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There is a saying on the Internet: "Talking about money hurts feelings."
In the cognition of many people, whether it is love or marriage, the prerequisite for maintaining a good relationship must be to have money.
Perhaps in real life, there are indeed a small number of people who will give up the feelings of two people because the other party is not rich and does not have enough money, and choose bread between love and bread.
Therefore, many people feel that without money, there is no way to talk about a sweet love, and without money, it is impossible to solve the dispute of chai rice oil and salt after marriage.
Especially for some men, their subconscious will think that women can't look up to themselves, mostly because they don't have money.
As everyone knows, not all women will care about how much money you have, money can satisfy people's material pursuits, but what is more important in love and marriage is the spiritual fit, which is whether two people can get along for a long time.
That said, women don't look up to you, most likely for these reasons, and have nothing to do with money.
There are too few topics to talk to between you
When two people are together, the most important thing is to communicate and communicate. And when it comes to talking, there is something to say and it is often what women value most.
But there are always some men who are more slow to treat feelings, slow to react, can't grasp what women really care about, and can't be sure what women really like, they will only be good to her and try to please her.
Maybe what you do will make her very moved, and she will say some words of thanks to you, but your "good" does not make her feel good about you, and what she has for you will only be grateful.
In the TV series "Heart Residence", Zhan Xiang likes Gu Qingyu everyone knows, but from beginning to end it is Zhan Xiang's wishful thinking, and Gu Qingyu does not have the slightest male and female feelings for him.
In the play, Zhan Xiang chased Gu Qingyu for more than twenty years, has been willing to pay, has been silently by her side, watched her change boyfriend after boyfriend, watched her from flash marriage to flash away, and became a boyfriend and girlfriend with Gu Qingyu, but never exchanged Gu Qingyu's sincerity.
Once, Gu Qingyu asked Zhan Xiang why he was so good to her, and Zhan Xiang replied: "I am good to you, just like the knee jump reaction, unless the nerve necrosis, otherwise it can not be controlled."
Yes, really like a person, that person will take root in the heart, become a part of life, as long as everything related to her, will can't help but want to care, want to care.
But it can be seen that Zhan Xiang's penguid fondness for Gu Qingyu also hides a little inferiority, in Zhan Xiang's view, Gu Qingyu is the most perfect woman, in order to be worthy of Gu Qingyu, he is willing to spend a lot of time to learn to play the piano, willing to spend a lot of money to learn English.
But no matter what he did, Gu Qingyu didn't like him, and always kept a distance not far away.
The reason is that Zhan Xiang comes from the countryside, has not read too many books, but just got the opportunity by chance to become an upstart, and there is always an unbridgeable distance between him and Gu Qingyu.
Moreover, Gu Qingyu is a company executive, and the people he contacts every day are some social elites, and with these people, Gu Qingyu has something to say.
But with Zhan Xiang, she said that Zhan Xiang could not understand, the Zhan Xiang she liked was not interested, there was nothing to talk about between them, and they could only discuss some trivialities of life every day, which was not what Gu Qingyu wanted.
Therefore, when two people are together, the most important thing is to be able to talk, to have something to say, to have common interests and hobbies, not to be equal, but at least not too different.
So, if a woman doesn't like you, it's not that you're not good enough, but that your goodness will only be a sweet burden to her.
You're not as good as your ex
As the saying goes: there is no harm without contrast.
Most women, once they have experienced the beauty of their first love, will subconsciously compare her suitors to their exes.
If you are better than your ex, if you are superior in all aspects, then she may be impressed by you and will be touched by your dedication to her.
But if you're nowhere but rich, and you don't have a great appearance or a talent to be admired, then even if you try harder, even if she's willing to be with you, it's not necessarily because of love.
Like Gu Qingyu in "Heart Residence", she is almost forty years old, or an older young woman, who has talked about many loves, but none of them can last long.
Uninformed people think that she is too good, too visionary, too demanding. As everyone knows, she has not been married for so many years because her heart is obsessed with her first love Shi Yuan.
Therefore, when Gu Qingyu fell in love with other men, she especially liked to let them wear white shirts and black-rimmed glasses, because that was the appearance of Shi Yuan in her impression.
Once, Gu Qingyu happened to meet her nemesis at work while having dinner with Shi Yuan, who was also one of her ex-boyfriends.
His evaluation of Gu Qingyu is like this: Gu Qingyu has a quirk, dating men, the other party must wear a white shirt. She once had a first love boyfriend, and now she doesn't know whether she is alive or dead, she is like a neurotic, dressing every boyfriend according to her first love.
Although Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan had not been in contact for more than twenty years and had not met, her heart could not let go of Shi Yuan.
When he was a teenager, Shi Yuan not only had excellent grades and played the piano well, but also because of this, Gu Qingyu especially liked boys who could play the piano.
And Zhan Xiang, who has liked her for more than twenty years, has been desperately trying to learn to play the piano in order to win the favor of Gu Qingyu, but he has not learned well for many years.
In Gu Qingyu's eyes, in addition to not lacking money, Zhan Xiang is not short of money, whether it is looks or talent, it is not as good as Shi Yuan, so for so many years, Gu Qingyu has always known Zhan Xiang's heart for her, but he has always only gotten along with him as a friend.
Just because the first love is so beautiful, there is a contrast, once you can't find that feeling later, there is no way to love other people wholeheartedly.
If a woman, no matter how you give, she is still not interested in you, either she has someone in her heart who will never forget, or you are not good enough to give her the kind of beauty she wants.
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