Wen \ Jiang Zuo Mei Niang, Mu Ye
Recently, in the pursuit of "Heart Residence", there are two women that I can't forget, one is Gu Qingyu and the other is Ge Yue.
They all count the types of marriage upside down, their in-laws' conditions are not as good as the woman's family, and the in-laws are considered to be high-climbing. But none of them were to be seen.
To be honest, marrying them in an environment like Shanghai means that their sons can struggle for decades less, and even the house and car do not have to worry about, so that the in-laws as a whole are across classes, and they will be more squeamish in front of their relatives, and their actual material life will be better and better with the help of their daughter-in-law.
Yes, it is reasonable to say that for the sake of these benefits, the mother-in-law should not be embarrassed by the daughter-in-law.
But no, these two mothers-in-law are partial to work, the daughter-in-law filial piety to them, they did not have half a bit of gratitude, but also took the initiative to provoke the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, either sneering at the daughter-in-law, or all kinds of provocations.
The most tragic is Gu Qingyu, she is better than the in-laws, she is also stronger than Shi Yuan, to say that the degree of upside-down paste, she is the most powerful, but she lives like a mother-in-law's pump.
Go to the in-laws' house to eat, put down the body to talk, and desperately praise the mother-in-law, but the people just don't appreciate it, they hate her at every turn, they don't like her bad birth, and they also put on the posture of the big family, as if the person who climbed high is not Shi Yuan, but she Gu Qingyu.
The audience couldn't understand if they wanted to break their heads, how could Gu Qingyu's mother-in-law be so confused? Obviously, Gu Qingyu crushed her son in everything, knew cold and hot for her, and was very filial piety, why did she not like Gu Qingyu? Why is Gu Qingyu's kindness to her all flattering to her? Where did her sense of self-goodness and superiority come from?
And listen to my analysis.
01. The mother-in-law said a private word and broke the window paper
After Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu received the certificate, Gu Qingyu directly took Shi Yuan to the family gathering, and the Gu family saw that Shi Yuan did not look down on him at all because of his low income, but Gu Qingyu's mother-in-law was not satisfied with Gu Qingyu and had been working hard to oppose the marriage.
Her reasons for opposition made many people feel a little strange, she was disgusted with Gu Qingyu's bad origins, and felt that Shi Yuan had suffered a loss by marrying her.
Therefore, Gu Qingyu came to the door, and she deliberately let her girlfriend appear with her daughter.
This matter, from the perspective of etiquette, that is Gu Qingyu's mother-in-law doing something wrong, this is the daughter-in-law's first visit to see her parents, but she came to such a show, which makes the daughter-in-law more embarrassed? It is also easy to offend the girlfriend, this mother-in-law is really emotional intelligence.
Even Shi Yuan's father couldn't help but say after Gu Qingyu left: I really don't understand you, what do you really want to do.
At this time, a private sentence of the mother-in-law can be regarded as saying her truest voice. She said:
"I just want her to know that we Shi Yuan married her and she took advantage of her." Let her have a little number in her heart, I invited huang sister to come, that is, I wanted her to see what kind of person Shi Yuan originally wanted to marry, so that she would not be confused, and thought that we had taken advantage of her. ”
You see, is she disgusted with Gu Qingyu's origin? And really! Although this reason is not quite speechless, even Shi Yuan can't listen to it, and he said back to his mother:
"You're picking someone up on the road right now and asking if your son is picking her or if she's picking your son." Who can't figure it out? ”
And Shi Yuan's mother was still not convinced, and continued to pick out Qing Yu's mistakes:
"This look ah is also general, you said that there is no blessed face, her eyes, very content, obviously feel very bad in the heart, the mouth makes you very comfortable, feel how to be a few years older than our family Shi Yuan, others say that everything is good, right right......."
You see, the birth is not right, what you say and do is wrong, all the provocations behind this are actually due to the origin of this mother-in-law who did not care at all.
