Ghost Valley Zi, formerly known as Wang Xue, is one of the most famous people in the Spring and Autumn Warring States Period, is the founding ancestor of the divination and fortune telling industry, the biggest characteristics of Ghost Valley Zi is: through the heavens, brilliant, ordinary people can not reach.
The family is a person's foothold and a person's base. Good home, good people. As the saying goes: "The golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own grass nests" People are always so attached to home.
Oniguzi was a prominent figure in the Warring States period, and everyone called him a saint. Although Oniguzi lived more than 2,000 years ago, the precious wisdom he left behind has been passed down to this day. Oniguzi: The decay of a family actually has its signs. If these 5 things happen, you must be vigilant
1. Husband and wife are not compatible
As the saying goes, husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken. Couples can work together, and no matter how difficult the family, it can be as good as possible. If the husband and wife are not compatible, even the best family may gradually decline. A family, if the husband and wife are not compatible, must be vigilant.
The three main culprits of marital discord:
First, emotional infidelity. The most important thing between husband and wife is fidelity. Either party messing around with a man-woman relationship outside will create an emotional crisis.
Second, everything is non-negotiable. Although many families have the habit of "male outside and female inside", many important things still need to be discussed with each other. If everything is not negotiable, it will inevitably cause a lot of dissatisfaction, resulting in estrangement.
Third, there is no tolerance for each other. Two people get along day and night, and it is inevitable that they will bump into each other. It is very sad to have no tolerance for each other. As soon as something happens, it makes a big fuss, how to have a family and angry?
The marital discord is very harmful to the family. If you have been making up with each other, it is also a bit of a home-like feeling. If you divorce, you will face the disintegration of the family, the struggle for children, property disputes, etc., endlessly.
2. The Father is not merciful to the Son and not filial
In ancient Chinese culture, fatherly kindness and filial piety were often spoken together. Without the love of parents, the filial piety of children is often a castle in the air. Bacon said: "In a happy family, the parents are ruled by love, and the children are obedient to the adults out of love for their parents." ”
If parents do not have a loving heart, they will resent their children. In reality, some parents know that they are capable and do not help their children in need. For example: help with childcare.
Although parents raise their children to "complete the task", they are not obliged to help their children. However, after all, home is not only a place to be reasonable, but also to talk about love. Loving parents can always give selfless help to their children within the scope of their ability. In this way, the child will also be grateful.
If the child does not have a filial piety, it will make the parents cold. Han Xinru painstakingly raised the child, but he did not expect it to be a white-eyed wolf. The feeling is very bad. If children are not filial, it is difficult to believe that their parents will be kind.
The love of parents and the filial piety of their children are mutually reinforcing, and any unilateral demand is a hooligan. If a family father is not merciful to the son and filial piety, it is not far from decay, and we must be vigilant.
3. Children losers
Poor parents in the world, diligent and earnest only for the family, do not seek their own happiness, only wish their children less hardships. The parents' wishes are good and have all been done to some extent. However, some children have suffered too little, but they have lost the fighting spirit of life and even gone astray.
No matter how thick your family is, as long as your children lose, it is difficult to bear. As the English poet Byron said, "No matter how rich the ancestors are, a loser is enough to damage the lintel." "The reality is.
Three common manifestations of children's losers: First, eat well and be lazy, and squander and waste. Even if you have a golden mountain and a silver mountain, you can't resist "sitting and eating the mountain and the sky". Second, the ability is too poor to inherit the family business. Some entrepreneurs do well when they run their own businesses, but when they pass it on to their children, they gradually fail. Third, we should not do our right work and crooked our ways. Some rich children go astray and become addicted to various vices (such as gambling), which quickly destroys the family property.
Parents will always be old, and sooner or later the family business will be handed over to the next generation. If the children lose, they are really helpless. Therefore, parents should not neglect their children's education in order to do business. Children are not well educated, no matter how big the family business he can help you lose, in the end it is still a void, we must be vigilant.
Fourth, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is continuous
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most common contradiction in the family, and almost every family has it. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, who have never gotten along in the past, suddenly break into each other's lives, but also need to run into each other, some bumps and bumps, which is also a normal thing.
However, if some small frictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not coordinated in time and repeatedly staged, they will cause great harm to family life. Especially for men who are the dual identities of "husband" and "son", it is a great trouble.
The reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are nothing more than the following: First, the living habits are different, and they are not accustomed to each other. The daughter-in-law is too conservative in the eyes of the mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is too avant-garde in the eyes of the mother-in-law; second, the requirements for each other are too high. The daughter-in-law always feels that the mother-in-law takes care of everything, and the mother-in-law always thinks that the daughter-in-law does not get Third, the mother sometimes feels that the son has married the daughter-in-law and forgotten the mother, and she has a confrontational mood.
