Text/Harry Chen
Lao Tzu once said:
"It is better to hold on to it than to do it; It cannot be preserved for a long time. The hall is full of gold and jade, and Mo Zhi can keep it; Rich and arrogant, self-defeating. ”
To be a person and do things, we must pay attention to the degree.
If it is too full, it will overflow, and if it is too profitable, it will be a loss.
Only by knowing half-hidden wisdom can you keep your life uphill.
01. Temper should be hidden, and temper should be exposed
Tantrums are instinctive, and controlling temper is a person's cultivation.
If we don't control our temper well, we will become emotional slaves, with unpredictable consequences.
Netizen Little Pea shared his experience of losing his temper in public.
One Sunday night, he went for a haircut. At that time, there were many customers in the store, and there was a long waiting time.
A waiter in the store asked him what service he needed, and he replied, "I'm going to wash and shear." ”
The waiter politely told him to be patient and left.
After a while, another waiter came, probably seeing that Little Pea was a little impatient, so he chatted with him to relieve his boredom, but still told him that he had to wait a little longer.
After a long time, before it was Little Pea's turn, his patience had been worn out and he was on the verge of anger.
At this time, the third waiter came over and asked about his service needs again, and the little pea said angrily: "I have said it many times!" I'm here to cut my hair, and you always come and ask, make me wait so long, but don't arrange it for me. ”
The waitress said with a smile: "I'm sorry to keep you waiting, now there is a vacant seat, I'll take you over to wash your hair first." ”
The waitress's answer made him very stunned, it turned out that she kindly came to inform him to wash his hair.
In the process of serving him, the waitress apologized while washing her hair, and also kept chatting with him to try to ease his dissatisfaction.
This made Little Pea feel very ashamed of his behavior, and he thought that he should not vent his dissatisfaction on innocent people at will, and lamented in the text:
"My dissatisfaction is due to my long waiting time, and also because of my anxious attitude. But I vented my anger on a waiter who kindly told me to wash my hair. ”
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"Everything is not going well, because there is also temper. There is a temper, suffering others, and suffering yourself. ”
Venting your temper on innocent people not only destroys your own mood, but also hurts the feelings of others.
In the face of unsatisfactory things, stupid people are accustomed to expressing their dissatisfaction or grievances in an angry way.
But smart people know how to laugh it off, because they know that anger not only can't solve anything, but also pushes those around them further because of negative energy.
For the rest of your life, please stop your temper and leave a peaceful temper to retain your blessings more.
02. Hide your sorrow and smile
When happy, a smile is a mood; When sad, a smile is an attitude.
A child living in a poor rural area needs to pay a school selection fee of 8,000 yuan because of a difference of 1 point in the college entrance examination.
To make matters worse for the family, the pillar of the family, his father, was forced to lay off at this time, but the father did not have any sadness and told the family the news with a smile.
In order to make up for the school fees, my father went out every day to find a job, but my father, who was old and did not have any skills, repeatedly ran into a wall. Every time my mother asked about it, my father smiled and said, "Almost." ”
One day, my father came home and cheerfully said to his family, "I'll go to work tomorrow!" His laughter lifted everyone's spirits.
In fact, my father's job is just to pedal a tricycle every day to transport goods, which is very hard, but he never thinks it is bitter.
Once, he was accidentally injured and came home, his mother asked him, but his father laughed and said: "It's okay, it's okay..."
In this way, the father finally collected the child's tuition by pedaling a tricycle every day.
The father's optimistic and never-say-give spirit has always inspired the child, and finally the child was admitted to a prestigious university with his own efforts.
In the darkest moments of his life, his father hid his sorrows and left his smile for his family and life, and the smile eventually turned into a flame that illuminated the family in the dark.
Life is like a mirror, and how you face it, it faces you.
The more negative you are about the unsatisfactory situation in life, the more sad you will feel, you may wish to change the way and face the sadness with a smile.
The dilemma is not terrible, what is terrible is to sink in the predicament and feel self-pity.
Mentality can solve 80% of life's problems.
Whenever you want, be optimistic, and maybe the next second, it's bright.
03. The rich should be hidden, and the poor should be exposed
The Tao Te Ching has clouds:
"Rich and proud, self-deprecating."
Wealth to the level of arrogance is to plant a bane for yourself.
People who lack money will blush you, and people who hate the rich are jealous of you.
If you show off your wealth everywhere, it's easy to bring bad luck to yourself.
During the Ming Dynasty, there was a rich merchant named Shen Wansan.
In order to show off and show off his wealth, Shen Wansan acted high-profile, often spending a lot of money to entertain dignitaries, and even paid to help Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang build city walls.
Once, Zhu Yuanzhang asked him: "Can your money afford to support my million-dollar army?" ”
Shen Wansan replied proudly, "I will give one or two silver per person is enough." ”
The implication is that this little money is nothing, and you can take out one million taels of gold to give Zhu Yuanzhang as a military salary.
The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention.
Zhu Yuanzhang was born as a beggar, and Shen Wansan's words made him feel like he was being given alms; Coupled with Zhu Yuanzhang's suspicions, he feared that Shen Wansan's wealth would threaten his regime.
Therefore, Zhu Yuanzhang used a scheme to make Shen Wansan's family fall and eventually bankrupt.
In the twenty-sixth year of Hongwu, the Shen family was raided after being implicated by Lan Yu, and Shen Wansan's children and grandchildren were charged to Yunnan.
Feng Jicai said:
"To be low-key is to live in your own world, and to be high-profile is to live in someone else's world."
Stupid people, who always show their wealth everywhere and live a high-profile and luxurious life, for fear that others will not know that they have money, such people are easy to recruit and calculate.
And smart people, who do not show off their wealth everywhere, but live a low-key and simple life in front of people, so that they can live a stable life.
Only by not revealing your wealth can you make your life smoother.
04. Mei Niang said
Ji Xianlin said:
"Everyone strives for a full life. However, from ancient times to the present, at home and abroad, there is no such thing as a 100% complete life. That's why I say, it's life that isn't perfect. ”
Yes, so, the best way to live in life: half in hiding, half in dew.
Hide your temper, show your harmony, and live comfortably;
Hide your sadness, show a smile, and life can be comfortable;
Hide the rich, expose the poor, and live a stable life.
Life doesn't have to be too complete, half-hidden, and endless.
May you and I have an imperfect, but fulfilling life.
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