The audience was particularly angry when they saw this, saying: "Gu Qingyu is not born well, her mother-in-law is born well?" ”
Someone said, origin? Mother Shi is now a broken child, and Gu Qingyu's current home may be at least a middle class. You are right, but the origin that Mother Shi is talking about here is not the present, but the original.
Shi Yuan's mother's ancestors were a big family, which could be seen from the thick photo album she showed Gu Qingyu, how beautiful their family used to be.
And the original Gu family, once rented the Shi Yuan family's house in the alley, so, such a comparison, in the heart of Shi Yuan's mother, naturally feels that they are still famous, and your Gu family, at best, is an upstart.
02. The chain of contempt of Shanghainese
Some people say, is this comparison meaningful? After all, this time and another time, we feel meaningless, but the native Shanghainese, that is very meaningful, because the difference is big, simply put, that is, our Shi family is a pure blood Shanghainese, you Gu family is now no matter how beautiful, you are just a foreigner.
When it comes to Shanghainese with pure blood, we have to mention the "old kra" family in Shanghai. Old Carat refers to a group of people who once led the times during the old Shanghai period.
Most of this group of people are from famous families and have received a very "westernized" education, which is not affordable for ordinary people, plus they have also experienced the ups and downs of the Ten Mile Ocean, and have also tried those so-called advanced and elegant lifestyles. Naturally knowledgeable, full of class superiority, in the way of culture and leisure can also lead the way, living in the envious eyes of everyone in that era.
Shi Yuan's mother is one of them, and these tastes are not only what money can give, but what class can give, which is the capital they are proud of. If you watch the drama carefully, you can see from Shi Yuan's mother's flowing tea art that her origin is superior, and you can also see that the elegant tone that she nourished in this kind of generous origin only belongs to the old Shanghai period.
Such people, even though they may fall into disgrace after many years, always mentally they must always look down on all beings. I suddenly thought of Jiang Nansun's grandmother in "Flowing Golden Years", she was actually in tune with Shi Yuan's mother.
In Shanghai, there has always been a deep chain of contempt.
A classmate of mine who reads Fudan once told me that in Shanghai, if you are a reader at Jiaotong University or Fudan University, then you will basically not be looked down upon, and it is difficult for other people to say.
What he said is what he personally experienced, among the people of Shanghai, the old aristocrats look down on the elite, because the old aristocrats have a family foundation and an elegant lifestyle, and the elites! They really live too tired and too unethical; the elite look down on the commoners, and the elites like Gu Qingyu are the elites, who earn millions of dollars a year, and the commoners may not be able to earn in their lifetime; the locals look down on the suburbans, because the people in the downtown are well-informed! And suburban people look down on foreigners, isn't that because outsiders are all countrymen?
Therefore, in Shi Yuan's mother's heart, even if Gu Qingyu was strong, he was just an elite with a humble origin, and where was their high status as an old Shanghai aristocrat!
03. Mei Niang said
In addition, Gu Qingyu's backward pursuit gave her mother-in-law the illusion that her son was super excellent, which deepened her sense of superiority, although she was so poor that she could not even pay the medical expenses, but the origin of a large family alone was enough to make her suppress Gu Qingyu at the psychological level.
Therefore, she is not satisfied with letting her son only marry a "nouveau riche" miss like Gu Qingyu, but wants the daughter of a real "big family" like Huang Sister's daughter, which is her truest psychology.
Marriage is really not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. Regardless of Gu Qingyu's motives, her "poverty alleviation" marriage is beneficial to the Shi family and unfavorable to herself in our opinion.
But the world thinks that she is lowly married, but her mother-in-law still thinks that she is high climbing, is it very mysterious? Women, it is best to marry or choose the door is better, because love can make each other wear filters, let people of different ages, different identities, different statuses flatten, or even elevate, but life will make everything appear archetype.
Here, I don't care about Qingyu, I don't blame the mother-in-law who suffers from bipolar disorder, and I don't want to say who is high and who is low, I just want to say, never marry the man who made you stick upside down.
Because you paste upside down, you will not be appreciated, but will be more despised, you see priceless love, their eyes are naked sophistication.
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