In Li Bai's poems, he once described the feelings between men and women in this way: "Enter my acacia door, know that I miss each other bitterly, Sauvignon Blanc long memory, short love Sauvignon infinity." ”
Because of acacia, so pick beans. In the relationship, we always have the most sensitive notes on our heartstrings, flowers dew moon shadow, heart warm.
Emotions are like blooming flowers, and flowers bloom and fail, in an instant. Maybe it's an early morning you don't care about, maybe it's a night you're asleep.
But man is still willing to be a cruel picker, even if the flowering period of love is so short.
Once many women are in love, their IQ is constantly declining, and losing their basic judgment is equivalent to losing themselves.
From the perspective of men, what they see in their eyes is you at this moment, no matter how good you have been in the past, but if you show these four characteristics when you are in love, then in the eyes of men, it will inevitably become cheap.
Let the other person "eat" you
Dickens said, "No one deserves your tears, and anyone who deserves your doing will not make you cry." ”
Some women are too active in love, and they show their cards early, let the other party touch you thoroughly, and eat you from the heart.
They always give too much, thinking that they have received a touching love, but in the end, only the woman herself is moved.
They forget that what they don't get is always the best, especially in the world of men. Mosquito blood and red roses, rice particles and white moonlight are actually the same person, just depending on how you choose to get along.
Men are naturally challenged, like to chase, and often unfinished things stir up their desires even more. When he no longer cares about a relationship and a person, how your future life develops depends on his character.
Excessive concern for substances
There is a kind of woman who pays too much attention to the substance, and she will try her best to get men to spend money for her.
But when you equate your feelings with money, others will accordingly equate you with objects.
The material exchange in feelings comes from the heart, not from the demand. There is not so much fairness in this world, and there is not so much equivalent exchange.
Many women are unbalanced in the face of feelings and feel that they always suffer losses, so they habitually ask men for something. But once you have this idea, then your relationship is no longer equal.
Men nowadays are very sensible, they don't like women who use themselves as ATMs, and the moment you reach out, he's already wary of you.
No life of your own
Gu Qingyu in "Heart Residence" has always had a person in her heart, and she has been looking forward to and waiting for so many years.
But when she saw Shi Yuan again, there was also a hint of loneliness and hesitation, and she once said this to her girlfriend: I always feel that something is different, as if the light on his body is gone.
Yes, Shi Yuan is constantly struggling with how to get money because he has to bear the debts of his family and the failure of the college entrance examination. He did not live the life he wanted, he also ignored the days he once longed for, his hobbies and interests were stranded, and the light on his body would of course gradually fade.
And if a woman revolves around men all day, does not think about her own life, and turns herself into a vassal of others, then her body must not attract the light of others.
Emotional intelligence is low and measured
Women's nobility is earned by themselves, and the relationship between people is sometimes a kind of run-in and game.
In relationships, emotional intelligence is a very important thing, if a woman's emotional intelligence is not enough, it will pull down the happiness in love and marriage. Sometimes "I know you" is more important in marriage than "I love you."
The higher the emotional intelligence of the woman, the more she will deal with interpersonal relationships between family, work and relatives and friends, and can also lower her husband and improve the happiness index of marriage.
Women with high emotional intelligence are also highly cultivated, they know how to control their emotions, and they can also speak well. They understand that good feelings do not come in waiting, but are attracted by their own light.
Complaining and being lazy will only push the person who loves you farther and farther. Women who are measured, know how to advance and retreat, do not spy on others, and have their own bottom line of life are more attractive.
I heard that there is a kind of bird that is born without feet, so it has to fly non-stop, and the moment it stops, it is death.
There is also a kind of woman in this world who can't live without emotion, so she has to keep looking for and giving, making herself "cheap". They forgot to take a break, smoothed out the wounds on their bodies, and sorted out their thoughts.
What they forget is that love will stop for you only when you become better. When you become good enough, you don't have to look for it, and good feelings will naturally knock on your door.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]