A Ghost Valley Daoist asked: Ah Xin, what kind of person do you say is more reliable?
In the eyes of the world, the Zonghengjia seem to be the most unreliable, they are like some modern merchants, with mixed reputations. For example, Zhang Yi was first praised as a "big husband", and then he was relegated to "a dangerous person", that is, the enemy of the whole people. For example, Su Qin first had the scenery of "matching the seal of the six kingdoms", and then became the laughing stock of "the world laughs together".
It can be seen that people really like to talk about heroes based on success or failure. So, people who are keen to judge others, rely on hot information to think about it, and vent their emotions must be reliable?
In fact, I have no and no responsibility to excuse someone, and this article aims to decipher the psychological characteristics of a certain group. The recent news of "Hangzhou Ma Mou" has triggered a heated discussion among the group, and it is obvious that this Ma Mou is not a Pi Ma Mou. Even if the rumors have been debunked, there are still many people who insist on believing that it is the man who was once called "Daddy". Curiously, why do so many people stand on the moral high ground expecting, longing, and even hoping that something will happen to him and will not be able to end well? What is the vendetta?
In fact, the behavioral characteristics of this group just confirm one of the views of "The Ragged Crowd": a person's desire for prestige is based on success, which is the root cause of people's admiration. However, as the saying goes, "flowers are not red for a hundred days, people are not good for a hundred days", no one will always have a bright and beautiful scenery, and just as Oniguzi said, "the world is impermanent and expensive", there is no eternal honor in this world, the only constant is that it has been changing. In layman's terms, everyone has a shelf life.
The light of every successful person will surely fade. The reality is that once an individual loses due to some accident, the halo that shines overhead will immediately fade. At this time, the group no longer admires and worships the heroes who have lost, and the emotions instantly shift from one extreme to the other. They will retaliate for having loved the person before and show contempt. Therefore, it is easy to find that those who once sought him and those who now hate him are actually the same group of people.
This is what Ah Xin said before not to love someone intensely, you may not love that person, but the glorious image of that person. Once the glory is shattered, you will feel cheated and then love will give rise to hate. It can be said that the love is deep, and the hatred is cut.
So, what should we do? As we all know, Ashin is a folk craftsman who studies oniguzi, and oniguzi once said such a sentence: The person who looks is not beautiful, and he is not evil, so he is very affectionate.
A person will not easily praise and pursue someone, nor will he easily dislike and belittle someone, and will not easily lose control of his emotions and be moody, such a person is the most reliable.
Yes, a truly mature person is not emotionally love-hate, but rational emotional stability!