After watching a few episodes of "Heart Residence", I can't help but feel that the screenwriter Teng Xiaolan's writing skills are worthy of being the winner of the Lu Xun Literature Award.
In her pen, everyone in the Gu family looks so pitiful and hateful, and the multi-faceted nature of people is vividly reflected. Everything points to: there is no perfect person.
Gu Lei, steady and stable is suitable for marriage, but he is satisfied with the status quo and has no opinion.
Gu Qingyu, rich and beautiful but lacking in life wisdom, always points fingers with a lofty posture.
Gu Father, who is kind and reasonable, but has less courage to be the master of the family, and mistakenly regards his daughter as the head of the family.
Feng Xiaoqin, kind and hardworking but good at calculation, always carries out moral kidnapping with the attitude of "I am poor and I am reasonable".
From the perspective of the personality of each character, the screenwriter Teng Xiaolan is already telling the audience that people are multi-faceted, there is no absolute good or bad, only different angles and different feelings.
From what angle you stand, you can see what kind of things you get and what kind of feelings you get. These people in the Gu family seem to be right and wrong, seemingly wrong but all reasonable, there are no good people and bad people with faces, only three-dimensional and multi-faceted people.
In addition to the imperfection of people, Teng Xiaolan also left the audience a number of life suggestions in "Heart Residence", now summarizing 10, each reading one is a kind of growth, can read more than five articles to show that you are mature, but also read the intentions of the screenwriter.
Women are on their own at all times
Feng Xiaoqin, who came from the countryside, pinned all her hopes on her other half in order to take root in Shanghai. Gu Lei was honest and generous, so he chose to chase backwards, and after chasing after his hand, he successfully got his Shanghai hukou.
In order to gain a foothold in the family, she is willing to serve this big son as a cow and a horse, and has no backbone to speak of.
When the child was older, Feng Xiaoqin began to be a demon again, wanting to buy a house in Shanghai.
The premise of buying a house is to have money, but Feng Xiaoqin's total savings are only 30,000 yuan, and at this time, she pins her hopes on her sister-in-law and tries her best to borrow money from the other party. The name is borrowed money, but in fact, it is meat buns beating dogs.
From getting a Shanghai hukou to wanting to buy a house in Shanghai, Feng Xiaoqin has always pinned her hopes on others. As a result, after getting a Shanghai hukou, he still couldn't afford to buy a house, causing family conflicts that led to the accidental death of her husband.
After the tragedy, Feng Xiaoqin realized that women have to rely on themselves.
She began to take care of her family while taking time out to deliver food to earn living expenses. Since Gu Lei's death, she has never reached out to borrow money from her sister-in-law and father-in-law, but has relied on herself.
Why can Feng Xiaoqin's life get better and better after her widowhood? The main thing is to rely on yourself.
She no longer relies on her husband, but relies on her own hard work, relies on her own wisdom to catch up with rich people like Boss Shi and Zhan Xiang, and then works hard and does not lie flat, and her life will naturally get better, and she also has confidence in her mother-in-law's house.
Feng Xiaoqin's experience is not a revelation to every audience? Whether it is relying on husbands or relatives, it is better to rely on themselves, especially women, and having a career of their own is the foundation of foothold.
Wealth is a person's confidence
What is the bottom line? It's confidence.
Self-confidence is blessed by wealth, knowledge, family background, and specialized skills. In "Heart Residence", it can be seen very intuitively that wealth is a person's confidence.
Feng Xiaoqin, a daughter-in-law from abroad, does not have a good family background and does not have a large amount of wealth, so she can only be a nanny in her in-laws' family, and even a nanny is not as good. She knows this very well, so she never dares to quarrel with her father-in-law and sister-in-law, and she does not know how to express her grievances, and she really can't help but lose her temper and apologize afterwards.
After her husband's death, Feng Xiaoqin did not dare to be a demon, for fear of being driven out of the house by her father-in-law. Therefore, even if she does not talk to her father-in-law, she will take care of the family as usual.
There was no bottom, only anger, and Feng Xiaoqin, who had nothing, could only be low to the dust.
Similarly, Shi Yuan, who fell in the middle of the family road, had no money and no career, and he was very inferior in front of Gu Qingyu. Even if Gu Qingyu didn't look at his economic situation and family conditions, and rushed to pounce on him, he would still touch Shi Yuan's sensitive nerves.
In terms of family background and knowledge, Shi Yuan is far stronger than Zhan Xiang, but he is still inferior in front of Zhan Xiang, and the biggest gap between the two of them is wealth.
Zhan Xiang was a big old man, but because he had money, he had the courage to pursue Gu Qingyu, even if he was rejected by the other party many times, he still did not give up. In front of Gu Qingyu, Shi Yuan was always cautious and had no confidence and confidence.
From Feng Xiaoqin to Shi Yuan, it can be seen that wealth is a person's confidence.
No matter how good the other party is, don't be a "licking dog"
The same thing happened to Zhan Xiang, and his love always seemed so cheap. He has known Gu Qingyu for eight years and loved her for eight years, during which he still can't let go of watching Gu Qingyu fall in love, break up, and get married.
In Zhan Xiang's eyes, Gu Qingyu is the white moonlight, so in these eight years, Zhan Xiang, who is not married by her, has made herself a spare tire. To put it seriously, it is to "lick the dog".
He frequently offered courtesy, but Gu Qingyu ignored him, he wept secretly, and Gu Qingyu turned a blind eye to him. Make the best spare tire, suffer the deepest injury, and show a proper "lick dog".
The end of "licking the dog" is to love and not to love, watching the goddess throw herself into the arms of others, but she herself stands in the same place and weeps bitterly.
Wasting eight years of time, waiting for the other party's disregard, Zhan Xiang's experience tells every audience that no matter how good the other party is, do not be a "licking dog", it is better to look at the people around you may find a different style.
Choosing to love yourself will be happier
For eight years, Zhan Xiang couldn't love it, watching Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan date, but he could only stand outside the window and lose it alone, and the two concert tickets in his hand suddenly lost their luster.
At that moment, the exhibition holding the sculpture was painful.
In order to pursue Gu Qingyu, he practiced English hard; because Ofu Qingyu said a word, he asked for concert tickets and made up for related music; for Gu Qingyu, he waited for eight years.
As a result, he watched others happy like a clown.
Through the role of Zhan Xiang, why is the screenwriter not telling the audience that in the relationship, it is easier to choose a person who loves himself?
Zhan Xiang gave everything, and the other party turned a blind eye, because Gu Qingyu had no love for him at all. If you don't love someone, no matter how hard the other party tries, it is useless.
Like Zhan Xiang, Ge Yue also chose the wrong lover.
Gu Xin can marry Ge Yue, who has a general body and appearance, because he has a crush on her family lineage. In the face of money, status, and power, Gu Xin's love for Ge Yue was very little.
Therefore, when Ge Yue was bullied at her mother-in-law's house, Gu Xin did not fulfill the responsibility of a husband.
Ge Yue fell in love with Gu Xin, just like Zhan Xiang fell in love with Gu Qingyu, and no matter how good he was to the other party, he only touched himself. Therefore, if you choose to love yourself more or love each other in your feelings, your life will be happier.
Marriage pays attention to the door to the door
Of course, in marriage, in addition to paying attention to the reciprocity of love, we also pay attention to the reciprocity of the family. Marriages that are not right at the door are doomed to stumble.
Whether it is the marriage of a foreign daughter-in-law Feng Xiaoqin and a Shanghai man Gu Lei, or the marriage of Gu Xin and Ge Yue, there is a huge disparity.
In a state of asymmetry, Feng Xiaoqin became the nanny of the Gu family and was never looked up to. The same is true of Gu Xin, after marriage, it is like entering the rich, under the aura of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he will always be inferior, and he is also looked down upon by his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Guo Degang once said that the most important thing in marriage is to be right at home. Only by looking at the level of the problem, the attitude of handling things, and the three views in this way can we be more similar, the contradictions between the two can be less, and the marriage can be longer.
Judging from the marriages of Feng Xiaoqin, Gu Xin, Gu Qingyu and others, it does confirm this statement. An asymmetrical marriage is not just a chicken feather.
In "Heart Dwelling", in addition to life advice in terms of marriage and feelings, there are also suggestions and inspirations for people to live in the world.
No matter how close you are, you don't point out other people's affairs
Gu Lei died unexpectedly, who is at fault?
Some people think that Feng Xiaoqin is too capable, if she had not been clamoring to buy a house and return to her hometown, Gu Lei would not have accidentally fallen off the building. Therefore, it was Feng Xiaoqin who killed Gu Lei, and also caused himself not to have a complete home.
Some people also believe that Gu Lei's death and his sister Gu Qingyu can not escape, if Gu Qingyu did not stir up dissension in front of Gu Lei, Feng Xiaoqin would not be noisy to leave home, then Gu Lei would not die.
But in a deep dive, Gu Lei's death is related to everyone in the Gu family, including himself, and everyone should reflect on themselves. One of the most introspective is Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyu's biggest problem was not refusing to lend money to Feng Xiaoqin, but pointing out Feng Xiaoqin's marriage to Gu Lei. Although Gu Qingyu and Gu Lei are brothers and sisters, no matter how close the relationship is, it cannot be close to the husband and wife relationship between Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin.
Unfortunately, Gu Qingyu was always unable to figure out himself, and he always wanted to mix with his brothers and daughters-in-law to provoke. Her worries and worries, as well as her defenses against Feng Xiaoqin, were superfluous and a burden for Gu Lei.
The feelings between husband and wife, even the closest relatives can not be mixed. This is why there are so many families in life where the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, and the mother-in-law always wants to mix with her son's life, and in the end she lives a chicken feather, and the life is not peaceful.
Gu Qingyu's confusion is one of the main reasons for Gu Lei's death.
Rich is not dazzling, expensive is not pretending
The Gu family is a big family, but every time the seven aunts and eight aunts get together, it is a shuluo field, and all kinds of meaningless comparisons and show off their wealth make people's heads bigger. In particular, Gu Xin's mother, after learning that her family was a rich, powerful, and powerful person, began to show off in the family.
First to show off the big house, and then to show off the other party's family lineage, a small citizen look.
What's even more disgusting is that Gu Xin's mother still shows off in front of the sisters who have helped her, and even wants to step on each other's heads.
The villain's show-off, the comparison of not knowing gratitude, and Gu Xin's mother's face are disgusting. It's really bad to have such relatives.
But soon, after showing off the big money, Ge Yue's family was changed, the big house was gone, the savings were gone, and the couple had to live with their families.
Gu Xin's mother, who did not understand low-key, was quickly punched in the face, and only shame was left in front of relatives.
You can't be too kind
Zhan Xiang, who came to Shanghai from other places to work hard, became a landlord and became a rich man by collecting rents, but he was always bullied because he was too kind. One of the houses was rented to migrant workers, and seeing that they were pitiful, they were allowed to repeatedly default on their rent.
But who would have thought that the tenant kicked his nose in the face, repeatedly defaulted on the rent and refused to pay, and each time he played pitiful for various strange reasons to refuse to show up. Again and again, Zhan Xiang ate the closed door.
When Zhan Xiang made up his mind to collect the rent, the tenants began to make unreasonable trouble, and played with the appearance of "I am poor and I am reasonable". Not only did he beat Zhan Xiang up, but he also framed the other party.
Zhan Xiang's kindness has become a bargaining chip for tenants to blackmail, so being a person cannot be too benevolent and cannot lose the bottom line. Some people, give him an umbrella to block the rain, he will not only not thank, but also grab the umbrella and spit on you.
Kindness must have a degree, and kindness without degree is a kind of connivance, but also a kind of torture for oneself.
Face reality and live in the moment
The Shi family was once a large family, and Shi Yuan's parents were also accustomed to a good life, but they fell at the bottom of the family road for many years. From the original big family to the current bottom, even after living for many years, Shi Yuan's mother still can't accept the reality and gradually suffers from bipolar disorder.
The son does not have a good education and a good job, and he is sick and spends money, and the psychology of Shi Mu is unacceptable.
When she learned that Shi Yuan was in love, she thought of Shi Yuan's doll relatives and former neighbors who had lived a good life abroad, but she could not climb high.
Once they were all large families, but now there is a world of difference, unable to face the reality of shi mu has been living in the past, in exchange for the misfortune of family life, as well as physical and psychological torture.
Facing reality and accepting a mediocre life can get better, and the past is always just the past.
Bitterness is the essence of human life
Looking at life through "Heart Dwelling", there is no suffering everywhere, but suffering is everywhere. Bitterness, why not the essence of life?
Feng Xiaoqin wanted to take root in Shanghai, but unexpectedly her husband died unexpectedly, and she could only work her own. Gu Qingyu lacked nothing, but he could not find the love he wanted, and even if he found it, he could not return to his original feelings.
Gu's father was even more bitter, he lost his wife in middle age and lost his son in old age, and the pain of the death of two close relatives accompanied his life.
Life is bitter, there is no smooth sailing, only ups and downs.
Haiqing has never understood why life is bitter, she always thinks that life should be sweet. And Master Huang Lei's words made her suddenly wake up.
Huang Lei told her that life is bitter, and sweetness is rare, so everyone goes after sweetness.
In "Heart Residence", behind every character is bitter, but everyone is working hard for that sweetness.
These life suggestions and insights are hidden in "Heart Residence", which is also the best gift left by the screenwriter to the audience, which is worth thinking about and discussing. An audience that can read a screenwriter means maturity and growth.
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