Is Feng Shaofeng's transformation a success?
Fading the arrogance of the spirited "Eight Brothers", the freshly dressed and angry horse boy Lang has become a thing of the past.
The embarrassment of Shi Yuan, the "depressed middle-aged" shi Yuan in "Heart Residence", seems to have a little healing with the extra-dramatic situation of the "former brother-in-law".
Feng Shaofeng's career fate is the same as the fate of Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu in the play, and after forcibly welding, I don't know whether it is joy or sorrow.
But of course, Feng Shaofeng and Shi Yuan only have one similar item, "divorce".
After all, when Kuo Shaoren and his top-notch wife enter the marriage hall, the social ordering is basically the same, unlike Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu in the play, which is the difference between the clouds and mud in the eyes of outsiders.
After seeing the reality of strong women and weak men and finally BE, I feel more and more that it is more unattainable than the amiable "high climber" and the peaceful mentality of the "high climber".
A few years ago, when the word "fishing for women" was just used, my friend expressed to me that she was not accustomed to the "encirclement and suppression" of this group of public opinion, and she said that "men can fish up much more fiercely than women."
In her eyes, the so-called "fishing for women" is actually just a bowl of expensive rice with youth and beauty, and after marriage, they are generally safe and keep to themselves, and they will not want to swallow all the man's family property.
But what about the "fishing man", there are a few people who eat soft rice in peace, which one is not foolish to turn the wife's family property into his own surname and eat the family?
Probably also represents a part of the sample, most of the marriages in life where women are strong and men are weak seem to have inevitably lit up red lights.
I think it can be divided into two categories: First, the man is already a "mountain wolf", holding a heart that has other plans to calculate, because the profit will be scattered;
The second is that the man really does not want to figure out what the woman is, but after the reality really comes, he finds that living with the weak self requires a very strong force, and he can't help but blame the other party for being strong, and the rift between the two people who love each other is getting heavier and heavier.
When I watched "Heart Dwelling", I felt that the screenwriter put two pairs of men and women in this mode very reasonably.
"Heart machine man" Gu Xin naturally has to match "silly white sweet" Ge Yue, "rich woman" is still better than "strong woman" to "suck blood".
The only daughter Ge Yue grew up in a kind and loving rich family, innocent and well-behaved, and was instilled from an early age the beautiful logic of "I am good to you, you will be good to me", without the fierce ability to recognize people, and did not deal with the term "wolf ambition".
Naturally, it is difficult for her to see her husband's "ghost fetus", or, in the compliment, they tend to attribute others to their own beauty out of their high regard for their family lineage.
Although Ge Yue's parents have strong assets and his father is still an official, they are all intellectuals who have come all the way up, have a kind of purity in their bones, care about superficial harmony and equality, and will not use cruel means to retaliate with for tat and counter violence with violence.
Therefore, when he heard Ge Yue's accidentally broadcast phone call and learned that his son-in-law had cheated on him, even if Ge Yue was very angry, the words he said were only "Gu Xin, I am very disappointed in you", and the way to express anger was only to be tough in language, and ultimately it was to be soft on the lips of the other party, which they called "the attitude of admitting mistakes".
Ge Father And Mother are not very utilitarian, and when they are in high places, they do not bully others, so they think that when they are at a low point, people will not "hold high and step low".
If there is, it is that their posture is not low enough.
So we can see that after her father fell off the horse, her mother-in-law sneered at her, and Ge Yue, who was pregnant, couldn't stand going back to her mother's house to cry, Ge Yue not only did not help his daughter to support him, but also taught his daughter to adjust his mood very seriously:
"You must be strong, others are good to you, you have to get by, others are not good to you, you have to get by, this is the skill, you know." 」
As for how to please his mother-in-law, Father Ge even let his daughter "take Jok Gang":
"No matter what your mother-in-law says to you, you laugh", "Whether she likes you or hates you, as long as you shoot the horse's ass firmly, she can't do anything with you"...
As far as you can understand, you can also understand why Ge Yue did not fall into the well after Gu Xin was imprisoned, but decided to give birth to a second child, rejected the divorce agreement signed by Gu Xin, and took on family responsibilities very "righteously":
"When you come out and leave, I will help you take care of your parents."
There are learners and examples, "leniency" to others, and resentment with virtue.
As opposed to Ge Yue Gu Xin, Gu Qingyu, who fought on his own, and Shi Yuan, a "middle-aged man in white clothes", combined, were more "pure love".
