The 36-episode "Heart Residence" is still on the air, and the parents involved in this urban love drama are very attractive, of course, more attractive is about those things in marriage.
What is the nature of marriage?
The questions are simple and the answers are complex.
Some people say that in marriage, everyone has to pay a price, but also to take back something, which is the law of supply and demand.
Some people say that the door of marriage, do not blindly follow up. Marriage is responsible, and going in and out at will inevitably put you in a dilemma.
The most famous belongs to Mr. Qian Zhongshu's summary: Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out.
There is also the kind that the ancients said: marriage and marriage should pay attention to the right door. There are countless answers, but for the doorman, this statement has a certain accuracy and universality in marriage.
There are many marriages in "Heart Residence", each pair of marriages can say the reason why they wanted to get married in the first place, Feng Xiaoqin is to stay in Shanghai, there is a place to stand, Gu Xin abandoned his ex-girlfriend and Ge Yue to get married, but the other party's family background may bring help to his career.
However, for Gu Qingyu, it is a flash marriage under the impulse of love. Gu Qingyu, who has unlimited rational thinking in the workplace and analyzes his brother's marriage relationship, is even more the head of the Tao, and as soon as he encounters his so-called true destiny, he ignores everything.
Reuniting with her long-lost first love made her start to be upset, in fact, it should not be called first love, just the heart of the ignorant girl in high school, but Gu Qingyu could not see clearly.
Therefore, with the beautiful fantasies of high school, Gu Qingyu's flash marriage stunned everyone, and also made Zhan Xiang, who had a crush and pursued her for many years, secretly hurt himself.
Feng Xiaoqin is also not optimistic about this marriage, and can only comfort Zhan Xiang: she is a person who is so smart, and when things come out to her, she will not say a word.
Not only was Gu Qingyu very excited, but a somewhat passive Zhan Xiang failed to block the other party's enthusiasm like fire, and also began to have a hot head, and finally the two secretly concealed their families and secretly received a marriage license.
This kind of operation is really difficult to understand, the parents of both sides did not say that they were not allowed to fall in love and get married, why hide it?
Maybe these two don't understand why this is so. It is estimated that from the bottom of their hearts, the two people feel that the gap and the door are not right, so they will operate in this way.
However, what kind of results will such a flash marriage bring?
Still that old saying, don't listen to the ancients, suffer losses in front of you.
01
In "Heart Residence", Gu Qingyu has always had a heart disease, and Shi Yuan, who was once a green plum bamboo horse, has always existed in her mind.
Therefore, each of her ex-boyfriends has transformed each other according to the appearance of their dreams, and there is an interesting requirement that the other party wear a white shirt. No one likes to be transformed.
As a result, the boyfriend has changed stubble after stubble, and he has never found the one who can talk about marriage.
Love is not going well, career is smooth. After graduating from a famous university, Gu Qingyu went to a well-known investment bank, with an annual income of millions, and properly entered the middle class, anyway, there are three words: not bad money.
What about Shi Yuan, who has been wearing a white shirt in his dream?
Because his mother put the wrong medicine on her own initiative, Shi Yuan, who took the college entrance examination, dozed off in the examination room, and as a result, he fell behind Sun Shan and only went to a vocational high school.
After returning to Shanghai, Shi Yuan, who has super self-esteem, did not go looking for Gu Qingyu, but silently worked hard for life.
It cannot be said that he does not work hard, but due to his mother's illness, this is not an annual income of millions, but a million debts, three words: very short of money.
For the sake of money, I did everything, and for the sake of money, I also started the business of fake marriage, and marriage and divorce became commonplace.
Logically, the circle of life is already very different, and the places in and out will be different in probability, so that Shanghai is so big, so that two people cannot intersect in the future.
However, fate is sometimes so strange.
Because Gu Qingyu wanted to buy a house with a fake marriage, he met Shi Yuan, who came to apply, and fate let these two meet again.
More than twenty years of dreams became a reality, although the reality is very bone,but it can't stop the small flame of love from turning into a raging fire, and finally the two of them took the marriage license regardless of it.
But is marriage just a matter of two people?
Yes and no, marriage is indeed a matter for two people, and has nothing to do with others. However, behind the marriage there are also their own original families, as well as the differences in their respective three views and personalities after many years of not seeing.
These hidden contradictions were not considered by both, laying a time bomb for marriage.
02
Why is it agreed by more and more people is not a superstitious statement, but has a certain theoretical basis.
One is the issue of the original family.
People who grow up under similar economic conditions will most likely converge in the three views and cognition, and their original families will be more in tune.
The second is the cognitive aspect.
People who grow up in a similar educational background will also have similar knowledge structures in probability, and communication will be smoother.
The impact of large families on small families is enormous. In a sense, marriage is not just a matter of husband and wife, but also involves whether the families of both parties are compatible.
