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Everyone's money is hard-earned money, not blown by the wind.
When you are very rich, it means that you have survived a period of hard life and ushered in the spring of life.
In real life, many rich people, as soon as they turn around, forget the hard days, like to push the cup and change the cup, and their lives are becoming more and more luxurious.
Sima Guang wrote in the "Training and Thrifty Show": "From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality. ”
We must keep our heads clear at all times, cover our money bags, and control the occurrence of eating and drinking, the following kinds of people, you don't want to feast.
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First, the person who opens his mouth and says "casual", you can't make him satisfied.
Usually, you invite guests to dinner and ask, "What do you like to eat?" ”
Immediately someone replied: "Casually." ”
Since ancient times, the rule of "guests follow the master" has been popular. What the guests like, it does not matter, as long as the host is polite and sincere with each other, it is fine.
In today's increasingly abundant materials, what to eat has really become a problem. Most of the meals can be eaten all year round; the exquisite food that is only available in the New Year has also become a "home-cooked meal".
Those who say "casually" will give real advice as soon as they get to the table. For example, he ate hot pot yesterday and didn't want to eat hot pot today; he went to a restaurant a few days ago, and today he should go to another one; the taste in the city is tired, so it is better to go to the countryside.
"Casual" is a kind of reply, but also a conundrum – there is no standard answer, no satisfactory answer.
A truly reliable person, after saying "casually", will then make suggestions, or really agree with the master's suggestions.
Those who put "casual" on their lips are a different matter. When you invite him to dinner, you are asking for trouble, and the suggestions on the dinner table make everyone very embarrassed.
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Second, people who are very busy at work, feasting is a waste of time.
In the "Aphorisms", it is said: "Slow matters are done quickly, and min is meritorious; urgent matters are postponed, and busy is more wrong." ”
A person in a panic can make mistakes. If, in a panic, there are still people who invite you to eat and drink, you will be wrong. After all, you always have to sneak around and sober yourself up.
A friend of mine lives in the provincial capital.
He said that when a classmate came from the county to the province for a meeting, he had to invite him to a meal. Graciously invited, embarrassed to keep refusing, so I agreed.
Before eating, he rushed from one district to another to run errands, and then went to the banquet venue. Although it has been accelerating, it is still late.
During the meal, he received a call from the unit working overtime, hurriedly put down the wine glass, and did not know how to be good. Because the unit office is not allowed to have a wine smell.
With the attitude of taking care of other people's work, you should keep a certain distance from very busy people. When it comes to eating, don't force it.
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Third, people who are secretly helping you are reluctant to open up the relationship.
In this society, some people are in the mountains, some people are in high-rise buildings; some people like to stand on the stage, and some people are used to being spectators.
If you meet someone who voluntarily retreats and drags him to a dinner party, it is obviously unreasonable. After all, he doesn't like to show his face and is socially resentful.
When you have the help of the "hermit", don't repay it by inviting you to dinner. You should consider that the other person does not like to socialize; after making the relationship public, there is no benefit in both aspects; the other party is not willing to communicate with you in depth, and help is only once.
For example, if you are an ordinary employee in a certain unit and have business dealings with the unit, the customers who appreciate you very much, so they recommend you in front of your boss. Such a relationship is in a "semi-open" state, and if it is all open, customers will feel embarrassed.
There is always some "love", "holding the pipa half covered", or it is better to keep it as it is.
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Fourth, if the door is like a city, he will not give you a face.
There are some hot people who have to deal with people who ask him to do things every day. There are also some people who try their best to beg him to go to a meal to build a relationship card.
When it comes to eating, it is often "rushing to the scene". The stools were not hot, so they left the table early. At the dinner table, he didn't know who it was.
When a person participates in a dinner party and has to "queue", you should stay away from him. After all, he won't remember you, and there's a good chance he won't help you.
There is a way to ask people to do things, called "cold temple burning incense".
With people who are temporarily cold, there is time to accompany you to deeply communicate and cooperate with people, and the meal can become "social".
"Face appreciation" is not one-sided and requires interaction between both parties. You really don't have to, put your own enthusiasm, to give someone else's "indifference". If the popular person does have a cooperative relationship with you, then respect the attitude of the other party and do not force a meal.
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Fifth, people who are keen to eat, drink and have fun do not need to get acquainted.
There is a kind of person who will come to the scene whenever he calls him to eat. When he eats, he is unceremonious and even anti-guest-oriented. After eating, you have to pack it up and go home, whether the owner wants it or not.
After eating becomes "greedy", it seems awkward. As the person who invites you to dinner, you should understand that the person who mixed the meal bureau originally meant to be "inflammatory", and did not appear at all.
In life, there will be such a scene: five or six people are invited to dinner, but more than ten guests come. As a result, the meal was expanded, and the host was not prepared at all. Expenditure has also increased significantly.
I always think that when there are more people, it will be lively; if there are fewer people, it will be cold. Real social, not like that. With three or five confidants, a drink, you are the happiest.
It is too realistic that people who are keen to eat and drink will come close to you when you have money, and when you become poor, they will leave you and then turn to people who can afford to invite you to dinner.
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Spending money is a small thing, and I am afraid of laborious and unflattering.
If the meal is indispensable, then pay attention to the rules and scale.
First, be diligent and thrifty, don't engage in waste on the table, and blindly compare.
Second, make an appointment in advance to give everyone sufficient preparation time.
Third, respect the habits, and people at the dinner table can order their favorite dishes.
Fourth, avoid getting drunk and not forcibly persuade drinking, especially friends who drive.
Fifth, seriously deal with the aftermath, ask a question, after the dinner, everyone is safe to go home? Avoid adverse consequences.
A meal is a meal and a "situation". Don't be too casual, think you have money, you can show it, and you can gather a large group of people as soon as you open your mouth.
Believe that it doesn't matter if the person who is really willing to help you has a meal or not.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.