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For individuals, marriage and emotional life can be said to be an important part of social life, for those who have reached adulthood but have not yet formed a family, the focus of emotional life is to deal with the relationship between two people; for people who have become a family, how to continue to get along with each other and family development is worth noting.
Of course, these judgments are also based on the society as a whole, and with the development and change of society, these situations may also change.
For example, in today's "involution" trend is very significant, the pressure in all areas of society is gradually increasing, many young workers under the pressure of work have no time to focus on their emotional life, and even many people suffer from not having the opportunity to get acquainted with the opposite sex, can only be tired of coping with various matters of work and social life every day.
Of course, in addition to the external pressure exerted by social life, the mismatch between people's changes in concepts and changes in the times has also led to a decline in people's motivation in feelings and even married life, and even by 2021, the single population on the mainland has reached 30 million.
Under this premise, even data such as the birth rate, divorce rate and aging of the population have been significantly affected. We have a good understanding of the external influences of society, so at the level of people's subjective thinking, what factors affect people's getting along?
Professor of Fudan University: The root cause of contradictions
Professor Liang Yong'an of Fudan University is mainly engaged in comparative literature and literature related to film and television works, and he has a relatively rich social experience before teaching at Fudan University, which also determines that he has a certain in-depth view of people's concepts of life.
In the era of self-media, Professor Liang Yong'an also began to go "online", disseminating his own ideas and concepts through various media and forming more frequent communication with young people.
For example, Professor Liang's speech entitled "How Do We Face Love in the Golden Age of Singleness" shocked many young people: this professor who is more than a year old understands love so well.
Regarding love, Professor Liang has thought a lot, not only about the personality and getting along between two people, but also about the social environment in which each other is located, the impact of today's urban life on love, and the meaning of love for life... Some media have asked why Professor Liang Yong'an understands love so well and whether he has had a relatively rich emotional experience when he was young.
Professor Liang Yong'an is not a problem with this, he said that perhaps he is more observant and thinks carefully about many aspects of life; at the same time, love, as an important part of literature, is naturally worthy of Professor Liang's attention.
This is actually a profoundly enlightening significance for us: love, whether it has reached the stage of marriage or not, is actually a part of our lives, and people can neither have love nor only pay attention to love. How to deal with the relationship between love and other aspects of life is the key to whether you can live a good life.
Of course, in addition to the views and ways of dealing with love, people's concept of love is also a focus of factors affecting marriage and family. When Professor Liang Yong'an talked about love, the first thing he mentioned was the development of the times.
Individuals are in the tide of the times, and everyone's fate is actually a reflection of the development of the times. Professor Liang said that the concept of love Chinese is different from the West, and the modernization of Western social concepts actually benefited from the Renaissance to a large extent, but due to the difference in the nature of society, China did not have a Renaissance, only a similar May Fourth Movement.
In general, even the May Fourth Movement actually had a conceptual impact on the intellectual class, and the concepts of people at the bottom of society were often relatively traditional.
China was directly transitioned from a feudal monarchy to a modern state, and this direct and rapid change led to the inability of a large population to successfully complete the conceptual change. Reflected in the concept of love, this tension still exists, even more pronounced than in other fields.
The influence of the concept of love in a changing society
In the traditional conception of Chinese, the status of material life is relatively important. For many people, the meaning of life is to meet their own food and clothing needs, in short, to let themselves "live", especially in the era when the material standard of living is relatively low.
Therefore, at this time, it is difficult for people to understand the spiritual connotation behind love, and it is easy to establish a connection between love and material life.
In fact, from the perspective of evolutionary sychology, the development of the individual has always carried out the process of biological evolution, and love and family building are indeed part of meeting biological needs.
Therefore, in the traditional concept, there is a more obvious difference between the two sexes: for a pair of lovers, men are often the basis of the relationship between the two, while women have more responsibility for the maintenance of the relationship.
Men should be "persevering", "steady", "stoic", and women should be "gentle", "delicate", "considerate"; after forming a family, women are bound to be given the social identity of "mother", but in the traditional concept, the identity of "mother" seems to have become an unavoidable identity label for women after marriage, as if in addition to taking care of children and families, everything is unreasonable.
Professor Liang Yongan said that married life is not the end of the lives of two individuals, but a new beginning.
Marriage should not be a bondage for two people, but a positive promotion for both parties, which can make both people better.
He cited the example of the famous literary scholar Mr. Lu Xun, who was more than old when Mr. Lu Xun and his wife Xu Guangping met, and the old social influence he carried also greatly affected his courage to devote himself to love.
Xu Guangping sternly stated in a reply that Lu Xun should "bury" his former self and start a new life.
Professor Liang Yong'an said that love in the current era is a relatively big challenge for today's young people. Professor Liang said that in his experience at Fudan University, he found that many female students had excellent and excellent grades, which is a reflection of the rise in the education level of modern women.
However, the traditional concept is sometimes inherent in the set of marriage and emotional concepts of "male and female", which is actually very unfavorable to the development of a good emotional life. To a large extent, the root cause of the single dilemma is that men's positioning of women is still limited to their husbands and godsons, and they are unwilling to accept the renewal of female roles.
There is no doubt that this traditional family model is gradually being eliminated by society.
Whether it is the family, men, or society as a whole, this view should be changed. Women in the emotional life is not just "appendages", but should have their own wonderful life.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).