Child, is a particularly gentle existence. They can melt the hard hearts of adults. They can soothe the pain in the hearts of adults. But it is a pity that not every child grows up with the company of his parents.
Children can maintain the feelings between their parents, and they can also become a bargaining chip for emotionally fractured parents to negotiate a deal. In the moment of contention, the love of both parents for their children is vividly displayed. There is possessiveness, there is the desire to win or lose, there is the desire to love... But those emotions dissipate as the negotiations settle.
Parents are separated, and when both parents start a new life, the child becomes an awkward presence. They have torn their faces and argued for the sake of their children, but when the child's ownership is confirmed, they cannot properly fulfill their parenting responsibilities. The interruption of the marital relationship has caused the parent-child relationship to have corresponding problems. Parents need to start a new life, the children left behind by the previous marriage have become the shackles of their new life, in order to get a better life, they choose to give up the hard-won children.
In Yi Shu's novel "Flowing Golden Years", Zhu Suosuo and Xie Hongzu, they had a sweet time. The two have a daughter, EmmaChin. When the relationship breaks down, they begin to fight for custody of the child, and both sides show deep affection for the child, which is inevitable.
Zhu Suosuo hid the child and did not let Xie Hongzu see the child, Xie Hongzu had no way to find Jiang Nansun, he told Jiang Nansun
"At least give my daughter back to me." Speaking of Emma Chin, Nansun also tensed up, "No, she only has this child." "I only have this child."
The two people who said they wanted children and only children took a one-hundred-and-eighty-degree turn in their attitude towards children after negotiating all the conditions.
The only result of the negotiation between the two people is that the child belongs to Zhu Suosuo, and Xie Hongzu can come to see Emma Qin every week. But Zhu Suosuo was not worried at all, she knew that Xie Hongzu had no conscience, and in three months, he might not be willing to come if he asked him to come.
As Zhu Suosuo expected, Xie Hongzu gradually disappeared into Emmaqin's life, and Zhu Suosuo's hard-won custody, she was unable to raise Emmaqin.
After leaving Xie Hongzu, her economic income began to shrink, making it difficult to bear the lives of two people. She doesn't have any survival skills that she can survive. She would only circle between men of all colors. Such a living environment doomed her not to bring Emmachin a good life.
Zhu Suosuo temporarily entrusted her daughter to Jiang Nansun to raise, and she went to seek a way to make money herself. It's just that she didn't expect that the temporary entrustment would become an unknown time to get her daughter back.
Because Wang Yongzheng's cousin fell in love with Zhu Suosuo and frantically pursued Zhu Suosuo. After thinking about it, Zhu Suosuo felt that this was a good choice, at least the best choice for her at present, and she planned to marry Wang Yongzheng's cousin and move abroad with the man when the time came.
The two people knew each other for 4 months and decided to get married, and Zhu Suosuo did not dare to tell the man that she had a child, because their feelings were not deep. Telling him means revealing past experiences that the other person may not necessarily accept.
Zhu Suosuo can't afford to gamble, she needs to set up a new image to appear in front of her new boyfriend, and she needs to seize this opportunity to change her life.
In the face of the temptation of a beautiful new life, Zhu Suosuo chose to give up her daughter, even if she promised Jiang Nansun that she would come to pick her up in two years. But years later, who can predict life, Zhu Suosuo made a promise that he did not know whether he could keep. If it is difficult to speak now, there may not be a suitable time in two years. In a not-so-secure marriage, Zhu Suosuo stepped in alone, and she did not dare to take her daughter to gamble together. Leaving her daughter to Jiang Nansun is the best choice in her opinion.
The young Zhu Suosuo most expected to live with her father, have a room of her own, and have a sense of security and belonging.
When he grew up, Zhu Suosuo took the same old road as his father, giving up his children for life and handing them over to others to raise.
The only difference between Zhu Suosuo and his father is that she gave her daughter to Jiang Nansun, who is worthy of trust, and Jiang Nansun is deeply in love with Emma Qin. Those confusions and uneasiness that Zhu Suosuo experienced when he was young, Jiang Nansun would not let Emma Qin experience. At the same time, Jiang Nansun's economic ability is good enough that she can give Emmaqin a good life, and she fully accepts Emakin and loves Emmaqin. And unlike Zhu Suosuo's aunt, Zhu Suosuo's aunt regarded Zhu Suosuo as a burden.
There is helplessness everywhere in life, and adults give up their children for various reasons. They say they want to give their children a better life, so they need a short separation, but for children, a good life is to have a parent and grow up in a loving atmosphere.
Parents who have not given up taking care of their children in difficult times are admirable. As a parent, do not seek to do well, to give children a life of fine clothing. But at least better than your own parents. Let the child be saved from the suffering he has suffered. Instead of knowing that it is painful to retrace the path they have taken, but watching the child go.
Perhaps for EmmaChin, it is her luck to leave Zhu Suosuo and live with Jiang Nansun since she was a child. At least in her consciousness, Jiang Nansun was her mother, the person who grew up with her. She didn't have to live a trembling life like Zhu Suosuo when she was a child. She can enjoy the maternal love from Jiang Nansun and can be spoiled without scruples.
And Zhu Suosuo's complete departure from Emmachin's life is not a compensation for Emmachin, so that she has a mother who will never abandon her in her unfortunate family life. This mom gave her a new way of life, gave her a dad, a sound family. They can fully enjoy loving and being loved without fear of loss.