When I was young, I often heard a story, people who don't like bananas, you give him a basket of bananas, he will only feel bored, but others give him a peach, for his taste, just a moment can also be exchanged for his happiness. At that time, I often did not understand, did not understand why a basket of bananas was not as good as a peach, and even constantly questioned the authenticity of this story, until I grew up. In our relationships, we often fall into the misunderstanding that if we are good at being good to others in the way we are good at, others will be able to accept our love. But in the end, in fact, it only touched their own hard pursuit, but they could not exchange the other party's sincerity.
I once saw my friend's three-year relationship ruined. Just when we were together, a sentence from the boy, I am willing to give you a better future, touched the girl. However, I did not expect that the two were initially together because of this sentence, and eventually separated because of this sentence. At a poor age, it is a fortunate and regrettable thing to meet the person who wants to protect the most. So the boy can only sacrifice the current companionship of his girlfriend in exchange for a better life for the next two, he always repeatedly promised his girlfriend that when I have money in the future, I will accompany and make up for you.
But in the end, the girlfriend still resolutely packed her bags and left him without the slightest hesitation. The girl left a note at the table where they had eaten and chatted together, saying that you always said that you planned the future, but your attitude made me unsure whether you had me in your future. Originally, the boy thought that he had earned enough cars, houses, and tickets to bring happiness to the girls, but he did not think that what the girls needed was simply companionship, not the distant and future that could not be seen. Later, she married an ordinary person who was not as good as him, who had no money without him, and who did not have a car and a house, but lived contentment and happiness, and although he had achieved a little, he could no longer hold his hand.
We are always harsh on the people we love, exist in the way we are satisfied, and are always accustomed to expressing love in our own way, but we have never thought about whether the way we love people is what the other person needs and accepts, whether it makes the other person feel respected and free. Crowds gather and disperse, we will eventually understand. It is not unusual to meet love in a lifetime, it is not a problem to encounter love, it is difficult to understand and understand, and the important thing is to find the right way to love someone. May you meet the right person who can remain awake and independent whether you love or be loved.