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In a relationship, which is more important, fit or liking? The most satisfying and acceptable answer should be to run into each other and grow together on the basis of likes.
However, in real life, when many people meet the person they like, most of them are "unaware of what they do, and they go deeper", as long as they think of each other, they cannot control their emotions.
Because of this, many people pay too much attention to their feelings for each other when talking about feelings, and it is often easy to ignore the question of whether two people are suitable.
Some people may think that two people together, as long as they like each other and know how to think about each other, inappropriate can be slowly cultivated.
Having said that, many times, if two people are not suitable, there are too many differences between each other, and even if they have a good feeling for each other, they cannot break through the obstacles to come together.
For example: the way of life of two people is very different, the way of dealing with problems is also different, when contradictions and quarrels occur, they either have their own opinions, or choose to escape, and if they are not dealt with in time, it is easy to produce estrangement, give rise to gaps, and affect the feelings of two people.
Two people who are not suitable, just have a good feeling can not be maintained, because of this.
Situations are different and cannot be truly understood and tolerated
In life, people always say that the eye contact is very important, and the impression that the other party leaves on you when you meet for the first time often affects your liking for him in the future, and whether you are willing to have further contact and interaction with him.
This is indeed the case.
If two people have a good feeling for each other the first time they meet, then they will unconsciously approach each other in the future and understand each other deeply, thus colliding with the spark of love.
However, the longevity of a relationship is not reliable to rely on the feeling of the first heartbeat or good feeling. Sometimes, the decision to whether two people can go on for a long time depends on whether the two people are in the same situation.
Two people in the same situation will know each other better, know what the other person really cares about and needs, can feel empathy, and the contradictions will be reduced when they get along together.
On the contrary, two people in different situations, different experiences, different circles, attitudes to life and the way of dealing with the world will be very different, it is difficult to stand in each other's perspective to consider the problem.
Just like Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan in the TV series "Heart Residence", after more than twenty years of seeing each other again, they are no longer the same as they were, and the feelings of the two are different, Gu Qingyu has a kind of joy of loss and recovery, while Shi Yuan's heart is full of mixed grains.
The reason is that for more than twenty years, Gu Qingyu has been prosperous in his career, has not suffered too much hardship in life, and has always been obsessed with his first love Shi Yuan, and has even been inquiring about Shi Yuan's news. Shi Yuan, on the other hand, is running for a series of reasons such as falling in the middle of the family road, falling off the list of college entrance examinations, and his mother's illness every day for life and money.
If it were not for the different situations, if the gap was not too large, perhaps Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan would reunite again, and they would still have a good feeling for each other in their hearts, and they would love each other more and more in the slow way together, until they were whiteheads.
But for more than twenty years, their situation is very different, one is enjoying life, the other is trying to live, it is difficult to truly integrate into each other's lives, can not be truly understood and tolerated.
Because of this, when they express their hearts to each other and quickly enter the palace of marriage with that good feeling and joy, the problems between them will become more and more intense, and the contradictions will be more and more.
In order to make money to see his mother, in order to pay off his debts as soon as possible, Shi Yuan is working hard every day, working several jobs a day, and he does not dare to stop for a moment.
However, after marrying Gu Qingyu, because Gu Qingyu likes to listen to concerts, he had to put down his work to accompany her to listen.
At the concert site, Gu Qingyu was a kind of dedication and selfless gesture throughout the whole process. And Shi Yuan was obviously absent-minded, under the beautiful melody, his mood was heavy and depressed. If Gu Qingyu didn't like it, he wouldn't have the heart to listen to the concert here at all, and his heart was always thinking about how to make money.
Faced with the pressure of life, after returning home, Shi Yuan had to wait for Gu Qingyu to fall asleep before secretly getting up and staying up late at night to work, he thought that if he didn't say it, Gu Qingyu wouldn't know.
But all this is actually Gu Qingyu has already seen from the surveillance video, and often finds friends to complain about Shi Yuan's various behaviors.
Indeed, in Gu Qingyu's view, she couldn't understand why Shi Yuan wanted to work so many jobs and why she was so desperate to make money, because she felt that since the two people were already married, there was no need to divide it so clearly, and Shi Yuan could ask her for money.
But what she didn't know was that for Shi Yuan, even if life was difficult and life was hard, he hoped that he could earn money through his own way, rather than being attached to anyone.
But Gu Qingyu obviously didn't understand that she wanted to help Shi Yuan everywhere, she wanted Shi Yuan to be a little easier, but she didn't know that her help Shi Yuan didn't need it.
She thought that as long as she was willing to give, Shi Yuan should accept it and should be grateful, but she ignored Shi Yuan's feelings and did not consider it from Shi Yuan's point of view. In fact, what Shi Yuan needs is not her charity and mercy, but a firm support and trust.
What kind of situation a person is in, he has to face life in what way.
Two people in different situations, experience people and things different, when getting along together, often unwilling to show the joys and sorrows in their hearts, they can not open their hearts in front of each other, and the hearts of the two people will gradually produce estrangement and a sense of distance.
It can be seen that two people in different situations cannot maintain a good feeling alone, even if they like each other again, inappropriate is inappropriate, and it is useless in how to force it.
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