Gu Qingyu, the "big analyst" who most enjoys seeing through others, will certainly not be fooled by Gu Xin's drill camp men.
Because of the same-sex attraction and the repulsion of the opposite sex, smart people love themselves too much, and they must be paired with a silly "stunned youth" to gain a sense of security.
And Shi Yuan, his bug is actually not "stunned Qing", will run into trouble, he can't be a fatal injury, but the problem is that he can't calmly face his wife who cleans up the mess for him.
Shi Yuan is not a calculating, nor is he a "ma bao man" in the true sense.
Most of his mother's words he would not refute, but every time his mother showed his disdain for his daughter-in-law, Shi Yuan always had to speak out to defend his wife, and he did not listen to a word of his parents' accusations against Gu Qingyu.
Growing up in this worldly home, the first thing parents ask when they hear their son fall in love is "What to do?" What car to drive? Feeling that it is natural for the daughter-in-law to appear to see her mother-in-law, and also to encourage her son to share his wife's postmarital income when divorcing, It is not easy for Shi Yuan to be able to think straight and not to covet what he has not paid.
He has the traditional expectation of "man raising a family", so in front of his wife who can help him solve the family's primary problems, Shi Yuan unconsciously sees this as "favored by others".
In relationships with large differences in rank, the unintentional actions of the strong can be sensitively interpreted by the weak side as "do you look down on me/want to suppress me", and then internalized into self-doubt and externalized into an attack on the other side.
Growing up in a deformed family environment, Shi Yuan is only an ordinary person who tries to get rid of his original family, but he has not escaped, but he can't do it without regard to social vision.
For Gu Qingyu, an outstanding other half, he has never been able to appreciate and recognize from the bottom of his heart, so the ending of the two has become "he 'pulled' Gu Qingyu down".
The model of "contradicting" the mainstream of society will always be more instructed and collided with social expectations. In the so-called "high climbing" relationship, outsiders feel that the "high climbing party" is swallowing the needle, in fact, the "high climbing party" is not walking the tightrope.
There are very few adults who really have a humble heart.
Will the marriage of "strong women and weak men" step on the thunder?
Not necessarily, but it does require two more mature people to work together.
Still want to mention Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing as a cliché, from not being optimistic to being envied by the whole network, they all have a lot of flashes worth learning.
When Yi Nengjing married Qin Hao, the man's reputation was not as good as it is now, when the couple was shaped as "a female second marriage to marry a little wolf dog", and the popularity of the film emperor Qin Hao was stuck in the realization column, embarrassingly becoming "Yi Neng Jing's husband".
But Yi Nengjing didn't care about these "singing and fading voices" at all, and the "women" who had a high threshold of spiritual needs and wanted to find a place for their souls had to accept concessions in other aspects.
After the fire, Qin Hao once talked about the economic situation of the 29-year-old, literary and art films do not make money, his parents have always provided him with a good face when he was young, and he also used more than 10,000 yuan of thirty thousand yuan from his working parents to fill the social façade.
At the age of thirty, he still relies on his parents for help, so it is not difficult to understand why female celebrities enthusiastically want to get acquainted with Qin Hao's WeChat, but no one actively promotes the love affair with him.
Should it be said that Yi Nengjing is lucky, the "potential stock" is lurking, and it really became a "high performance" at nearly forty years old?
Perhaps it was not due to luck, but that she was smart not greedy and self-aware, and to have a high emotional supply, she had to be materially self-sufficient.
Speaking of reality, it is probably that Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing are combined, and part of the reason is that the woman is relatively economically free and does not have to rely on him.
But for his wife's strength, Qin Hao recognized it.
On the variety show, Qin Hao talked about Yi Nengjing, and did not hide that "he is not as good as others":
"One of the things I particularly appreciate about her is that she didn't do in my life. Because she has been raising a family since she debuted at the age of 16. ”
After saying that, Qin Hao's eyes lit up and added: "As far as the kind of thing on her body is concerned, it makes me feel very admired!" ”
It is rare that this psychological posture that we are accustomed to women to men is generously spoken from a man's mouth, who is frank and relaxed, and the light in his eyes is probably "love".
I have always felt that the relationship between "strong women and weak men" is always the reason why Lao Yan is flying apart, probably because few men will really "show weakness".
Peaceful "showing weakness" is not a cunning that wants to gain something, nor is it a self-loathing "mess", but on the basis of treating women equally, it is possible to admit that the other party is superior to themselves.
It is not difficult to accept applause, it is difficult to give applause to others, and a happy love marriage must be inseparable from mutual appreciation from the heart.