Oniguzi is a very mysterious figure in Chinese history, known as a strange person throughout the ages, good at maintaining his body, proficient in psychological speculation, deeply aware of the strength and softness of the situation, and familiar with the art of vertical and horizontal transformation. Later, many famous politicians were also influenced by him, such as Su Qin, Sun Zhen, Lü Buwei and others.
Mr. Oniguko has left many ways for future generations to avoid risks, better behave in the world, and avoid putting themselves in the "danger" of the cusp of the storm.
Oniguzi: "When good things are done, there will be disasters", these few good things should not be done, otherwise there will be disasters
Oniguzi: The good thing of "arranged marriage", don't do it, don't do it, don't be humiliated
As the saying goes, "a good marriage is a line of involvement" A good marriage, if there is a good person to accompany, naturally it is a good thing; but in a relationship, on the contrary, there must be a sense of proportion, "degree" is indispensable to everything, must not intervene from beginning to end, when, what place, what reason must be intervened.
In life, it can be found that some marriages arranged by parents have endless problems, and some marriages arranged by outsiders will also encounter various problems. For example, at the beginning of a marriage, the parents entrust the person to introduce the blind date, and in the rush of communication, and then accept the parents' warm tips, the two will inherit the father's intention to enter the married life.
Behind the seemingly happy and smooth marriage, there are actually hidden risks, and when the problem accumulates to a certain extent, it will inevitably lead to a crisis. Therefore, on the topic of marriage, parents can consider their children and entrust acquaintances to help, but do not take the excuse of taking care of children and force their children to get married.
If children are hurt in this "immature" marriage, then we are the culprits, causing family relationships to enter a state of tension. Care is a mess, proper care can become the lubricant of life, and excessive care can lead to "disasters". Therefore, as a person, we must understand that the good things of "marriage arrangement" should not be done too much, and once they are done, it is inevitable that there will be unexpected disasters.
Oniguzi: The good thing of "family affairs", don't do it, don't do it, do it, and harm people
Everyone says that "it is difficult to clean up officials", which is very reasonable. When there is a quarrel between neighbors, we should stand up and give appropriate counsel, which is okay. But we are all too concerned about each other's family affairs, often meddling in each other's housework, some even very enthusiastically for each other to arrange family affairs, and each other's family is too close, then, it is likely to bring some unexpected disasters to themselves. How can you say that? Because we are always too concerned about each other's family affairs, some people even take care of some of each other's family affairs, then the other party's family will have doubts about us, and some people will even suspect the unclear relationship between us and one of their family members. In this way, the two sides will inevitably have a great misunderstanding, and when the time comes, the misunderstanding will deepen, and even make a lot of trouble, and the result is that "good things become bad things." Therefore, as a person, we must understand that the good things of "family affairs" can never be completed, and once we do it, it is inevitable that people will be jealous and bring us unexpected disasters.
OniGuzi: The good thing that the living do", don't do it, do it, and suffer from disaster
In life, we will always be involved in work. When we are involved in our work, we must remember to do a good job and when other colleagues are in difficulty, we will also go to great lengths to help. But at the same time, remember one thing, that is, help others, not help to the end. Why? As colleagues, we can appropriately provide other colleagues with solutions to problems, and what to do is not to "help".
If one person gives too much to another person, it is actually a disguised harm, not only hurting others, but also hurting themselves. If the help is excessive, it will make the recipient have a dependent psychology, do not want to be close to everything, and when the help stops, not only will not express gratitude, but will be regarded as a "bad person".
For example, when a bad person suddenly gives away a grain of sugar on a certain day, people will think that the person is not so bad; and when a person suddenly does not give a grain of sugar on a certain day, people will think that the person has become bad. Good things can be done, but don't finish them.
Oniguchi: Ghost help to the end, don't do it all, do it all, bad luck
There are a few idlers around. This group of people likes to eat, drink and have fun every day, and even participate in illegal activities such as gambling. This kind of person, in the end, often lives a very unsatisfactory life, and some even have four walls, which makes people feel pitiful and hateful. As long as there are individuals who care, it is okay to give them a little material help appropriately. But if we feel that such people are very pitiful, we will redouble our concern for their lives, and even take their lives to the end, then such behavior will bring unexpected disasters to ourselves. For idlers, if we come to help them, they will see our help as a matter of course, and once we can't help one day, then idle people will hold grudges against us, and some will even take some measures to retaliate against us. Right around us, such a "story of Mr. Dongguo and the wolf" is also not uncommon, we must know how to avoid, so we must understand, "don't help idle people to the end", so as not to have unexpected disasters.
Of course, the above is only my half-understanding of "Ghost Valley"!
In this complex social system, we have to cultivate our ability to deal with the world, and what Oniguzi teaches us is to be strict with ourselves, cultivate ourselves, be lenient with others, and repay society is to do good!
Now there are many people who learn ghost valley, because ghost valley strategy is different from Zhuge Liang, his strategy can be applied to the study and life of our ordinary people, and learning life will go to a higher level!
After reading "Oniguzi", I found that there are many ways to deal with the world, and there are many techniques and strategies for accumulating good luck. Old Mr. Onigu has already made it clear!
If a person has not yet made a fortune by the age of 40, then it is time to read more "Ghost Valley".
In fact, it's not just middle-aged people. If young people had read this book earlier, they would have been more likely to learn the truth about society and understand the complexities of people's hearts, and they would have been more likely to succeed. Reading more about "Ghost Valley", in addition to understanding more about some unspoken rules of society, can also make it easier to do things.
At present, there are many entrepreneurs who study Ghost Valley, because the strategy of Ghost Valley is different from Zhuge Liang, Zhuge Liang is talking about governing the country and the world, while Mr. Ghost Valley is talking about the wisdom of the people, which is more suitable for us to study.
If it can be passed down and will be passed on forever, then there must be something worth learning about the philosophy of oniguchi. According to the records of his disciples' descendants, his strategies are gathered in the book "Oniguzi", which is all wisdom that can be used in our daily lives.
It is worth mentioning that "Ghost Valley" has gathered the ideological essence of zonghengjia, bingjia, Taoist, immortal, etc., not only for each article to have analysis and introduction, but also attached to the ancient and modern Chinese and foreign representative cases, covering management, shopping malls, workplaces, life and other fields, with wonderful stories to show the wisdom and strategy of ghost valley.
In fact, after watching "Ghost Valley", many people will be surprised to find that the usual communication skills and "unspoken rules" mentioned by Mr. "Ghost Valley" thousands of years ago have been very clear. If you reach middle age and are still confused and worried about your livelihood, then "Ghost Valley" is really a book you must read.
This set of books "Ghost Valley" has a total of 5 volumes, each of which is a wisdom book that is of great help to the workplace and life, it can be said that as long as you take out one of them, they are books that will benefit you for life.
After reading "Ghost Valley", I know that if you meet a pig, don't talk to him about ideals, because it only knows feed.
After reading the "Parchment Scroll", I know: When the heart is big, the matter is small. When the heart is wide, the annoyance is gone.
After reading "Wolf Road", I know that people who are not used to it, don't care, smile, is the best counterattack.
After reading Murphy's Law, I learned that everything is not as simple as it seems, and the more you are afraid of what will happen, the more you will happen.
After reading "The Weakness of Human Nature", I know that there are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.