The world says that the best stage between men and women is actually the time for ambiguity.
Not a couple, so when getting along, they will deliberately maintain a sense of proportion and distance;
Not an ordinary friend, so when getting along, there is a little more seeming intimacy.
Between this ambiguity, it is the most itchy, so there is more sweetness and beauty.
However, if ambiguity is based on the mutual pleasure of two feelings, it will be a good emotional motivation.
But if it is only one person's wishful thinking, then the other person just enjoys the ambiguity of the ambiguous period, but never considers whether the two people are likely to go down together.
So, sometimes, ambiguity is not so good, it is likely to make two people can not even be friends, which is not a loss?
We are in the adult world, we should know what to do and what not to do, rather than understand the stakes and pretend to be confused.
Psychological research has shown that men and women borrowing these three things from each other are actually ambiguous, and there is no need to hide them.
Men and women borrow each other's time and occupy each other's space
The boyfriend of Jiang Nansun in the TV series "Flowing Golden Years" is a confused person, under the premise of having a girlfriend, he also has to be ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex, and he is also known as just a friend.
The two men kept in touch on their phones almost every day, and Jiang Nansun was angry and reprimanded for making a fuss.
But in fact, her boyfriend is an irresponsible person, he feels that there is nothing to chat between friends, but in fact, there is nothing to chat between friends occasionally, but often chat becomes ambiguous.
In the relationship between the sexes, we often say that time will dilute many things, but also forget, and time will also deepen many things in the subtle.
The genius French writer Sully Prudhomm once wrote: "There is a reliable standard for love, and that is the time that people give".
If it is two lovers, it is not impossible to pay time, but if there is no name for lovers, then it is not appropriate to borrow each other's time.
Men and women borrow each other's emotions and occupy each other's lives
All feelings begin with sharing as the basis of the fall.
Maybe we will feel that it is nothing to share with each other that is funny, but the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, and we look at it from the perspective of an outsider, and we will feel that such behavior is really inappropriate to put on friends of the opposite sex.
He Jiong once said: "Do you know what is most important in a relationship? Not appearance, not bread, not even loyalty or not, but sharing. ”
Emotions can be used as a bridge between each other's hearts, and in the subtle, we don't feel that our feelings have deteriorated, but such worries will eventually occur.
There are many differences between men and women, including physical, psychological, personality, and way of thinking, which make a world of difference between men and women.
It is precisely because there are some differences, so that men and women will have heterosexual attraction, which will make two people more likely to have a spark of love.
Men and women borrow each other's emotional values and occupy each other's hearts
Sometimes, deciding what kind of state a relationship will eventually become is the emotional value that each other can provide to each other.
The so-called emotional value, that is, when we get with a person, the sense of experience we receive is positive or negative.
For example, in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", Guo Junwang and Zhen Huan are particularly happy every time they get along, and this happiness is a positive emotional value they provide to each other.
Positive emotional values are good things, but Guo Junwang and Zhen Huan are friends, and Zhen Huan is still the emperor's concubine, and it is inappropriate for them to provide such emotional values.
Thackeray once said in Vanity Fair: "In a lifetime, there are always some pieces that look insignificant at the time, but in fact affect the big picture." ”
We always think that there is nothing to get along between men and women, as long as they pay attention to the point, in fact, they slowly lose their measure and leave the original intention.
From the original intention of ordinary friends to the selfish heart of wanting to go on for a lifetime, such emotions are placed on two unsuitable people, which will only be a disaster rather than fate.
No matter what kind of relationship we are in, the degree to which we can make people comfortable will ultimately determine what kind of height we can reach in this relationship.
Sometimes, we feel how difficult it is to handle this relationship;
Sometimes, we feel like we can't tell if we're getting closer or farther away from each other, and then we don't make it very pleasant for both of us.
In fact, the occurrence of this situation also shows that when we deal with feelings, the psychological boundaries in our hearts are not clear enough.
Friends are friends, lovers are lovers, don't be ambiguous, sometimes, sobriety and sanity can help us avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles.