Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin are very special sisters-in-law, one is a workplace elite, one is a housewife, one is rich and willful, and one has no money and bitterness.
There's an interesting scene in the TV series. On Gu Qingyu's birthday, Feng Xiaoqin gave the eldest sister-in-law a scarf, which she knitted by herself, and sewed a luxury label that she specially bought, but she did not expect gu Qingyu to give the scarf to her hourly worker, and then Feng Xiaoqin took the opportunity to vent this matter.
Gu Qingyu also gave him a scarf on Gu Lei's birthday, which was also from the luxury brand, but it was true.
After giving the gift, the result was that Gu Qingyu was embarrassed, and Feng Xiaoqin was angry, but after thinking about it carefully, he felt that no one was wrong, so why did this happen?
What to send?
Many people have worried about what gifts to give to friends. China is a country of etiquette, and in many cases gifts will be exchanged, which is tradition and etiquette, and it is very knowledgeable to send anything.
Feng Xiaoqin gave Gu Qingyu a scarf, on the surface it didn't look like anything, but this gift only touched Feng Xiaoqin herself, and others felt embarrassed, why?
In Feng Xiaoqin's view, this is her stitch and thread woven, each stitch is her heart, the so-called gift is light and affectionate, this is the most precious gift!
But in the eyes of Gu Qingyu and others, Feng Xiaoqin was too picky. Who is Gu Qingyu? A strong woman who often goes in and out of high-end office buildings, the people and environment she comes into contact with determines that she will not wear this scarf. Gu Qingyu's daily wear is inseparable from luxury goods, high-end atmosphere on the grade, which can reflect her identity.
And Gu Qingyu gave his brother a real luxury scarf, which also touched Feng Xiaoqin's heart. Feng Xiaoqin is a daughter-in-law from abroad, bent on having her own home in Shanghai, but after many years, she can only squeeze in the old house with her father-in-law, Gu Lei is not self-motivated, and Feng Xiaoqin's future seems to have no hope.
Doesn't Feng Xiaoqin want to buy luxury goods for her eldest sister? Of course she wanted to, but strength didn't allow it! Even the bidder who bought this luxury product she chose was the cheapest, which shows that she wants both face and money!
Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin both gave each other what they thought was the best, but these were exactly the things that the other party did not want, and in the small matter of gift-giving, they only considered what they could send, and did not think of what the other party wanted.
Care
So what do you send to the other person to make the other person satisfied? It's a science. But no matter what you receive, you should not abandon it, let alone worry about it. In the same way, what is sent out is someone else's, and it doesn't matter how people handle it. This is basic etiquette, but it is also a matter of upbringing.
There is also a similar scene in the TV series "Mendi", the sister-in-law made a set of sofa covers for her younger sister, and the younger sister did not like it, and felt that it was not compatible with her own sofa, but she did not say anything in front of her face, but threw away the sofa cover afterwards. As a result, the sister-in-law accidentally found the sofa cover that was thrown away, which she stayed up late to do for her younger sister, it was her intention, she was not convinced, she took it back to face confrontation, and the result was that the younger sister sent her away with two or three sentences, and the sister-in-law had nothing to say.
The plot is similar to "Heart Residence", but Gu Qingyu did not say anything in the play, but gave Feng Xiaoqin the opportunity to vent, so that Feng Xiaoqin did not realize his mistake, and everyone would also feel that Gu Qingyu did not understand things, and Feng Xiaoqin was very pitiful, but was this really the case?
Feng Xiaoqin, the gift you give to others, others do not like, that is first of all, the gift is not sent right. Secondly, what you give to others, how others deal with it is the will of others, even if he does not pay attention to it, it should not be questioned in person, otherwise it is not contrary to your original intention of giving gifts? Finally, knowing that others don't like their gifts, you know in your heart that you will get it, and think about what to do more practically in the future!
If Feng Xiaoqin wanted to please Gu Qingyu, there was no need to come forward herself, let Gu Lei or her father-in-law come up with ideas, and the family's collective discussion was the most perfect! In this way, if Gu Qingyu is satisfied, it is Feng Xiaoqin's credit, not satisfied, and there are fathers and brothers who bear it, Feng Xiaoqin has no influence, and it can increase the intimate relationship between the family, is it not good?
In terms of Gu Qingyu, the gift to his brother is completely based on his own strength, and personally feels that there is no problem, after all, Gu Lei is an adult and has no practical impact. But the brand-name bag that Gu Qingyu gave to the little tiger was a bit wrong. The child is still young, and the parents do not have the ability to buy so many brand-name clothes and bags for the little tiger, but the aunt gives, which will make the little tiger dissatisfied with the parents. Moreover, Gu Qingyu could not take care of all aspects of the little tiger's life, and it had to be Feng Xiaoqin's master, so in terms of giving gifts to children, Gu Qingyu should seek Feng Xiaoqin's opinion.
Gift-giving is to cater to each other, so since you have chosen to send, then don't worry, think about it, then don't send! Received an unsatisfactory gift, calmly handle it, but you should also take into account the feelings of the other party, at least not let the family easily find it!
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Many people will say that there are so many exquisite gifts between relatives! Indeed, if you have a close relationship with your loved ones and there is no contradiction, then send anything. But whether it is Feng Xiaoqin in "Heart Residence" or the sister-in-law in "Mendi", they all have a purpose, one wants to borrow money, one wants to shorten the gap between him and his younger siblings, although they are all kind, but they really do not consider the feelings of each other.
The sister-in-law and in-laws in "Mendi" are ordinary families, and if they can earn thousands a month, even if the business is good. The younger sister Xiaobei is the daughter of the general, a graduate student, the company's financial director, and an annual salary of 600,000 yuan. The gap between the two of them is really too big.
XiaoBei lives in a high-end community, but the sister-in-law is still crammed into a broken house with her mother-in-law, and the sister-in-law stayed up for several nights to make a sofa cover, which in her eyes is affection, a valuable gift, but in Xiaobei's eyes, it is a completely unwanted item that is out of place. Why do the two people's ideas completely contradict each other? Because they are in a different class!
Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin are also in two completely different classes, although they often meet, but they really don't know each other. No one can appreciate the other's living environment, so the gifts given are naturally unpopular.
I have to say that people who are not a class, even if they are relatives, don't force themselves together, otherwise what will hurt will only be your fragile heart. There is no need to envy others, just do yourself, maybe she is still envious of you! What do you think?