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I have heard a saying: "People who are really powerful are often silent." ”
The so-called silent, is low-key, not ostentatious, not exaggerated, looks nothing special, but the feeling is so different.
They are determined, confident, and powerful, and do not need to show their strength through the way of "being strong". When necessary, it will even show weakness in a timely manner.
Showing weakness is not really weak, but avoiding its sharp edge by showing weakness is a means of seeking advantages and avoiding harm.
Sometimes, showing weakness is the real strength.
A person who learns to show weakness also learns to be a man.
01. Showing weakness is a kind of kindness
When I was a child, my family was very poor and could hardly eat meat. Therefore, several children in the village often go to the pond on the side of the village to catch toads, and then roast them with fire and eat them.
Once, because of catching toads, a few of our wild children skipped class, and the teacher criticized us. Warn us not to catch toads and not to skip class for no reason.
Later, the teacher said that there was some work at home and asked us to help. We went, and the job was simple, simply moving a few cabbages onto the shelves in the house. After moving, the teacher cooked us a lot of meat to eat. A few of us ate very well, knowing that it was only possible to eat it during the New Year.
During the meal, the teacher thanked us one after another, saying that thanks to these children, thank you. Since then, the teacher has always asked us to go to his house to help with some work, and then cook us meat to eat, we are very happy, and the teacher always says thank you.
Later, we went to high school, and gradually understood things, once, when several classmates recalled this incident together, they understood that the teacher knew that there was no meat at home through our catching toads and skipping class, and would deliberately use the work in his family to help and deceive us to go to his house. Actually, I want to give us stew to eat.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "There is no trace of good deeds", which means that those who have noble cultivation do good deeds without leaving a trace. And showing weakness is a way of being kind.
People who seek goodness in the form of showing weakness never flaunt their superiority and never condescend to give alms. Instead, when giving help to each other, maintain the dignity of the other party and not embarrass the other party.
In this way, the person receiving help will not be embarrassed, will not be inferior, but will be very comfortable in their hearts and sincerely grateful to the other party.
Knowing how to show weakness and kindness is a kind of advanced cultivation in the human world, which maintains the dignity of both sides and sublimates the harmonious feelings.
02. Weakness is a kind of wisdom
There is no one who does not like smart people, but smart people show their intelligence everywhere, and they will become proud and annoying.
There is a kind of hidden intelligence, that is, showing weakness. People who behave in the world and know how to show weakness will be very humble, their careers are successful, and their popularity is widespread.
Weakness is a high level of wisdom, and it will be very popular.
Xiaoyu and Xiaolin are colleagues, and both of them have good performance in the company and belong to advanced individuals. Xiaoyu has a flamboyant and lively personality, showing his abilities everywhere. Kobayashi is very humble, never shows himself, and often asks people around him for advice at work. For a long time, everyone liked Kobayashi and hated Xiaoyu.
Xiaoyu's popularity in the unit is getting worse and worse, and in the end no one does not hate him, but Kobayashi has the support of everyone in the company.
Xiao Yu was confused and asked his friend for advice, what was the reason why his colleagues were far away from him? A friend pointed out his crux at the dinner table. Since then, Xiaoyu has studied humbly and is no longer arrogant. His colleagues changed their attitudes toward him and embraced him.
Undoubtedly, the reason why Kobayashi is liked by everyone is precisely because he is humble and easy-going, and he is not arrogant. And the reason why Xiaoyu makes everyone hate is because he has no one in sight and is arrogant.
There is a law in nature: "With softness, with movement, with the weak prevailing." ”
Weakness is such a way of winning. Sometimes, humility and weakness in the crowd not only increases insight, but also enhances one's interpersonal relationships.
All people like the feeling of being respected, and no one likes others to despise themselves. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, appropriately show weakness, will contact people, a wide range of contacts.
This kind of weakness is not really weakness, but follows people's psychology and obtains the maximum profit at the lowest cost. If your interpersonal relationships in life are not good, it is better to learn to show weakness, and may turn your life upside down.
03. Showing weakness is a realm
Han Xin had made countless achievements in his life, but he still had the experience of crotch humiliation.
He was insulted by a butcher at the wet market, who said to him, "Either you drill under my crotch or you stab me with your sword." ”
Instead of stabbing the butcher with his sword, Han Xin chose to drill through his crotch, and then walked away in the laughter of the crowd.
Many years later, when Han Xin made countless military achievements and helped Liu Bang destroy the Qin, Wei, and Zhao kingdoms... Han Xin went back to see the butcher who had humiliated him.
Han Xin said, "Back then, I wasn't afraid of you, but I didn't care to kill you. If I had killed you then, I wouldn't have had me today. I can stake my life on Xiang Yu, Liu Bang, and Lü Bu, but I won't bet it on you. ”
Han Xin did not dare to assassinate the butcher, but disdained to assassinate him.
People who know how to show weakness will have a long-term vision, a large ideological pattern, and a relaxed way of doing things. And the strong people are short-sighted, narrow-minded, and stubborn in doing things. Compared with the two: the strong is only a momentary speed, while the weakness is the beauty of a lifetime.
Therefore, cultivating a weak character is not only a kind of advanced cultivation in life, but also an opportunity to win in the appropriate stalls. After all, still water will flow deeply, and it will be difficult to enter.
epilogue:
Truly intelligent people know how to show weakness, such people in the jianghu, not only can quietly express their kindness, but also can have a city government that retreats as a defense, and there will be a kind of realm of great things.
In a person's life, the wisdom does not lie in your arrogance and self-elevation; but in your weakness in dealing with people, because such strength is recognized by everyone, and it is a kind of strength that is lifted up by everyone.
Lifting oneself up will cause ridicule among others, and it is the true glory for others to lift themselves.
May you learn to show weakness, to resist the hard world with your soft heart, and to win more than enough in the end.
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