In the past two years, the sudden epidemic has disrupted everything, some people have lost their jobs, some people have lost their loved ones, we have experienced the beauty of daily life in sadness and tears, and we have discovered the preciousness of the people around us when facing the challenges of life and death brought by huge disasters.
People often learn to cherish when they lose, and they treat love as such.
In Zhang Ailing's classic "Love in the Fallen City", Fan Liuyuan said to the white tassel:
When our civilization is all destroyed and collapsed, maybe there is still this wall left, and if we still meet under this wall at that time, maybe you will have some sincerity to me, maybe I will be sincere with you.
In the process of Fan Liuyuan's interaction with Bai Liusu, the former hid in the lashing and amorous shell he had created, not daring to surrender his true heart, and the latter only cared about finding a marriage that could give her money and status—the things that she relied on for survival.
Stills from the movie "Allure of Love"
But when war comes, the world is in turmoil,
"Money, real estate, everything that lasts forever, is all unreliable. The only thing that can be relied on is this breath in her cavity, and the person who sleeps next to her."
And what we face today is an era of rapid change.
The biggest feature of this period is that every day in the metabolism, e-commerce, high-speed rail, private cars, 5G, a huge logistics network... Speed makes everything decay, and eternity seems to become a mythical dream.
But disaster, let us slow down, let us see some of the things that are obscured in the ordinary day, let us re-realize that love is a desire to pursue eternity, and in a world where everything is changing rapidly, we long to have an unchanging emotion.
The cherry blossoms fall and bloom again the following spring, but the love of man is lost and will never come again. Writers understand this all too well, and the love poems and romance novels they write are condensed into one sentence: cherish!
Nowadays, people are busy in a high-speed society, maybe you are in the hustle and bustle, you do meet the person who is the best for you, but you don't know him, and you pass by. And among the people you get along with every day, there is always no one who makes your heart move.
This makes people especially sigh, if love is a good encounter, who does not want to put down the utilitarianism in front of them and pursue the most beautiful emotion?
However, we must understand that such a beautiful love does not come when a person is ignorant. To meet the right person, how many storms and twists and turns need to be experienced.
Just like Shen Congwen's letter to Zhang Zhaohe that year:
"I have crossed bridges in many places, seen clouds many times, drunk many kinds of wine, but I have loved only one person of the right and best age."
This sounds very romantic, and it is very meaningful to experience it carefully.
Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe (Source Network)
Shen Congwen's hometown in western Hunan saw warlords fighting and people rolling around. He was such a simple person, saw those so complicated three religions and nine streams, and saw so much cruelty.
Until he met Zhang Zhaohe, he suddenly let him see the simplicity, saw the beauty of nature, and the love in his heart opened freely like a wildflower in April. He knew it was the best life.
That is to say, only when the self-experience has grown to a certain extent can we identify and confirm what is the person we are ultimately looking for, the beautiful and rare love.
In a fast-changing world, everyone craves an eternal love
Listen to what Professor Leung Wing On has to say
In this impetuous and amorous era, it seems that falling in love is becoming more and more difficult.
We can't help but wonder, can we still have love?
Liang Yong'an, a professor at fudan university's department of Chinese, gave his answer: true love never falls on a person who does not understand love.
On the other hand, if we want to pursue love, first of all we must be a person with loving feelings, a person who understands love. Only in this way can we recognize true love in an instant when we meet that person, and you can devote yourself to it wholeheartedly.
However, in the course of Professor Liang Yong'an's more than a decade of research on the topic of love, he found that:
The younger generation is increasingly in the contradiction between tradition and modernity, and there is a general sense of anxiety, dazedness, a sense of falling and blankness in the spiritual field, and these problems are most concentrated in love - the faith in love is disappearing, and the birth of love is becoming more and more difficult.
Our current love life is eroded by the way 996 works, everyone's time to return to their own small world is greatly squeezed, the contradictions between two people in the face of the external world have become more, the house price has risen, the cost of marriage is large, educating children is a lifelong difficult career, people do not have free time, how can they devote themselves to love and become a person who understands love?
What's more, this is only the first step of love, in fact, it is more difficult to take the next step:
When we are lucky enough to meet and then there is love,
How do I keep it?
How do I update it?
How to develop it?
How to make love our whole life?
In view of this reality, Professor Liang Yong'an began a love class practice "Through literary classics - Fudan Liang Yong'an's love class", Teacher Liang hopes to combine literary masterpieces, movies, dramas, and real people in history, talk about some more realistic and targeted issues, and jointly think about the road of love for contemporary people.