Ivy League graduates encounter difficulties in employment: they are anxious and their parents are disappointed

Graduates of the world-class elite colleges and universities - Ivy League will definitely be employed in international large companies, become synonymous with successful people, and enjoy the benefits of high society? This is not the case.

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At the tip of the pyramid of colleges and universities that ordinary people look up to, it is also extremely involuted, and the situation of employment difficulties and work hitting a wall also exists.

Recently, the public account "True Story Project PRO" published an article that revealed the study abroad experience and employment embarrassment of some Ivy League graduates. After encountering many difficulties, they finally had to choose to become a study abroad agent, and this part of the population is not a few.

Although it is far from the expectations at the time, it can still have a relatively good income, maintain some decency, and at the same time serve as a springboard to achieve the next goal.

However, some parents are not calm, their children have begun to build bridges and pave the way when they go to primary school, just to make their children have a good future, but they did not expect that young people who climbed the vine to find their ideal jobs are still difficult. So, is it necessary to toss for several years and do everything possible to lift the child to climb the vine?

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Going to a prestigious school does not mean that you will find a "good job"

More and more European and American returnees have found that students have entered the study abroad industry, especially some sociology and art majors who have difficulty in employment.

With the changes in the industry, some young people with less sought-after majors face embarrassment in the employment process, few positions, and fierce competition, and the study abroad industry has become their best place to live.

Netizen Xiaochen graduated from Ivy League School and majored in architectural design. At the age of 25, he got his first offer with a monthly salary of 12,000. At that time, she felt good about herself and thought that it was already good to get this salary just after coming out of work, and she would definitely be promoted and raised in the future.

The ideal is plump, the reality is skinny. After working for a year, she got married and had children, and then came out to look for a job to catch up with the outbreak of the epidemic, and the best offer she could find was still a monthly salary of 10,000 taels.

Now that half a year has passed since the epidemic, she is also 30 years old, and she still receives the same salary as before. HR revealed to her that compared with other companies in the industry, the company now does not cut salaries or lay off employees, which is already very good. The implication is that wanting to raise your salary is simply delusional.

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Thinking that she spent at least 1.5 million yuan during her study abroad period, and the road back to her book was still far away, she was very anxious, so she wanted to find another way, and even tried to set up a car stall to improve her financial situation.

It is undeniable that young people studying in internationally renowned universities can be exposed to more cultures and ways of thinking in different regions and fields, and their relatively broad vision and rich knowledge are therefore superior in employment.

However, with the rapid development of science and technology and the ups and downs of industry conditions, it is not easy to find your dream job even if you graduate from a prestigious university.

What's more, some students go to Ivy League schools, not out of personal ideals and expectations, just to meet the expectations of parents, lack internal drive, and do not make sufficient preparations in advance in employment and career selection.

Many parents of Ivy League children may proudly think that prestigious schools mean good jobs and high incomes, and only after their children graduate do they wake up that there is no equivalence between prestigious schools and good jobs and high incomes.

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Children's employment is far from the ideal, and parents are unhappy

Ivy League graduates can't find their dream job, they are anxious about themselves, and they are disappointed by their parents. When the child chooses a job that is far from the glamorous, even if he can live well, the parents are still uneasy. Why, this starts with the time and financial cost of studying abroad.

Xu Zhijian, founder of Independent Study Abroad, said in an interview that if you want to help your child get admitted to an Ivy League school, you should explore your child's interests as soon as possible and find the core positioning; Grades 8-9 begin to think about school positioning; Grade 11 conducts institution-specific research.

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Some parents, children are still in primary school have begun to plan to climb the vine, help their children in English, points of interest, participate in social practice activities, win awards in domestic and foreign competitions, and get admitted to key high schools to achieve excellent results. Only after going down this road did he have the most basic qualifications.

If you want to find a study abroad institution to provide refined services, such as arranging the application process for Ivy League schools, supervising students to complete homework, helping with course selection, arranging course counseling, and guiding how to study essays, of course, it takes a lot of money.

All in all, it takes years and millions of dollars for parents to gain opportunities for their children to climb the vine. The more you give, the higher you expect. The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment.

Therefore, some parents go to study abroad agencies for consultation, and when they meet the staff who graduated from Ivy League schools, they will say lightly: "You have such a good education, why do you come to be an intermediary?" ”

A mother once talked about her son's employment experience, and her words revealed a deep disappointment. His son graduated from Ivy League School with a major in computer science, but after returning to China, he decided to work for a company founded by 10 people, with an annual salary of only 200,000 yuan. While she was worried about her son's future, she felt very humiliated.

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Prestigious schools are just an aura, not a talisman, which may only be deeply felt by young people who have experienced it. However, in the parents' mind, a prestigious school diploma can represent everything enough to get a well-paid and decent job.

When young people can lower their posture and find a relatively free or low-starting job, parents can't let go of their hearts, so that their children always carry an inexplicable sense of guilt in front of their parents.

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In the face of the world of internal and external frenzy, what should parents do?

Resources have always been in short supply, and high-quality resources are even more scarce. Domestic rolls, foreign rolls, especially institutions of higher learning. Bypassing the one-wood bridge of the domestic college entrance examination, it also needs to face the pressure of foreign study and employment competition.

Paying too much time and money but not guaranteeing a bright future for their children, what should parents do?

Elite schools are worth the effort, but do what they can

As an internationally renowned school, Ivy League schools have unique advantages in teaching quality and humanistic environment, and it is certainly a matter of pride and fortunate to be able to attend Ivy League schools.

But if you go to a prestigious school for the sake of attending a prestigious school, the cost of studying abroad invested in the child affects the operation of the family and the quality of life, and each member may be under great pressure, which will be passed on to the child and affect his future career choices.

According to the family's conditions, it is a wise choice to do what you can, if you are rich enough, you will fully support it, and if the economy is slightly worse, you will retreat to the second, and within the scope of your ability, help your children realize their self-worth.

Instead of parents pushing along, it is better to value the child's internal drive

A founder of an East China study abroad institution found: "Most Chinese students are not very active, do not know what they want, and each item is pushed by others, and what their parents want is often a prestigious school diploma." ”

If the child's own internal drive is insufficient and does not have a clear enough goal, even if he is admitted to an Ivy League school, there will be a lack of stamina, and it is difficult to take the initiative to learn and think.

In addition, children's ability to live independently and communicate with others are also key factors. Many children suffer from depression because they cannot adapt to study abroad, and can only take a break from school and return to China.

Parents should not wishfully send their children abroad to study in prestigious schools, but should pay attention to cultivating their children's internal drive, observing their children's learning ability and adaptability. Only when these abilities are basically possessed, sending abroad can be more secure.

Accept your child's current situation and insist on encouraging companionship

No matter how good a school in the world is, it does not guarantee a good future for children. There are too many uncertain factors in this world, the industry is changing so fast, and the workplace competition is very fierce, so it is not a famous school to go smoothly, a horse Pingchuan, they still need to endure the baptism of life, the tempering of society.

High is not low, and the eyes are high and low, which is a taboo for young people. When children choose to work hard, parents should adjust their mentality and encourage their children to find a direction and platform that suits them as long as they do not give up. The lowest time may also be an opportunity for self-precipitation.

Being a parent is about accepting everything for your child, trying to give him/her the best, and being able to bear the worst.

If a child has the ability to flutter his wings, we applaud him and give him full support; If the qualifications are mediocre, let him/her bear the knee and protect the companionship. Unconditional love is true love for children.

Material from:

The article of the public account "True Story Project PRO" "Ivy League students make Ivy League students"

Xiaohongshu blogger "Xiaochen Diary" "Shanghai Small Talk"