Text: Shi Yi long affection
Not every emotion has a destination, I will interpret your heart.
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Schopenhauer said: "A person can only be himself when he is alone, and if he does not love to be alone, then he does not love freedom, because a person is truly free only when he is alone." ”
In this world, almost everyone yearns for freedom and does not want to be bound by the trivialities of life, but few people can truly be alone.
Some people always avoid loneliness and solitude, whether in life or work, they will try to find those who are similar to themselves, and then have a good relationship with them, for fear of being isolated and left out.
But in the process of growing up, it is a process of self-knowledge and understanding, when you can learn independently, think independently, and have a deep understanding of yourself, solitude is an indispensable link.
Therefore, everyone should not escape loneliness, but try to learn to be alone.
One day you will understand that there is no top self-discipline in a person than being alone.
Being alone is an adjustment of the body and mind
Someone said: "Most of life is lonely, the more you grow up, the lonelier you are, and the more you grow up, the more uneasy you are." ”
In fact, it is not that when we grow up, we are less happy, nor are we lonely as we grow up, but we have not learned to adjust ourselves appropriately.
Along the way, most people have been running on the path of life, running so fast that they have neglected themselves.
For example, at work, you work hard, stay up late and work overtime, and improve your performance, just to get the approval of others. In life, you pay for the family, for the parents, for the children, for the partner without asking for anything in return, just so that the family can complain a little less, a little more warmth.
Every day you are busy, you live yourself as a superman, but you forget that you are actually just an ordinary person, and unconsciously you are no longer yourself.
Once upon a time, you also wanted to abandon all your worries and take a trip that you could walk away, but now you still live and work step by step.
In fact, when you are tired, you may as well let go of everything and learn to be alone. Even if it's just a quiet walk by one person, a person hiding in a room reading a book, a person going to a movie.
In either case, being alone is a refinement of one's own heart, throwing away the ups and downs and enjoying only the moment of the moment.
When you truly learn to be alone, you can hear the truest voice in your heart, find your truest feelings, and live your true self.
Being alone is a one-man
Tagore said: "Loneliness is the carnival of a group of people, and carnival is the loneliness of one person." "Therefore, those revelry that floats on the surface seems lonely.
With the increase of age and experience, I used to always be afraid of walking alone in the crowd, seeing others in groups, and I would feel uncomfortable with my own single shadow.
And now, it is always accustomed to being alone, not to rely on anyone, and not to consider whether the pace of walking will be consistent with others, and to move forward according to their own pace, that is, relaxed and free.
Maybe people are like this, once they have developed the habit of being alone, they will no longer be afraid of loneliness, and they would rather enjoy life alone and do what they like, rather than integrate into other people's circles.
Lin Qingxuan also wrote in "The Most Beautiful in the World is Qinghuan": "Qinghuan is a posture of life, a way to find oneself, and a supreme realm of life. ”
If you think about it, most people want a lot of friends, a wide circle, and be able to share happiness and worry with people anytime and anywhere, but you have to understand that loneliness is the norm in life.
The long road of life, even if it is a close person, a good friend, a partner who gets along day and night will have a day away from you, and no one will accompany you forever.
Being alone is not loneliness, and when you learn to enjoy the time of solitude, you can get rid of the shackles of the world and find your true self.
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Author: Shi Yi Changqing, a southern girl who loves words and lives hard, every word has its meaning of existence, hoping to give you strength and help you be strong.