Compared with Yi Nengjing's two high-profile marriages, I think Yi Nengjing's personal charm and talent attract me more.
Although Yi Nengjing's original family makes Yi Nengjing insecure, it is not difficult to see from the small essays she writes every time she writes that she is a delicate, brave, sincere, talented and charming person.
She has also been very successful in educating her children, and her son Enli has been controversial for wearing women's gear, and has also been subjected to a year-long cyberbullying, with the paparazzi chasing him to the bathroom, and then the headline of the report reads: It turns out that he went into the men's bathroom.
But everyone found that no, these attacks and cyberbullying did not affect Enli, nor did they change her wearing and enjoyment of beautiful clothes.
He used his kindness to digest the malice of some people towards him. It wasn't until later that these people who were malicious and hostile to him got to know him again and found that he was a person with three positive views, sunny and cheerful, and his own pursuit of beauty.
Yi Nengjing gave Enli enough respect and freedom, let the child be himself, have his own judgment, and have a very stable core, which is Yi Nengjing's greatest success as a mother in educating her children.
Yi Nengjing's wisdom and charm are inseparable from these three cores.
Yi Nengjing once said in an interview: There are three sources of a person's core stability.
First of all: a person must have a skill that no one else can take.
For Yi Nengjing, her ability to express herself in writing is something that no one can take away, she can write small essays as she says, write in the car, write in a sleeping place, she can write anywhere.
She has published books and is the author of best-selling books such as "Last Words of Life and Death", "Sodom City", "Life and Death", "The Beautiful Master's Changing Face" and other bestsellers.
Her writing is also loved by everyone, her expressive skills, and her control of words are just right.
Secondly: economic resources.
A person should have a stable source of income, which can satisfy your material needs as well as your needs for the spiritual world.
You can go on a trip, or you can buy what you think is the best in your material state.
Yi Nengjing mentioned that there are two relationships between people and the world, your relationship with people, and your relationship with material perfection.
And finally: independence of personality.
A person must have an independent personality, so how to cultivate an independent personality?
Yi Nengjing mentioned that the cultivation of personality independence is actually very simple, that is: seeing, absorbing, and reading. It's okay to read people, and it's okay to read books.
In the final analysis, there are three main sources of a person's core stability: a skill that others can't take, a stable financial source, and an independent personality.
Talking about regret, she said: "The ultimate result of living in the world is to achieve no regrets at the moment when you close your eyes, but there are too many blocks in this no regrets."
When it comes to your daughter asking herself, Dad is making money, why do you have to go out to work and be so busy?
Yi Nengjing said: "I want to be your mother, but also to be myself." ”
Talking about the education of children, teacher Yin Jianli said: "Give him the greatest dependence and love when he was a child, and learn to be the first to send him away when he grows up." ”
Yi Nengjing said: A decent exit is really a very painful thing. Even now, I miss my son very much, not that he is an adult, I don't miss him anymore. I still miss us traveling together, drinking coffee together, reading a book together, watching a movie together.
But I'm not that character anymore, and he doesn't need a friend like a mom, he has real friends of his own, and I'm more of a watchman now.
"The greatest achievement of parents is that your child can leave you on their own and complete their own life," she said. In order to exit the day gracefully, you must love your child well. ”
Every time I read Yi Nengjing's essays, interviews and speeches, I can gain something from them and gain a kind of strength.