The run-in of the above problems really takes time, not a day or two, and the process requires mutual tolerance and understanding. In fact, the best way to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law as her own daughter, and the daughter-in-law treats the mother-in-law as her own mother. If the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is irreconcilable, the family will weaken, and the family will also face decay.
Fifth, brothers turn against each other
The old saying goes: "Fight the tiger brothers." "Brothers, it is a very important relationship within a family. But in any influential family, brothers and sisters are very harmonious. For example: the Zeng Guofan family.
It can be seen from the "Letter of Zeng Guofan's Family" that Zeng Guofan, as the core figure of the Zeng family brothers, has always maintained a very good relationship with Zeng Guoquan and other brothers. This is also one of the reasons why the Zeng family has flourished.
If the brothers in the family turn against each other, it will inevitably lead to the defeat of the family. As Lincoln said, "If your relatives do not live in harmony, you will lose." "The antagonism between brothers is mostly due to conflicts of interest. For example: competition for family property. Especially in the giants, cases of competition for family property are not uncommon, which makes people sigh.
Once the brothers turn against each other, the family cannot form a joint force, the competitiveness of the family is weakened, and it will decay in time. Most of those families with brothers and anti-purposes will also become the talk of the seven aunts and eight aunts, and become the laughing stock of the five villages and eighteen miles.
Therefore, a family must prevent brothers from losing sight and turning against each other. If there is any hint in this regard, we must try to communicate and coordinate, and do not let the situation expand, so as not to cause the family to fall.
Of course, the above is only my half-understanding of "Ghost Valley"!
In this complex social system, we have to cultivate our ability to deal with the world, and what Oniguzi teaches us is to be strict with ourselves, cultivate ourselves, be lenient with others, and repay society is to do good!
Now there are many people who learn ghost valley, because ghost valley strategy is different from Zhuge Liang, his strategy can be applied to the study and life of our ordinary people, and learning life will go to a higher level!
After reading "Oniguzi", I found that there are many ways to deal with the world, and there are many techniques and strategies for accumulating good luck. Old Mr. Onigu has already made it clear!
If a person has not yet made a fortune by the age of 40, then it is time to read more "Ghost Valley".
In fact, it's not just middle-aged people. If young people had read this book earlier, they would have been more likely to learn the truth about society and understand the complexities of people's hearts, and they would have been more likely to succeed. Reading more about "Ghost Valley", in addition to understanding more about some unspoken rules of society, can also make it easier to do things.
At present, there are many entrepreneurs who study Ghost Valley, because the strategy of Ghost Valley is different from Zhuge Liang, Zhuge Liang is talking about governing the country and the world, while Mr. Ghost Valley is talking about the wisdom of the people, which is more suitable for us to study.
If it can be passed down and will be passed on forever, then there must be something worth learning about the philosophy of oniguchi. According to the records of his disciples' descendants, his strategies are gathered in the book "Oniguzi", which is all wisdom that can be used in our daily lives.
It is worth mentioning that "Ghost Valley" has gathered the ideological essence of zonghengjia, bingjia, Taoist, immortal, etc., not only for each article to have analysis and introduction, but also attached to the ancient and modern Chinese and foreign representative cases, covering management, shopping malls, workplaces, life and other fields, with wonderful stories to show the wisdom and strategy of ghost valley.
In fact, after watching "Ghost Valley", many people will be surprised to find that the usual communication skills and "unspoken rules" mentioned by Mr. "Ghost Valley" thousands of years ago have been very clear. If you reach middle age and are still confused and worried about your livelihood, then "Ghost Valley" is really a book you must read.
This set of books "Ghost Valley" has a total of 5 volumes, each of which is a wisdom book that is of great help to the workplace and life, it can be said that as long as you take out one of them, they are books that will benefit you for life.
After reading "Ghost Valley", I know that if you meet a pig, don't talk to him about ideals, because it only knows feed.
After reading the "Parchment Scroll", I know: When the heart is big, the matter is small. When the heart is wide, the annoyance is gone.
After reading "Wolf Road", I know that people who are not used to it, don't care, smile, is the best counterattack.
After reading Murphy's Law, I learned that everything is not as simple as it seems, and the more you are afraid of what will happen, the more you will happen.
After reading "The Weakness of Human Nature", I know that there are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.
Benefit you for life and improve your wisdom. Why not?