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Many people feel that the reason why they have to study hard is to be able to get ahead in the future, let themselves live a better life, and make their lives have higher achievements.
However, many people often slack off unconsciously in the process of hard work, and find a lot of excuses to make themselves feel at ease and become lazy.
Some people like to communicate, feel that only more friends in the future to have more ways out, friends are also a proof of their own personality charm, these people like the feeling of friends around, for them, loneliness is terrible, if only they are alone, nothing can be done well.
But there are also some people who do not like to be lively, especially do not like ineffective socializing, for him, wasting his time and energy on some people who are not worthy is to consume his own life and improve himself.
College roommate Gu Yuze is a very maverick person, at least during college, many people have given such evaluations.
Gu Yuze is very handsome, has good academic performance, has won national scholarships almost every year, and has written a perfect brush.
Such a boy is undoubtedly eye-catching on the college campus, and many girls find various excuses to approach him, but he has never accepted the overtures of any girl.
Gu Yuze also has very few friends around him, almost none, whether it is class or dinner, he is always alone.
After graduating from college, Gu Yuze had no contact with all the people, and even several college reunions did not see him, some people talked about this person, and everyone said that there was no contact.
Gu Yuze, who has lost contact with everyone, has become a person who makes many people unattainable in less than three years after graduation, he founded his own Internet company, his head is alive, and he has found another way, in today's society where Internet companies are rampant in the market, he is stunned to break out of the world with his own ability.
Many old classmates saw Gu Yuze on the news, and when everyone was still tired of running for their livelihood, Gu Yuze had already stood at the height of success he wanted.
By chance, I met Gu Yuze on a business trip and lived in a hotel together, and to my surprise, Gu Yuze took the initiative to invite me to dinner together.
When chatting, Gu Yuze said a lot of words, it seems that I have not heard him say so much in four years of college, the reason why he is alone is because he has his own goals to achieve, and does not want to waste time and energy on unnecessary so-called brotherhood.
When I was in college, several boys in the same dormitory were indeed known as brothers and brothers, one person skipped class, and several others would skip class in order to show loyalty, but Gu Yuze felt that this was very childish, and it was irresponsible for his studies.
There is also love, he feels that before his career does not reach a satisfactory level, he is not suitable for considering feelings, in the face of those girls' overtures, he can do self-discipline, is not to delay the girl's time, nor to let himself be distracted in the process of learning.
The dinner that day made me gain a lot, and finally understood the reason why Gu Yuze was able to succeed, not because he was really much smarter than others, nor because he had a strong background, just because he was willing to enjoy loneliness, and people who could do this were often very disciplined.
Some people say that a self-disciplined talent is the most terrible, because people live in this world, need to face too many temptations, some people's original intention is good, set themselves the goal they want to achieve, but in the process of hard work, they can't resist the temptation of the outside world, constantly wavering, and finally let their lives lose the direction they should have.
Such people are not uncommon around us, and when they can't resist temptation, they really indulge themselves, they will make themselves live more comfortably, more relaxed, and they don't have to force themselves anymore, but in the end they also need to bear all the costs and consequences.
Enjoying solitude is like a practice in life, if you succeed in finding your true self in loneliness and understanding what you really need, it means that you are not far from success.
01 Enjoying solitude can save more time
The taste of loneliness, many people have tasted, more people feel uncomfortable, because people are social animals, if only they have to face all the wind and rain and ups and downs, it is inevitable to feel lonely and helpless.
But you also need to understand that sometimes enjoying solitude is not necessarily a bad thing, because the so-called "empathy" is actually not true, and no one can really feel what you experience from your point of view.
Your career fails, your marriage is not smooth, maybe listening to others' ears is just sympathy, at most comforting you a few words, but your life in the end still has to be experienced by you alone, and the problems you encounter can only be solved by yourself.
So instead of complaining to others and treating others as life-saving straws, you should enjoy the loneliness that life gives you, you will save a lot of time, and you don't have to waste energy on unnecessary complaining and avoidance.
Calm down, your mind will gradually return to sanity, and you will not change your original intention because of the persuasion of others.
Most of the decisions people make when they are impulsive are irrational and even make the otherwise small thing worse, so the loneliness you experience is actually more conducive to solving the immediate problem.
In the process of continuous correction and improvement, your life will be closer and closer to the goal you set, and the success you want will gradually grasp in your own hands.
02 Make it fun to enjoy solitude
The writer Mader once said that it is terrible to endure loneliness. When you see people who enjoy solitude, you are not afraid at once.
People who are afraid of loneliness often do not realize that loneliness can actually be enjoyed, not feared.
In fact, if you think about it, we want to do too many things, and in these things, what things can really help us grow?
When you know how to make enjoying solitude a pleasure, it means that you understand what you really have to do well, and at this time, you are not far from success.
Enjoying loneliness can make the mind calm down, in fact, the essence of life is like this, we come from loneliness, yearn for prosperity and liveliness, but eventually we will also get tired of the prosperity that was once pursued, and return to loneliness.
And when you learn to enjoy the pleasure of loneliness, you will find that in fact, there are so many beautiful things in life, so loneliness is the best practice in life, and it is also the highest realm.
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