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With the increase of life pressure in all aspects of society and people's pursuit of a higher quality of life, the living conditions of the public in society have gradually become anxious, unstable and even a little irritable.
Due to the convenience of online information dissemination, since 2020, words such as "inner volume" and "lying flat" have gradually become popular on the Internet, which on the one hand express people's struggles with the current situation of life, on the other hand, they also show people's fatigue.
Especially for many young people, many college students and even graduate students today face "unemployment" after graduation.
According to the statistics of relevant departments in China, the number of ordinary college graduates in 2021 is as high as 6.11 million, and as of July 1, 2021, 4.15 million of them have implemented their graduation destinations, with an employment rate of 68%, and there is a large employment problem.
Especially after the emergence of the "new crown" epidemic, in order to seek better and more stable jobs, many students will choose to "eat old" for a period of time after graduation to prepare for certain exams, rather than direct employment as before. Employment is difficult to upgrade, for graduates, crazy inner paper or exam gnaw old which is wiser?
"New Nibble Old"
Whether it is the continuous expansion of the number of master's degree students or the civil service examination that is constantly increasing the number of positions, these opportunities have undoubtedly become the "fragrant food" in the eyes of many graduates.
However, opportunities need to be fought for, and fierce competition for exams and brutal admission ratios make it difficult for many candidates to successfully "land" after a single exam.
Therefore, nowadays, there are a number of "new type of nibbling old" young people who are preparing for the examination, the examination of the public and the judicial examination, and I believe that everyone is not unfamiliar. There are mixed reviews of this phenomenon.
Some people think that if young people are still "nibbling on the old" when they reach the age they want to struggle, then they are "ignorant"; others think that in order to strive for better development prospects when family conditions permit, it is understandable to prepare for the exam at home for a period of time and finally achieve their goals.
Regarding this phenomenon, Professor Liang Yong'an of the Department of Chinese of Fudan University once said in an on-campus speech, "Graduates are best to eat the old age at home for 3 years before going to work." Why did he have such thoughts?
Self-worth and anxiety
First of all, many questions appeared in front of Professor Liang. Some questioners wonder why, after graduation, being in certain positions makes them feel that graduate students are inferior to specialists.
Regarding economic gains and interests, how should they be measured; whether they already have a family, whether it is necessary to go to education again...
Professor Leung mentioned a word, which is "value". Why does a degree not play a role in some industries?
Because the content of education in many professional disciplines at the graduate level is not to master a special craft and improve the skills of doing certain things, but to enrich a person's spiritual world and enhance his ability to recognize everything in the world.
Then the work you are facing at this time is to look at employees from a value rationality perspective, and your academic qualifications are bound to be worthless.
When you can't find a job just after graduation, the feeling of confusion and uneasiness is bound to exist. At this time, people will fall into an anxiety, not mental anxiety, but value anxiety.
Then the individual can make two choices at this time:
1. Do something that is absolutely valuable, but not necessarily in line with your own interests. For example, being part of a huge factory.
2. First satisfy your personal feelings, without considering your suitability and benefits with your work.
In the face of these choices, Professor Liang Yongan believes that after graduation, college students can "nibble three years old", in fact, the purpose is not to let young people not work, but to find a job suitable for themselves in the confused period that everyone will encounter.
Should parents' "orders" be heeded?
In addition, the reason why there is a large-scale phenomenon of "nibbling on the old" in today's society is that there is no obvious opposition.
One of the bigger reasons is that most of the "new type of old" young people are in order to improve their academic qualifications, have a staff or get a certain skill certificate, which is more precious to their parents' generation that has been greatly influenced by traditional ideas.
Because the generation born in the 1960s and 1970s often experienced an era of underdeveloped material living standards, and they were taught by their parents.
So for those young people who have their own professional ideas, should they obey the "orders" of their parents such as "examination" and "testing"?
This should still be decided in combination with the reality of one's own life and one's own view of external pressures.
If you think your ideas are worth sticking to, and you can ignore the pressure from your parents and others, then you can stick to your ideas.
Should it be "rolled in" or "lying flat"?
These two views are somewhat tit-for-tat, for individuals, how should they choose? This is actually a matter of opinion.
For some individual types of work, blind efforts are actually difficult to achieve any significant improvement, then it will take a period of time to interrupt, whether it is for the perception of life, or to stop and reflect on some ways and methods in the work, it is very necessary.
For other individuals, college time is passed quickly, and for them, they do almost nothing in college, and they immediately face the pressure of employment.
Admittedly, there are some personal reasons, but in the face of such fierce competition, blindly "plunging" into the sea of people to blindly seek work like others is actually ineffective.
Then the "lying flat" mentality at this time is more like a self-regulation, allowing yourself to find a way between close study and work, clarifying your goals and life direction, rather than going with the flow, exhausted but overwhelmed.
Of course, it is only a temporary "lying flat" mentality, rather than a slump.
All in all, although Professor Liang Yong'an mentioned that "graduation should be three years old", his focus is that young people should not blindly seek jobs, but should be best prepared and find a more suitable career for themselves.
We should not be too one-sided in our understanding.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205