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Everyone longs to meet and know people who are destined to meet and experience the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life together.
Even if some people are shuttling through the vast sea of people day and night, even if they are alone in a foreign land, as long as they think that there are people waiting for them in that place called "home", they can feel a reassuring warmth and support them to continue to move forward.
No one wants to go through their lives alone, but it often backfires, my dear, I want to remind you that when a person has these two characteristics, it is easy to die alone, I hope you don't.
01. Selfish, too shrewd
The Ming Dynasty thinker Lu Kun once said:
"Selfishness is an obstacle to building up people."
If a person thinks too much about his own interests and thinks only of himself in everything he does, then he will only be able to contain himself in his heart.
Not only will he not be able to interact with others normally, but he will also miss many good opportunities to communicate with different people.
In daily life, human feelings are like thin sheets of paper. Only by knowing how to bring benefits to others can you build your own network.
And selfish people are always afraid of losses, and want to take advantage of everything, such a small pattern makes it difficult for him to communicate with people, let alone be kind to people.
In interpersonal communication, if you always approach others with the intention of wanting to make a profit from it, then even if you gain it for a while, you will eventually lose it.
More importantly, selfish people will certainly not gain the respect of others, and even if they obtain wealth by improper means, people will only say that it is ill-gotten wealth and bring shame to their ancestors.
It's like Oniyako once said, "I want to rebel." To receive, you must first give, this is a classic law of doing things, not reversed.
If you are too calculating in your dealings with others, you want to win enough benefits, and you want to take all the good things, then you will naturally "lose your way and lose more and more good causes".
02. Full of bitterness and complaining everywhere
Best-selling author Rhonda Byrne once mentioned the idea of the "Law of Attraction" in one of her books, namely:
"Everything that happens in your life is attracted by you."
Yes, if you are always full of enthusiasm and positive to do something, you will find that things always end up well, and if you always do something with negative thoughts, the results are often unsatisfactory.
In particular, if you complain about unsatisfactory situations, it is easy to fall into a "vicious cycle" from which you will not be able to get out of the situation and thus find it difficult to access new opportunities.
Sometimes complaining will not only make you lose your good luck, but also make it difficult for the people around you to escape bad luck.
In life, the complaining person is like a poison, accumulating negative emotions to the people around him, and when he confides in the injustice he has encountered, it will cause the listener's empathy.
In the end, negative emotions spread two and more, and continued to spread, intensifying the boredom in the hearts of more people, making people trapped in the emotions of complaining and losing the motivation to move forward.
No one wants to be friends with "negative energy", "positive energy" is the heart of every person who lives an active life.
Yes, complaining is the most energy-draining unhelpful act. It affects our enterprising spirit and wears away our courage to overcome difficulties.
Long-term complaints will make people fall into a continuous bad mood, and will also cause great distress to personal health.
Staying away from those who love to complain is a matter of human nature.
03. Mei Niang said
Perhaps selfishness is human nature, and complaining is an occasional last resort.
But as long as a person is well-intentioned, he will not be selfish and only want to rely on others for profit, and will not let complaining become the only option.
Then on this long road of life, there will be people willing to accompany him hand in hand to resist all loneliness, then in this brightly lit city, there will always be a lamp waiting for him to go home.
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