There is a saying that it doesn't matter what you eat, what matters is who you eat with.
Whether it is a person close to him, or a person who meets for the first time, a person with good character can always take into account all aspects, dispel everyone's sense of restraint, let people feel like a spring breeze, and until the dinner is over, it is still endless.
On the contrary, if you meet someone with poor character, between the cups and cups, it looks like a warm atmosphere, but it is like climbing over a mountain, and it is easy to fall into a trap, because they will always have their own careful thoughts, so that others will make jokes or embarrassment.
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Knowingly ask, poke people in the sore spot.
There is no greater goodwill for a person than to quietly conceal the weaknesses of others after insight into them.
Jean Valjean in Les Misérables was sentenced to nineteen years in prison for a loaf of bread, and the dark and unjust life blinded Jean Valjean's good nature. After his release from prison, only the Archbishop took him in for one night and gave him sufficient courtesy.
But the next morning, Jean Valjean stole the bishop's silver and escaped, and when caught, the bishop chose to forgive, saying that the silver was given to Jean Valjean himself, and gave him the candlestick as well.
It was this act that once again inspired Jean Valjean, and from then on, he lifted his spirits and continued to strive to be a good man.
A good deed can save a person, and conversely, an evil deed may destroy a person.
People who can sit at a dinner table always have all kinds of connections, especially at work, and in such social situations, everyone wants to be glamorous and respected.
But when you meet someone with poor character, it's hard to say.
Xiaofang, a colleague of our unit, is the backbone of the business, but she was divorced some time ago, and she did not show too much sadness and was still very dedicated.
However, at a dinner party for customers, the female boss who had always been jealous of Xiaofang's talent used the excuse to pierce this sore spot of Xiaofang. She deliberately said that the client side has many resources and wide contacts, hoping that they can match Xiaofang to introduce her boyfriend, which is even a testimony of cooperation for many years and friendship.
The words of the female boss seem to be concerned about Xiaofang, but in fact, they are deliberately embarrassing Xiaofang. Xiao Fang, who has always been intolerant, has completely torn her face with her boss since that meal, and even gave up her performance of working hard for many years and applied for transfer to another department to start from scratch.
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Forced to drink, not drunk.
Some meals are wine bureaus, no matter what topics they talk about, in the end, they all boil down to the amount of wine.
For example, for new colleagues in the unit, they do not give others the opportunity to argue at all, and as soon as they are on the table, they show a set of "drinking rules": don't get drunk today, and don't want to cooperate happily in the future.
Once they found that the other party was invincible, they were even more excited, and various exhortations took turns, forcing people to drink cup after cup. What is even more shameful is that while the other party is drunk, all kinds of ridicule and ridicule ensued, which simply played people as monkeys.
At the wine table, as long as you find that someone intentionally or unintentionally looks for you to "single out", and the words are full of provocation, you must learn to "pretend to be deaf and dumb" and ignore it.
When he realized that he was "bored with himself", he had to restrain a little. And with such a lesson, in the future work, you should not expect the other party to help. On the contrary, it is necessary to add a few more eyes and beware everywhere.
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Love to be greedy and cheap, never take the initiative to pay the bill.
There is a saying that the person who takes the initiative to pay the bill every time the meal is not that he has more money, but that he is more emotional.
Deeply.
Between couples, judging who loves more often depends on who pays the bill.
Just like some time ago, a young couple seen in the circle of friends, the two stood side by side in front of the cash register, it seemed that the boy also gestured to take out his mobile phone to pay the bill, but he did not hand it behind him for a long time. Instead, the girl was "quick in her eyes" and paid first.
In the comments section, many people held the same view: "This boy is unreliable." ”
The same is true of family affection and friendship, inviting guests to dinner, courtesy and exchange, coming and going, and indecent. The person who never takes the initiative to pay the bill is not willing to give his feelings, but is accustomed to taking, and even used to using morality to kidnap others.
"You're better off than me, and you pay for it."
"I've been on my hands lately, so you can pay for it."
"Isn't it just a meal, who can't afford it?"
It seems that every reason is taken for granted, but the only reason they can't find is a reason to pay on their own initiative.
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Conclusion:
Eat to see the character. As long as you pay a little attention, you will find that the differences between people are very different.
In the face of people with poor character, do not pinpoint mai mang, even if it is obvious that there is a loss, it does not matter. Keep your distance and drift away in order to be undisturbed and undisturbed.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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