As far as the original family is concerned, although Gu Qingyu's father was surprised by his daughter's flash marriage and had ideas in his heart, he was still very polite on the scene and did not give a look to the new son-in-law.
The factor of instability is Shi Yuan's mother. This person has a very good spirit of A Q, and often laments that his ancestors were once rich and belonged to a noble family, but now they have fallen.
Even if the son is married, he looks down on his daughter-in-law Gu Qingyu in his heart, thinking that his son belongs to the other party, but the other party has taken advantage of the sky.
Even in the case of the two relatives meeting at home, Shi Mu is also too much nonsense, carrying a gun and a stick, showing a sense of superiority from the language, A Q is full of spirit, making Gu Dad very speechless. This made Gu Qingyu very angry, after all, letting her father worry about her marriage made her very annoyed.
Shi Mu's theory of origin has become one of the contradictions of the couple, the marriage of the two has encountered a severe test, and how to deal with the problem of the original family has caused both parties a headache.
Although the original family is a headache, after all, they do not live together, and they can still restrain themselves.
However, the difference in the three views and cognition of the two people will leave greater hidden dangers.
03
Different cognitions will form an embarrassing situation in which chickens talk to ducks.
After years of not seeing each other, coupled with the serious difference in their respective growth environments, Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan did not realize that the gap between the two was already very large.
This gap is not only a gap in wealth, but also a discord in the three views and cognition. Gu Qingyu treats marriage as a gratuitous payment, spending a lot of money for Shi Yuan, and even in order to take care of the other party's self-esteem, he secretly helped Shi Yuan's mother change the kidney money advance, and also staged a charity fund stem.
It's just that kindness doesn't lead to good results.
This kindness seemed to Shi Yuan to be deceitful and hurt his self-esteem. The understanding and communication between the two on this matter is not at all on the same level.
Not only in this matter, but on many issues, the misalignment of the communication between the two can be seen everywhere in the play, can such a marriage last?
In fact, the problem is mainly due to Shi Yuan's body.
One of the reasons is that Shi Yuan's self-esteem is too strong.
It cannot be said that Shi Yuan is very independent, but his cognition limits him to a small range.
In the play, what can be felt is that in love, if the two talk about love, there is no problem at all, but when it comes to money, the two will be contradictory.
This is related to Shi Yuan's own self-esteem and machismo, afraid that others will say that he eats soft rice, so he is very clear with Gu Qingyu in terms of money.
Therefore, it is better to be chased for debts, and even Gu Qingyu is involved, that is, he does not take his wife's money to repay debts, and it is estimated that he will do more irrational things in the future.
The second reason is that Shi Yuan's efforts are in the wrong direction.
In this regard, we should learn from Feng Xiaoqin.
Although Feng Xiaoqin's cultural level is not high, she also knows that in order to open a nursing home, she invests in a nursing home every day. Finally impressed Zhan Xiang with his sincerity, successfully opened the nursing home, if there is no accident in the follow-up, it should be able to harvest a piece of the world out.
Shi Yuan worked very hard, but his efforts were to exert efforts everywhere, to fight for physical work.
Lead groups, do translations, teach children English, and play emcee.
In order to make money, Shi Yuan's eighteen martial arts took turns on the field, which could not be described as hard work.
However, what I deeply feel in the play is that these can make money, but it is hard money, and there is no long-term solution.
If he is willing to calm down and think about it, such as directly asking Gu Qingyu to get some money to pay off the debt, letting himself go light, and then thinking about how he should do things in the future, he can completely get out of his own world.
For example, to be a celebrant to get a good reputation, can be bigger and stronger, in this regard, dig a good job, open a small company, set up a team to start a business, maybe you can also make a name for yourself.
However, he is not partial, he has to rely on personal efforts to make money.
The lack of cognition also makes him choose wrong. Obviously knowing that entering the investment bank is for others to take care of Qingyu's face, he still wants to go in, just to not disappoint his mother, destined to become a pawn in the hands of others.
In order to earn the money he can earn, Shi Yuan is estimated to give up some principle issues later, just for the so-called earning of his own money, without his wife's money.
It is precisely because there is a gap in the perception of things that the pattern of Shi Yuan is too small and is destined to take the extreme route.
Sighing, Gu Qingyu's piece of sincerity can be exchanged for a place of chicken feathers.
"Heart Dwelling" continues, and what kind of situation the couple will eventually end up in, the clear-eyed people have seen the result.
Why is that?
It has to be said that the inconsistency in the three views and cognition of the two people caused by the wrong door is the root cause.
However, the majority of adults are very stubborn, and they are in the minority who can really change themselves. The love dream that was once there was never a reason to enter marriage, but unfortunately, at this point, Gu Qingyu, who seemed rational, also became a little magical and emotional.
Why are there so many girls in love with brains?