After reading the novel "Heart Residence", I found that many people on the Internet complained about Gu Qingyuan, saying that she was scum, and let Zhan Xiang be a spare tire for more than ten years, and finally did not give people a name.
I wondered, what kind of name do they want for Zhan Xiang? Gu Qingyuan's husband? With a woman who doesn't love herself, the spare tire is turned right, and Zhan Xiang will be happy?
It is not that Gu Qingyuan wants to let Zhan Xiang be a spare tire, it is that Zhan Xiang is used to caring about Gu Qingyuan and is used to the days of walking around her. He can choose not to be Gu Qingyuan's "spare tire", which he chose to do.
I would like to say that Gu Qingyu's person is probably because when she was chatting with Zhan Xiang, she found that Zhan Xiang seemed to have a heart for Feng Xiaoqin, and her male god Shi Yuan left her. She was hurt and felt abandoned. In order to keep Zhan Xiang, she inexplicably kissed Zhan Xiang.
Another time was when Shi Yuan was going to settle abroad, Zhan Xiang sent her back to her residence, and she invited Zhan Xiang upstairs to suggest that the relationship between the two people could be further developed. This is the rhythm of true love walking to find the spare tire, who can bear not to complain about it.
Gu Qingyuan's approach seemed inexplicable, but it was reasonable. Shi Yuan, the man she has loved for so long, is hard to be with others, and suddenly finds that it is not suitable, she is sad.
What's even sadder is that this man's now shatters all her fond memories of what she once had for him. Now he is no longer a gentleman, but a down-and-out man who has taken a lot of deviations in order to survive. All the beauty she had, this man didn't have. Two people together have a lot of unsuitable.
They ran into each other, but eventually separated because they were inappropriate. Gu Qingyuan, 40, was a little confused. Emotions are gone, and she needs to make sure that no one else loves her. Zhan Xiang, who has always been around, has become the object of her test of love.
At the same time as each test, she was also confused. Is it possible to live with someone you don't love in order to get married and start a family? Do you have to get married when you're older?
When Gu Qingyuan invited Zhan Xiang to go upstairs, Zhan Xiang refused. Gu Qingyuan breathed a sigh of relief. At that time, she knew clearly that she did not love this man and could not force herself to be with him. She thanked Zhan Xiang in her heart for his refusal. Even if Shi Yuan, who reunited with her, has all kinds of unbearable experiences, because of love, she is willing to accept and run into. But for Zhan Xiang, who did not love, no matter how much she gave her the opportunity and how she persuaded herself, she still could not fall in love with him and live with him.
For outsiders, Gu Qingyuan's behavior of looking back for a spare tire is very unruly. But for Gu Qingyuan, she just wanted to be happy. She wanted to see if she and Zhan Xiang were suitable. Some things, have not tried how to know that it is not appropriate? Try to give the other person both a chance and a chance for yourself.
Zhan Xiang also understood his heart when Gu Qingyuan refused again and again and gave him the opportunity again and again. For Gu Qingyuan, he was only a love and not an attachment. Because they have not received it, because they cannot receive it because of love, they think it is true love.
After a long time, he didn't know what he loved about Gu Qingyuan. It was Gu Qingyuan's temptation and contact with Feng Xiaoqin that made him understand his heart.
In the entanglement between Gu Qingyuan and Zhan Xiang, no one is sorry for anyone, who is who is the spare tire of whom. They all just want to be happy, and they want to be happy in their explorations again and again.
If Zhan Xiang is not willing to be the so-called spare tire, he can choose to leave.
Emotion is a process of repeated testing, repeated confirmation of one's own heart. As long as you don't hurt others, you can't overdo it in any way.
Love can break up, others are willing to pursue, willing to wait for you, so why be blamed?
We can't control other people's emotions, we can't make others love us, wait for us, and be with us. The only thing we can manage is our own emotions. As long as it is for your own good, do not hurt others. All practices are acceptable.
We can't ask the "spare tire" to do anything. We graciously ask them to pursue happiness, and they won't listen. Waiting or pursuing your own happiness is the "spare tire" of your own choice.