all unreasonable, and they are not in line with the original intention of oniguzi.
A very ironic thing, in the Chu-Han war, Xiang Yu was not good at using martial arts, and Han Credit was not good at pu tong. On the contrary, Liu Bang is the most good at using lobbyists.
Believe that you will be deceived, do not believe and can not do a career, how to be good? OniGuzi gave a method, a total of two sentences: degree of power and ability, speculation, master this knowledge point to ensure that you will take fewer detours in the future.
The first sentence: The degree of power and energy is actually the right of measurement. Oniguzi said that "the measure of power is not judged, there are many strong and weak weights", if you do not seriously measure the power, do not know the weight, it is impossible to put yourself in the right position, do some stupid things, which means that we need to fully and thoroughly understand the advantages and disadvantages of the other party, strengths and weaknesses, otherwise we can not communicate.
The second sentence: Speculating on feelings is actually speculation. Oniguzi said, "I don't believe in feelings, I don't know the movement of hidden changes", if you don't seriously speculate, you can't understand the true intentions of the other party. Since ancient times, "people's hearts are separated from their stomachs", knowing people and knowing faces may not be able to know the heart, and knowing the heart is the most important. A person who is stabbed by a stranger is called a flesh wound, and if he is stabbed by his closest friend, it is like a thousand arrows piercing the heart, which is called sadness.
In the final analysis, the reason why a person is calculated is because he does not know the weight and does not know the people's hearts, which is the basis for doing things as a person, and it is precisely because of this that Oniguzi said that it is "degree of power, ability, speculation, and the division of things." In life, it is not difficult to be a person, it is rare to know people's hearts! There are Buddhist families who say:
Knowing people has learned to advance and retreat, and always be physically and mentally safe!
In fact, after watching "Ghost Valley", many people will be surprised to find that the usual communication skills and "unspoken rules" mentioned by Mr. "Ghost Valley" thousands of years ago have been very clear. If you reach middle age and are still confused and worried about your livelihood, then "Ghost Valley" is really a book you must read.
This set of books "Ghost Valley" has a total of 5 volumes, each of which is a wisdom book that is of great help to the workplace and life, it can be said that as long as you take out one of them, they are books that will benefit you for life.
After reading "Ghost Valley", I know that if you meet a pig, don't talk to him about ideals, because it only knows feed.
After reading the "Parchment Scroll", I know: When the heart is big, the matter is small. When the heart is wide, the annoyance is gone.
After reading "Wolf Road", I know that people who are not used to it, don't care, smile, is the best counterattack.
After reading Murphy's Law, I learned that everything is not as simple as it seems, and the more you are afraid of what will happen, the more you will happen.
After reading "The Weakness of Human Nature", I know that there are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.