Flash marriage is not uncommon in today's society, but such a combination is it true love? See the nature of marriage, or impulsive choices? And will the decision to do so be happy?
Whether it is a stranger who knows each other on a blind date or an acquaintance since childhood, in fact, meeting someone you like is a blessing and a happy thing, but liking and getting married really can't be confused, because there are too many things to consider in marriage, not just appreciation and heartbeat
Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan in "Heart Residence" are small, classmates, the dream lover in each other's hearts, but also the woman has been looking for a crush for 20 years, after the reunion, the woman does not mind each other's academic qualifications, the situation resolutely decided to choose flash marriage, it seems that there must be a lover to eventually become a family, but the result is actually already doomed.
Most women tend to be easily carried away by the love they have woven.
Flash marriage, may not be able to see whether the two are really suitable
Marriage needs to consider the level of both parties, the pursuit and the value that can be brought to the family and each other, Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan have a foundation of feelings, mutual appreciation and admiration is not false, but the two from the family environment is not the same to the social communication level are too different.
Door-to-door pair is not only the family's income background, but also whether the two are in the same class, which means that the vision cognition is more related to whether the communication is smooth.
Women think that the heart is good, and under the perception of men, it is full of humiliation and feels that the self-esteem is hurt. No one is right or wrong, it's just that from the very beginning they've been on different paths. And if you can interact for a period of time, you may be able to make a more rational choice.
Flash marriage is not a wise choice, and after the passion, it is more gap and disappointment
Gu Qingyu bought a house with memories of childhood memories, and his heart and mind can finally quickly live in a nest with the dream Prince Charming of his choice, but in the end, the new house has not yet had time to live, and the two divorced.
Long-lasting love arises from the combination of emotions and economy.
So flash marriage may find true love, but it may not be happy, and it may not be long-lasting, you must be clear that all things have irreversible facts, and even probability problems.
Therefore, I really feel that flash marriage is really not the best decision, before we choose this person, what needs to be weighed is not only the character, but also the family quality, each other's economy and the pursuit and planning of future life, even if you have been small, even if you have a short period of interaction, it does not represent whether they are still each other's original appearance after separation.
It may not be said that marriage after a long period of interaction will be happy, but only after experiencing the polishing of reality can we find out whether more disharmony can be accepted and endured, and can we better understand and get along in future married life.
How long does it take to get married?
Between half a year and a year
The book "Intimate Relationships" divides the development of gender relations into four stages: moon halo - disillusionment - introspection - revelation
Between half a year and a year, it seems to be a relationship, but basically it is still in the state of emotional moon halo, and it is difficult to accurately understand the most real side of the other party.
"Who isn't in love at first sight?" However, love wrapped in sugar paper is beautiful and poisonous
Attracting to each other and then feeling romantic and warm, these all stem from needs. After the demand, it is what we often call the expectation.
We will unconsciously add understanding and expectations for our lovers and expand our imagination of the future
We can't change a person, and we can't let go of unrealistic expectations.
The love of the moon halo phenomenon is flashy, and the most needed basis for recognizing its truth is time, not simply intelligence.
In love for 2 to 3 years
In fact, today's love mode is diversified, can be in contact for so long in most cases, is not a different place or a trial marriage of cohabitation state, so 2 years seems to be relatively the best time to marry, although the original passion has passed, but at the moment still choose to stay with each other, there is attachment, but also prove that the problems on each other you can endure.
It is recommended not to flash marriage, does not mean that the longer the relationship is better, once more than 3 years or even 5 years, then it is actually difficult to choose marriage, because it has been numbly aesthetic, and even has had enough of the atmosphere of getting along and the small problems on the other party, really do not want to enter the marriage and continue to torture their second half of life, the reason why they are not divided, may not be because of love, but there is no determination or lack of a little external force to promote.
Not willing to accept the status quo, but temporarily powerless to change, so delay does not mean that love, but it is not yet time. I always feel that there may be better options, so that I can't just be purely in a relationship. Even if you end up getting married, it becomes a kind of concession.
Recognizing a person and seriously managing a relationship does take time, but it is not indefinitely more and more fragrant, in the case of their own reality, maximize the review of each other, in order to make the future marriage avoid a lower probability of misfortune or even separation.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.