There is an old saying that goes, "If you are not afraid of entering the wrong line, you are afraid of marrying the wrong man."
For girls, marriage is an extremely important turning point in their lives. Marrying someone is the second reincarnation of a girl, but whether the reincarnation is good or not depends on who meets.
Just as God throws the two halves of an apple to the sides of the earth, good luck will meet the perfect other half. But if you meet a scumbag, don't blame luck, you just have a pair of fire eyes that see through the scumbag.
Scumbag, a magical creature that exists in daily life but is not so easy to find. Some people may go around and never get out of their trap.
Someone said: "The characteristics of scumbags are not active, not responsible, not committed, not rejected." ”
But the scumbag race is powerful and varied, and it is not something that can be summed up in this simple 12 words. There are also the following three kinds of scumbags, no matter how handsome they are, the girls must let him roll as far as he can after they meet.
01
Stay away from the "ma bao man" who is not responsible
In the genus of scumbags, in fact, the hiding of ma bao men is very high, mainly because they do not have much lethality when they live alone. But if they get into an intimate relationship, their flaws are fully exposed.
Ma Bao Man belongs to the kind of wonderful creatures that are adults but not entirely human.
Xie Hongzu in the TV series "Flowing Golden Years" is a vivid image of Ma Baonan. His love for Zhu Suosuo is also real. In order to give Suo a home, he desperately bought a house with her, despite all difficulties and married, and anyone felt that they had to believe in love.
Later, Xie Hongzu's mother appeared, and Xie Hongzu couldn't him at all.
On the second day of marriage, Xie Jiayin made a phone call, xie Hongzu left the pregnant lock alone, and obediently went to accompany his mother to the hospital with Zhao Marlin.
Although Xie Hongzu also resisted, after some struggles, he still found that he was nothing without his mother Xie Jiayin. When the Xie family encountered a business crisis, he could only obediently work with Zhao Marlin according to Xie Jiayin's arrangement.
In the end, Zhu Suosuo could only bear a huge debt and divorce with his children.
In marriage, Ma BaoNan is always so irresponsible, and all the power of life and death is in the hands of his mother. This is also why, Zhu Suosuo and Xie Hongzu, who could be sweet and happy at first, eventually parted ways with the intervention of Xie Hongzu's mother.
Married to Ma Baonan, life is like being poisoned with honey.
From the beginning of the sweet honey, to the later toxicity began to spread in all corners of life, and finally the entire marriage will be destroyed. It is all because the mothers and men lack responsibility and cannot bear the responsibility in marriage.
Wu Jing said: "The benchmark for weighing men cannot be considered from appearance, but should be measured from the man's temperament and his sense of responsibility, and the courage to take responsibility." ”
Responsibility is the emotional guarantee for men to make women feel secure, and what Ma Bao men lack most is responsibility.
02
Stay away from possessive "extreme men"
Extreme males should be the most confusing of the scumbag genus.
Beneath their seemingly passionate love was a temporarily dormant volcano, not knowing when it would erupt deadly lava.
They can always express their abnormal desire for control and possessiveness as their deepest love for girls.
In the hit drama "Xiao Min's Family", Liu Xiaojie, who planned not to fall in love after the first divorce, accidentally met Xu Zheng on the court, and was moved by Xu Zheng's fiery enthusiasm and entered the second marriage.
After getting married, Xu Zheng gradually exposed a strong possessiveness, which was mistaken by Xiao Jie as a manifestation of Xu Zheng's love for her.
It was not until Xiao Jie was put under house arrest by Xu Zheng and took out a knife to force himself to harm himself, Xiao Jie really realized the horror of this man, Xiao Jie chose to divorce again, and Xu Zheng was also imprisoned in a mental hospital.
Just like Liu Xiaojie, girls in love are blind, and they often can't see the true appearance of their lovers.
Li Junjie, a senior, ordered breakfast for his girlfriend Zhu Qian in the rental house and went out to work at the intern bank. However, Zhu Qian was found by her ex-boyfriend Wang Mou, and after learning that Zhu Qian and Li Junjie were in love and living together, Wang Mou had a murderous heart.
Wang threatened Zhu Qian to call back Li Junjie, who was at work, and killed Li Junjie in the rental house.
After stabbing Li Junjie, Wang's first words actually said to his ex-girlfriend Zhu Qian: "You see how much I love you, I can kill for you." ”
Extreme men not only "love" strongly, but also "love" dangerously, in Wang's view, even killing people can become a confession of love. I believe that no one can afford this kind of love.
Li Meijin has said that an important point in judging marginal personality is that he is particularly good when people are good, and especially bad when they are bad.
When a man can't control his emotions very well, the outbreak is reckless, and after the matter has passed, he tries to please him, it is basically quite dangerous. Girls, don't hesitate, run away!
03
Stay away from the central air conditioning "fake warm man"
Someone said, "If in a relationship you have a feeling that you never know what he's doing outside of your sight, please pull it out right away." ”
The person who truly loves you will give you enough security at all times.
When this person always shows up when he needs you, and he doesn't look for you, you never know what he's doing, maybe you have to be careful.
Xiao He is a sweet and lively kindergarten teacher, who can sing and dance and is versatile, and there is no shortage of suitors around. However, among the many suitors, she finally chose the considerate and gentle Xiao zhi.
Speaking of the reason, in fact, there was a time to meet to watch a movie, just in time for Xiao He's aunt period. On the way to the date, Xiao Zhi silently turned on the seat to heat up.
At the end of the movie, when the two were eating, he also intimately asked the restaurant for brown sugar water. Xiao He felt that he had only mentioned it once inadvertently, and he remembered it so clearly, it must have been taken to heart.
In the days together, Xiao He also felt that he had picked up the treasure, but Xiao He always felt that Xiao Zhi was hiding something on the grounds of work. When Xiao He stumbles upon Xiao Zhi's other mobile phone, all the mysteries are solved.
In that phone there was a girl named An An, who also received the same greetings and the same gifts every day as a girlfriend.
But the reality is that it is often difficult for us to judge the authenticity of warm men.
Obviously he also said he loved you, obviously he also said he missed you, sometimes he took care of it, but more often he was mysterious. And you always feel that this kind of love seems to be illusory, and the heart flutters lightly and does not land, then you must not deceive yourself into thinking that he really loves you.
In fact, as long as you look at his performance of you in terms of major rights and wrongs, it is not difficult to see who is "true" and who is "false".
Although the real warm man is very warm to you, when he feels that you are not doing something appropriate, or not good enough in some behavior, he will definitely give you better advice.
Fake warm men will show that no matter what you do, they will look good, after all, they are only pursuing the flesh.
And many times, girls always mistakenly take the love of "fake warm men" seriously.
In fact, the real warm man, whether you are just young or gradually aging, whether you are at the top or in the trough, he will end up from the beginning. Even if he has a disagreement with you, he will only warm you, and a warm is a lifetime.
It's not easy to meet the right person.
When girls choose true love, in addition to carefully identifying scumbags, it is more important to avoid meeting scumbags.
No matter how good a girl is, after meeting a scumbag, she will become prone to losing herself and even constantly doubt whether she is worthy of being loved.
Then, identifying scumbags as soon as possible and staying away from scumbags is a timely stop loss for life.
Girls, it's better not to love than to love by mistake.
Whether you have a lover or not, you must be beautiful alone and do not need the approval of the outside world.
Only such a girl will exude a unique charm to attract the unique other half that matches it.
Author: Muxi, new media author.
The image comes from the Internet.