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Someone said, "It's easy to fall in love." ”
In the world of feelings, falling in love with someone is an easy task, and it only takes a look and a warm word to stir up ripples of love.
But it is not so easy to love someone well, not that you say three or two promises, send flowers and gifts, and create romantic surprises to maintain the relationship between two people.
I have seen many couples in love, couples who have been married for decades, there is no emotional dispute between them, and there is no big contradiction, but somehow, the two people who once loved each other suddenly broke off contact, tacitly ending this hard-won relationship.
Some people may feel that meeting is fate, falling in love is lucky, and finally separating is only the end of fate, and it is meaningless to be entangled.
But in fact, two people have come to the "end of the fate", which is related to these two reasons. If you can understand in time and learn to stop losses in time, then two people who love each other will not obviously love each other deeply, but they can only choose to let go and return to their respective tracks.
One: get along too little and don't understand each other's real needs
The feelings between people are not to rely on feeling sorry for each other overnight, but to constantly run into each other and understand each other in the day-to-day relationship in order to cultivate deep feelings.
But nowadays, many people feel that distance can produce beauty, and two people do not have to stay together often, chat occasionally, meet each other when necessary, and do not disturb each other is the best way to get along. Even many people enjoy this state of having an object but still being able to live a single life.
Perhaps at the beginning, this way of getting along can indeed maintain a certain sense of freshness, but also can briefly let both parties miss each other in the days when they can't see each other, and let the feelings be warmed up.
However, if two people spend too little time together, do not often contact each other's lives, the understanding of each other will be less and less, with the passage of time, even each other's preferences and interests are not very clear, the feelings of the two people will decline rapidly.
Therefore, the reason why two people will end up is mostly because there is a problem with the way they get along. Often tired of being together, tired and tired, often not together, the relationship will be estranged, the feelings will fade.
That is to say, if two people want to be able to stay together for a long time, they must learn to keep each other well on the basis of love.
Second: gather less and leave more, and cannot trust each other unconditionally
How did the estrangement between two people arise? When did you start to become suspicious, and every word the other person said and everything you did had to be considered repeatedly?
A friend who had just broken up with her boyfriend of six years replied that maybe it started when they were busy and often got together.
Indeed, two people often get together less and more, most of the time in two places, there is no way to accompany each other at all times, even if they often share interesting things in life with each other, they will push their hearts in the middle of the night, open their hearts to express their love, and they are not satisfied with the loneliness and emptiness in their hearts.
In particular, when a friend of the opposite sex who has a good relationship suddenly appears next to the other party, he will be extremely insecure, can't help but think wildly, and as long as there is a little gossip, he will be suspicious and emotional.
The reason is that because two people can't be together often, they can't feel each other's love and companionship, and no matter how much the other person says sweet words, it is not as reassuring as an actual action.
That is to say, two people gather less and leave more for a long time, the distance between the heart and the heart will become larger, not only is it easy to have a gap, but also there is no way to unconditionally trust each other.
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Two people go to the "end of the relationship", is it really not in love?
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