For marriage, George Bernard Shaw once said a very classic sentence: those who want to get married should get married, and those who want to be single should remain single, and in the end you will regret it anyway.
This sentence is simply a portrayal of several young couples in "Heart Residence". Especially Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyu remained single until he reunited with his first love, Shi Yuan. Although the family knows the reason, urges with affection, and some relatives are sarcastic; and there are excellent upstarts like Zhan Xiang who are chasing after him, Gu Qingyu still chooses to be single.
Because she can afford it. She can not rely on others.
When she met her first love, this calm, objective, and hard-working professional woman in the workplace showed the unknown side of a little woman.
Although others can see at a glance that she and Shi Yuan are too different in all aspects, Shi Yuan and her have a feeling of being "wrapped up".
This is also the reason why Shi Yuan has always rejected Gu Qingyu's kindness and resolutely drawn a clear line with her in terms of property funds.
But even though both worked hard, the marriage was forced to end because of many aspects of inappropriateness.
In the end, the two are still not right.
Door-to-door pairs refer not only to money, but also to the spiritual level. But the appearance of money and other things can be seen at a glance, and it will most interfere with the feelings of the two people.
There are three couples in "Heart House" who explain how bad marriages that are not right at home are.
At this point, the dashing Gu Qingyu is like this, and so is the foreign daughter-in-law Feng Xiaoqin.
Gu Qingyu Shiyuan
The emotional line between Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan makes people look entangled, and their marriage also makes people feel awkward.
The reason is that they are not only wrong in the material door-to-door, but also on the spiritual level.
At the material level, Shi Yuan was far inferior to Gu Qingyu's.
Gu Qingyu has no sustenance in addition to feelings, and has become an elderly "leftover woman", and the others are smooth sailing. In the material, it is even more wonderful to live out the modern woman.
In his twenties, he bought a house on his own and moved out of his home to live independently. In his thirties, he bought a second apartment.
You must know that the house gu Qingyu bought is not in the suburbs, not in the second- and third-tier cities, but in Shanghai, the magic capital.
Having two properties in the metropolis at a young age is definitely a winner in life.
But Shi Yuan is different. Since leaving Shanghai as a child and living with his parents as a young man in the countryside, Shi Yuan's quality of life has deteriorated.
Plus there was something wrong with the college entrance examination,
As a result, the mother was overly anxious and suffered from various mental and chronic diseases. Because the sky-high cost of treatment is owed millions of dollars in debt
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After marrying Gu Qingyu, he even affected Gu Qingyu because he could not pay the arrears.
The loan shark company not only sent something to threaten Shi Yuan, but also splashed paint on Qingyu's house.
This matter is still spreading in the company, and everyone knows that Gu Qingyu has a husband who owes a huge amount of money.
But Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's door is not right, and what really makes their relationship awkward is the spiritual door asymmetry.
The Shi family used to be a large family, and many of their ancestors were military officer-level figures, so it is not too much to say that the Shi family is a relative of the emperor and the state.
Shi Yuan's grandfather wore a "foreign" watch that no one else had seen or seen; when Shi Yuan was very young, there was already a piano at home, and at that time, the piano could only be seen and played by aristocratic families.
By now, that piano is an antique object.
At that time, Gu Qingyu's family was very ordinary, living in a very small north-facing house. Every time Gu Qingyu looked for Shi Yuan to play, he had to go around a row of houses to a small bungalow in the sun.
It is estimated that Gu Qingyu felt that even the air under Shi Yuan's house was different.
Because of this, Shi Yuan's mother was worried about Gu Qingyu's family situation. Although he fell in the middle of his own family road, the middle qi that came out of the noble family was still there, and the stubbornness was not willing to show weakness.
Shi Yuan's mother always felt that her son was very good, and there was a noble blood flowing in his bones. And their Gu family is a small people in the city. Even if Gu Dad is a middle school teacher, this is also a small trouble in the eyes of Shi Mu.
In the end, Shi Mu felt that the two families were different.
That's what makes this marriage awkward.
The husband and wife are not economically equal, and one parent stubbornly involves the relationship between the grandparents and forcibly joins the drama of class inequality. It's hard to get a good marriage.
Gu Xin Ge Yue
This pair is the most infuriating.
