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In the eyes of men, like and love are not the same, like is only a temporary sense of goodwill and freshness, as the understanding of each other continues to deepen, this freshness will slowly fade, until it completely disappears.
At this time, the girl will fall into confusion, why is he so enthusiastic at the beginning, but suddenly become cold? The answer is simple, it's just that he has no interest in you.
If it's just like, why exaggerate it into love?
But love is not the same, if a man really loves you, he must be ready to spend the rest of his life with you, even if he knows that you will have many obstacles, he will still be more and more frustrated, slowly cross the past, and in the process of being willing.
With this determination, you can clearly feel that his efforts to stay with you for a long time are the source of your sense of security and the evidence that he loves you to the extreme.
As Mo Yan said in "In life, there will always be an auspicious cloud for you":
"Extreme liking is more like a self and another self, reunited in the afterlife in time." Willing to bloom for the other party without reason, willing to be hopelessly devoted to the other party, this is the ultimate like. ”
From this passage, we can see what specific manifestations a man will have when he loves a person to the extreme. In general, it can be summarized into two points, even if it is one, it also shows that he has moved his true feelings.
One: Can't help but become a better person for the sake of the other party
A man who has moved his true feelings for a certain person of the opposite sex, no matter what kind of personality and temper he has in the past, will change to varying degrees after he is moved. He will consciously restrain himself and can't help but become a better person for the sake of the other party.
In life, we often see a lot of such men.
They were originally grumpy, obedient, and lived in the world, etc., just with their own hearts, and did not care much about the consequences. But from the moment he fell in love with a person, he had a sense of responsibility, and he did not dare to be so impulsive, afraid of the disappointment of the person he loved, and even more afraid of not being able to give her a stable future.
Brian in the movie "Fast and Furious" used to be impulsive and reckless, but one day, his girlfriend Mia told him that she was pregnant.
At that moment he froze, he canceled the original plan, no longer murderous, no longer doing some dangerous things, but thinking of a stable life, to give Mia and the child more protection.
This is what a man loves a woman to the extreme, he will willingly change himself for the sake of the other party, no matter how impulsive and unbearable he has been in the past, but if he is emotional, he will produce responsibility.
In life, if you're not sure if a person has real feelings for you, see if he's willing to be better for you. People who truly love you will restrain their behavior, will make themselves more self-motivated, will care about your feelings, and will give you the future you want, while people who do not love you will not have these actions at all.
Two: Can't help but invest and pay, and don't ask for anything in return
A man who loves you to the extreme, in addition to willingly changing for you, has another obvious characteristic of giving and investing at any cost and without asking for a return. In front of you, he will not have any selfishness, and he will not think about calculations, so he will not count gains and losses only because he loves deeply enough.
And those men who are just playing with you, even if they have a meal, will feel sorry for his money, and even think about AA with you. Not only that, but he will also be calculating in many things.
For example, how much he has paid in this relationship and how much he has received in return; for example, how much he spent on buying you a gift, and how much money you spent on your gift.
The reason for this is that the love is not deep enough.
Jiang Nansun's ex-boyfriend in the TV series "Flowing Golden Years" is a typical example. He is a veritable phoenix man, and he is with Jiang Nansun, not because he loves her at all, but because he has taken a fancy to her generous family conditions.
For him, being with Jiang Nansun is nothing more than a shortcut, you can make yourself struggle for many years less, and you can easily achieve a class leap, after all, her family is too rich.
However, he could not calculate it, and Jiang Nansun's family went bankrupt, and his dream was also broken.
In order to keep himself un implicated, he immediately drew a clear line with Jiang Nansun, and it was not until that moment that Jiang Nansun understood how selfish he was and how hypocritical he was about his feelings.
A man who doesn't love you is so calculating that he just wants to take advantage of you and won't let himself suffer a little loss. On the one hand, it is because of his character itself, and on the other hand, it is because he is not really interested in you.
Men who love you to the extreme will become better people for you, and will invest and pay at any cost, while men who do not love you are just the opposite. Only by seeing each other's people clearly and then loving can we protect ourselves from harm.
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