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Middle age is a key stage in a person's life, and throughout life, it plays a role in carrying on from top to bottom. When people reach middle age, they bid farewell to the reckless conceit of youth, but also did not have the strength to grow old when they were old.
It is not an exaggeration to say that middle age is the most important stage for a person.
Someone once said that middle age determines the quality of old age.
This is true, the middle age makes a lot of choices, objectively affect the next life trajectory, and quality of life. Therefore, when people reach middle age, they must be cautious in their words and deeds, and be careful about the traps dug by life.
For many middle-aged people, the dinner table is a place where they often appear, and the performance at the dinner table can more or less see the next development of this person. Looking around, those middle-aged people who like to discuss these topics at the dinner table, in fact, it is difficult to have a chance.
One: Likes to discuss other people's family privacy
For Chinese, a simple "meal" often contains great wisdom, and the number of seats, dining habits, and even the topic of chat often contain a person's upbringing and knowledge. Not all topics are suitable for conversation at dinner, and not all casual mentions are just greetings.
In the TV series "Heart Residence", the Gu family has the habit of getting together once every two weeks for dinner, but not every party can get a good result, and even many times, it is actually unhappy.
Because at the dinner table, the great aunt would always talk about the privacy of relatives, talk with guns and sticks, and spy on the self-esteem of others.
As middle-aged people, we must all know that even close relatives are only relatives, and in public places like dinner, taking other people's privacy as a talking point is an immoral performance and a very hurtful behavior.
When a family is together, there are many things that can be talked about, and there is no need to satisfy their own selfish desires in the name of family affection, otherwise it will be difficult to have a job.
Two: Spread the negative energy of life
Whether it is a dinner party with colleagues in the company, or a lively family dinner, it is actually a thing worth enjoying and enjoying, everyone will drink and talk freely, talk about some interesting things in life, in order to let everyone get involved in it, and finally go home with happiness.
Therefore, at a happy dinner, if someone always likes to talk about something full of negative energy, it will only sweep away everyone's happiness and waste this rare reunion.
In "Heart Residence", Shi Yuan's mother complained about the whole because of her inner imbalance, and even at the dinner table where the family first met, she was still complaining endlessly, saying some embarrassing things, and finally mixed up with everyone and dispersed, and her son and daughter-in-law also felt suspicious.
In life, it is inevitable that some things are difficult and unpleasant, but we do not want to live a lifetime with this resentment, and ultimately make us better, in fact, it is those joyful emotions. Therefore, adjusting the mentality and facing life positively is the last word.
Hanging negative energy on the lips not only magnifies the harm of negative energy, but also affects the mood of others, which is really not right.
Three: Like to show off their achievements
When people reach middle age, they have experienced some things, and they have also known some people, and they have already had some insights into the world. Therefore, it is inevitable to be impetuous and like to talk about their achievements and ideas to others.
They believe that this is a manifestation of success, and they also believe that through such behavior, others can look up to themselves, and they do not know that the more they do this, the easier it is to be disliked.
In the TV series "Little Shed", whenever there is a family gathering, the mother played by Jiang Xin will forcibly show off her child, and then say that the child has won the first place, and ask the child to recite pi in front of the whole family, lest others not know how smart their son is and how well he can educate.
However, such a show is a kind of pressure for children, and it is a burden for others.
Indeed, it is a matter of happiness that people have achieved in middle age, whether it is their own career or the education of their children, no matter what aspect of outstanding achievements, it is an enviable and praised good thing.
However, no matter how big the achievements, should not be exaggerated by the parties, good is good, even if you do not say, others can see.
The performance on the meal reflects a person's values, but also reflects a person's maturity, adults, to learn to enjoy the pleasure of the meal itself, rather than using some meaningless content, to fill the silence in the meal, humble people, you will not be too bad at any time.
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