Ge Yue's understanding and well-behavedness are in stark contrast to Gu Xin's unscrupulousness and indifference.
It's not worth it for the Ge family.
At that time, Ge Father was a figure of the deputy department level, and Ge Yue was his only daughter, if you want to pick the conditions, what kind of son-in-law can't pick it.
But Father Ge took care of Xin's honest duties and worked steadily, and he felt that he was a potential stock, and his daughter would not have a bad life with him in the future.
From this point of view, Ge Yue's father is actually quite pragmatic, unlike the kind of leader who can put up a shelf.
It's a pity he looked at the wrong person.
Gu Xin was just honest on the face, in essence, this person was cold from the inside to the outside. Like his father, he still has an indifferent attitude towards his wife.
Gu Xin originally talked about a very beautiful, model-like girl, but it wasn't long after they separated that they were with Ge Yue.
For this reason, the girl also openly appeared at the wedding and called Gu Xin over to ask him why he did not keep his promise.
In this way, Gu Xin left the girl and was with Ge Yue, a large part of the reason was for his own career.
This kind of conditional marriage contract is the most important, because desire is bottomless.
Through the marriage contract, after the promotion and wealth, he will feel mentally empty and feel that the wife in front of him is not his favorite. Therefore, it will often stage the kind of drama of the phoenix man crossing the river and demolishing the bridge.
And once the family suffers a change, the betrayal of the other half will come sooner.
Just like Gu Xin. At the beginning, you can put up with Ge Yue, although you don't like her, you will still deal with it superficially; when you treat the old man, the mother-in-law is the same; but once Ge Father has an accident and the Ge family falls, Gu Xin is the first to expose his own nature.
It was cold to Ge Yue's bones, and there was no longer a superficial perfunctory. Not to mention the respect for the elderly.
Gu Lei Feng Xiaoqin
Although Gu Lei has a fat head and big ears and a stupid appearance, Gu Lei in the original work is still a cripple, but Feng Xiaoqin still decided to marry him.
Because he is an authentic Shanghainese. Feng Xiaoqin dreams of settling down in Shanghai and having her own house.
After giving birth to Gu Lei's son Little Tiger, this idea is even more justified.
But as a result, Gu Lei lost his life for this.
From Gu Lei's point of view, unless you have something that can suppress the other party, otherwise once the other party gets what she wants, it is difficult to say whether the family in the back is still not her own.
Gu Qingyu's analysis of Feng Xiaoqin's paragraph is actually not unreasonable, but no one has said it so bluntly.
Feng Xiaoqin not only has a younger sister, but also a son, Feng Danian. The younger sister had already taken her to live with the Gu family, and it was only a matter of time before Feng Danian came.
If they bought a house and moved out to live, their sister and Feng Danian would naturally live in it, and the old man here would be in charge.
From Feng Xiaoqin's point of view, even if she is kind enough to let Gu Lei grow up, she wants to make this family good. But this process is very tortuous, not to mention, even whether it can be completed is a big question mark.
This is because when choosing a person, you do not hesitate to choose money, then in some aspects such as spirit, such as appearance, etc., you can only retreat to the second place.
If the other party can't come according to your pace, you can only swallow it smoothly, isn't this your personal choice? Blame no one else.
And also
Since Feng Xiaoqin chose to marry Gu Lei for the sake of Shanghai hukou and house, she had to endure what others said about you and the suspicion of the other family' suspicion of you.
You want to get a free house and let others treat you like a guest, which is also a great luck.
Because all of this comes from the wrong door, which is a result that can be foreseen from the beginning.
In general, the marriage of the right door is not only on the economic level, but also on the spiritual level. Of course, if one of the levels can make up for the shortcomings of the other and bring the two sides into balance, it is also possible.
But if neither of the two levels adds up to balance the seesaw, then the marriage will be shaky.
But you know, in fact, what really dresses up the marriage of the two people is not that the superficial door is not right, but because of the various psychological struggles, tortures, and distortions brought about by this.
As Yi Shu said in "Chenghuan": In the face of marriage, love is too small, and the real resistance is not the pressure and low-mindedness of others, but the genes, sensitivity, and fragility flowing in the bones.
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