Wen/Shiyi
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For women, the luckiest thing is to meet the right person, do not have to suffer love, do not have to be hurt by love.
However, of the eighty thousand words in the world, only love words hurt the most, and no one will not be hurt. Even those feelings that are vigorous and so good that people envy them will have irreparable cracks.
So even on the road of feelings, you have witnessed the division and union of many people, but you still have illusions about love, and you still have expectations for him who has never been masked.
You believe that one day you will meet such a person - he understands your sorrow and joy, knows that you are cold and warm, can tolerate you, pamper you, and give you a full sense of security.
In the days that followed, you did meet such a person, who made a lot of promises to you, he would say sweet words to you, he would be gentle with you in front of everyone, and you could feel his fiery love.
But since when, it all seems to have changed.
He is no longer treating you as he used to be. Many times, he deliberately does not reply to your messages, he is too lazy to answer your phone, and if you are wronged, he will only casually say a few words to perfunctory you, and even take the opportunity to satirize you and ridicule you, completely disregarding your feelings.
You can tell from his words and deeds that he is alienated and indifferent to you.
It is true that the reason why a man has a change in attitude towards you, perfunctory in words, is a manifestation of non-love. When you've experienced, let go, and met a man who truly loves you, you'll understand: it turns out that a man would do this to you and really don't love you.
Chat with you, never seconds back, not even reply
Nowadays, the connection between people does not require letters, and there is no need to run a long distance, and only a mobile phone is needed to achieve zero-distance communication.
Therefore, many times, even if two people do not meet, they can express their thoughts and tell the lovesickness hidden in their hearts across the mobile phone screen.
However, it will only make sense if people are in each other's hearts.
You will slowly understand that not all thoughts will be answered, not all lovesickness is mutual.
A man who truly loves you will naturally miss you when you miss him, try to respond to you, and make you feel at ease. But a man who doesn't love you, you message him becomes a distraction.
Many times, you want to talk to him, but you are always hesitant, afraid of disturbing him, afraid that he will not reply. When you have the courage to send him a message, he is obviously online, but chooses to turn a blind eye, you call him, he either does not answer, or just hang up.
Such a resolute approach is really sad. But he doesn't care about your feelings, and he won't explain to you later why he didn't reply to your messages or why he hung up on your phone. If you have to ask, you have to know the reason, his answer is always "don't want to go back, don't want to pick up."
Often lose your temper with you and use you as a "punching bag"
Once, when a friend broke up with her boyfriend, she said: When a man really cares about you and likes you, you are a valuable jewel. But when he abandons you, does not love you, lets you cry and make trouble, and humbles and pleases, you will only be the "garbage" he has thrown away.
Deeply. When a man loves you, he will always find a way to be nice to you, you don't need to bend down, he will bow to you.
For example: when you quarrel and contradict him, see you angry, he will only feel that it is his own fault, will continue to find reasons in himself, and then take the initiative to admit his mistake to you and coax you to be happy.
But when he doesn't love you, even if you don't do anything, some things are obviously wrong with you, as long as he is in a bad mood and depressed, you will be inexplicably accused by him.
In addition, when he is frustrated in his work, everything is not going well, and everything does not go as he wishes, he will only blame you for the fault, treat you as a "punching bag", and have no respect for you.
It can be seen that with the person who loves you, you just need to be yourself as you please. But with people who don't love you, you must maintain a cautious posture at any time, do not dare to talk randomly, and can not lose your temper casually, but can only look at his face and act.
Shi Yi's message:
There are two things that people must not be sloppy in this life: one is to find the right career, and the other is to find the right lover, because when the sun rises, you must devote yourself to the cause, and when the sun sets, you must hug your lover.
This is a sentence that Kazuo Inamori once said. Reading it carefully, it does make a lot of sense.
In this life, with a career, you can be independent. With someone who loves you, you can experience the sweetness of happiness.
It is said: Whether a man loves you or not, do not look at how good he is to you, but to see how he treats you when he is angry and loses his temper.
This is indeed the case.
If a man chats with you, never returns seconds, or even does not reply, it can only mean that you are not in his heart. If a man often loses his temper with you when he is in trouble and treats you as a "punching bag", it can only mean that he does not love you.
Therefore, if your love is not answered, your efforts are not cherished, even if you love again, you must learn to stop at the right time, before loving someone, it is better to love yourself.
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What will men do to you when they don't love you?
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