Wen | Ye was terrified
Everyone thinks that when a person reaches the age of forty, he has already seen through the ups and downs of the world, can calmly treat anything that happens to him, and will no longer be bothered by someone or something.
This is not the case.
We live in a world that is changing rapidly, and we are emotional animals, how can we be indifferent to everything around us? Therefore, even a small thing in life can cause us emotional fluctuations, which has little to do with age and experience.
Forty is an awkward, but crucial age for a woman. Because at this age, we can not only not do "not confused", but also may let ourselves fall into the crisis of marriage and career, so at this time, we must be more careful in words and deeds, do not let ourselves fall into any mud pit.
When a woman reaches the age of forty, she should not only clean up her social circle and let some people who are irrelevant or destructive of her stable life out of her sight, but also say "no" to the following three meals.
1, the surface is a girlfriend party, but in fact it is to show off themselves
Today's party is no longer as pure and simple as before: invite a group of classmates to reminisce about the past and talk about the unforgettable past on campus; girlfriends go shopping and eating together, hug the group to warm up, tell about their unhappiness in their hearts, and scold the men who abandoned themselves.
Today's gatherings are always linked to some interests or purposes, for fame, for profit, for the sake of finding excitement, and of course, showing off their capital.
Li li had a good girlfriend in college, Peach. In the first few years of college, because the two worked in the same city, they would go shopping and eat together every three or five minutes, and after getting married, the two people did not say that they were partying, and they did not even interact much in the usual circle of friends.
One day, Peach suddenly pulled several roommates from the same room as before into a group. I haven't seen him for more than ten years, and when everyone talks about the bits and pieces of their previous college life, they gush and tear up. Later, Peach invited the sisters to her house on the weekend to party, saying that she would personally cook Western food for everyone.
Although there is little contact, it is not difficult to grasp her current situation through Peach's circle of friends, she and her husband have made a lot of money doing business over the years, and not long ago, they also replaced the once small two-room room with a large villa.
On the day of the party, the sisters first recalled the interesting or unforgettable memories that happened on campus: which boy in the class had a crush on which girl, the embarrassing moment in physical education class, the all-night review for the next day's exam, the day of eating a loose meal, everyone hugged together and cried and wept... The next more time is spent as the initiator of the party, Peaches endlessly flaunting everything she has now.
Those classmates, like Li Li, were full of expectations and full of excitement before going, and after coming out, they were discouraged and depressed. Peach's ostentation makes them feel incompetent, very failed, and even lose confidence in life.
Female to forty, in fact, many things have been on the right track, work or career, are developing at a fixed pace, although everything is possible, but it has long been not as full of fighting spirit as it was then, fantasizing about changing everything with their own strength.
At this time, we should learn to accept the status quo and accept our imperfections, so that we can reach a reconciliation with ourselves. Therefore, those who are in order to show off themselves and make you feel frustrated, try not to go without participating.
2, on the surface is the hometown contact feelings, in fact, it is to take what they need
In this world, we can never lose contact with this world, and we will always place ourselves in various groups or organizations because of this relationship. Therefore, in each of our social software, there are such and such groups, such as classmate groups, work groups, learning groups, pro groups and so on.
Of course, there is also a group of fellow villagers.
In fact, we know very well in our hearts that when we go to search for the hometown group, we already have an impure motive, and we hope to bring a little help to our work through that circle, in the affection and name of the hometown.
Since you have this kind of psychology, it is not excluded that others will have the same purpose.
Therefore, when a few people in the group called on everyone to go to the party, various purposes began to brew in everyone's hearts. However, all benefits are based on mutual use, don't think that you don't have to pay back the benefits, sometimes, you will even pay more.
Therefore, those who call up the group of friends in the name of hometown contact feelings, can not participate in it without participating, sometimes cheap can not pick up, but also have to go inside. A little mishandling may also affect your reputation, and then returning to your hometown will have an impact.
3. Not for the class reunion, but for further arrangements
In fact, when it comes to class reunions, the first thing that comes to everyone's mind is not the classmates reminiscing about the past, but the underground love affair under the guise of the party, or the resurgence of lovers who have broken up.
Today's class reunions are not full of a warm charm as before, but are labeled with various bad labels, such as "affair" and "underground affair".
Therefore, those who are alone have long since stayed away from such gatherings in order to avoid all kinds of bad influences and troubles brought by classmate gatherings.
When a woman reaches the age of forty, it is the key moment when feelings and marriage are tested, and at this time, the feelings of the husband and wife have long been not as glue-like as they were then, and the love is as deep as the sea.
Love will slowly transform into family affection, and the affection without blood relations is unreliable and stable, and it will be slowly exhausted in daily coexistence, so if you are not careful at this time, there may be a marriage crisis.
Generally speaking, men are very concerned about their other half going to a class reunion, and they are more mindful of the nature of the party and who is attending the party. If there is a partner's ex in it, or someone who hangs out in entertainment all day, then men don't want women to wade through this muddy water.
And the woman herself, should also do clean and self-righteous, if they are a group of classmates with integrity who purely eat a meal, they can go to the past to reminisce about the past; if they have ulterior motives, there are other arrangements, or do not go to this hilarity, so as not to bring trouble to themselves and provoke right and wrong.
When women reach the age of forty, it is not a "year of confusion", we will still be sad because of something, we will not think about tea, we are still curious and loving about new things, of course, for those who intrude into our lives, it is difficult to do not have a ripple in the heart.
At this time, we should pay more attention to our words and deeds and restrain our emotional changes.
We have to learn to cut our own circles, there is no need to be with those who are inconsistent, there is no need to participate in unnecessary dinners, especially those that affect our mood, life or marriage.