01
There is a poetry cloud: "People are not good for a thousand days, and flowers are not red for a hundred days." ”
A person cannot always be at ease. A flower cannot always be bright and moving. No matter how good people are, there will be a lost day, and no matter how bright the flowers, there will be a moment of withering.
Go uphill, that's normal. Going downhill, that's the norm. In the process of going uphill or downhill, how to adjust our mentality and how to plan for the future are the tests of life for us.
The test has passed, and it has made a comeback on the tortuous road of life. And the test is not cleared, and everything ends here.
For this tortuous life, we need to think of four words - ups and downs.
What is "ups and downs"? That is, the moment you go up, you're not far from coming down. The moment you reach the bottom of the valley, you're especially close to the uphill road.
The greatest sorrow in life is not the current disappointment and the confusion of the future, but that we lack the hope we should have.
Especially in today's complex and not very good industry environment, we must not only plan our own lives, but also plan and then move, and must not sit still.
When you are down to the extreme and you can't see hope, take these few steps, and maybe we will get out of trouble.
02
When you are down, learn to "cultivate yourself".
I have a friend who failed to invest in his thirties and lost his first bucket of gold of 600,000 yuan. In his words, the money earned in eight years of struggle has directly become a void.
After this setback, his mentality was directly depressed, and he kept locking himself in the room, not only his wife was particularly worried, but even his parents could not cry.
Later, he figured it out, practiced brushes every day, wrote big characters, insisted on running, and insisted on learning. Soon, his life was on the right track. Today, he has opened his own studio, making a comeback, and shame on the snow.
Success or failure, no one can say for sure. If you succeed, you may fail later. And if you fail, it is possible that you will succeed later. All of this depends on your "mentality".
The key to cultivating a good mentality is to cultivate one's own personality and constantly work the things that interest you. Perhaps, people with a good mentality will not have too bad luck in the second half of their lives.
03
When you fall, have the wisdom of "the boat to the bridge is naturally straight".
As the saying goes: "There must be a road before the car reaches the mountain, and the boat is naturally straight to the bridge." ”
The road ahead is still wide, but because we have lost hope, we automatically cut off the Kangzhuang Avenue. Perhaps, let us go with the flow, there may be a way to make a living.
In ancient times, there was a scholar who went to Beijing to take the exam. However, the students were particularly negative, always feeling that they could not pass the examination, and even fell behind sun shan, and their efforts over the years were in vain.
His sorrow caught the attention of an old man. The old man said to him, "In this river, do you think I can catch a big fish?" ”
Shusheng shook his head negatively and said, "Old man, I see that this river is so narrow, how can there be fish?" Don't try anymore, it's impossible to succeed. ”
However, the old man still tried it and caught a big fish. Subsequently, the old man said a sentence: "Calm down and let nature take its course." ”
The student immediately looked at it, and went to the exam with a natural mentality, and the result was the title of the gold list, and the heavenly reward was diligent.
To be a person, you need to prepare for the worst, but you can't have the worst mentality. Live naturally, don't think too much, I believe that many problems in the future will be solved.
04
When you are down, have the courage to "put it to death and live again".
What does a person have to do to let himself in a desperate situation find a way to live? There is a saying in the art of war: throw yourself into the land of death and then survive, and put the place of death and live later.
The moment a person is cornered, he will explode with unparalleled power. And this process of explosive power will make people's potential be stimulated in an instant.
Han Xin of the Han Dynasty knew that his troops were insufficient, but he still chose to let the army close to the river to form a formation to fight against the Zhao army. What the enemy general did not expect was that Han Xin's army actually fought to the death, with one enemy and ten enemies, and also surprised the old nest of the Zhao army and won the final victory.
This is what we often call "a battle against the water".
In the face of a life that has fallen to the extreme, we must also have the courage to fight a battle. Be convinced that your backwater battle is to stimulate the potential in your mind and will benefit you for the rest of your life.
05
When you are down, have the wisdom of "great wisdom as foolishness".
In Journey to the West, the sand monk was originally the curtain general of the Heavenly Court, but because of his mistake, he was relegated to the Quicksand River and became a river demon.
There was no way, forced by helplessness, no background and no outstanding ability of the sand monk, can only participate in the team of the Western Heavens to learn the scriptures, and become the role of "playing soy sauce".
Faced with such an unfortunate situation, Sha Monk had only one idea, that is, to stick to this team and not be kicked out of the team. Therefore, he became someone else's deputy, never competing for credit, but doing things silently.
In the end, the sand monk who could be a man cultivated the right results and also realized the salted fish turning over.
Once people fall, they will lose their measure and will not know the east, west, south, and north. In fact, this is not the correct behavior. Only when you are wise and foolish at the crucial time, act foolishly, and develop yourself silently, will you get closer and closer to success.
Be convinced that being at the bottom of the valley is not a curse, but the beginning of a gradual return to the uphill.
Wen/Shushan has deer