For women who are naturally sensual, it is very difficult to give up on someone they like.
Women are easy to fall into the emotions they think, always hope to try to use the test, test the degree of reliability of feelings, but also always think that even if this person has such shortcomings at this moment, will be able to make changes because of love for themselves, or careful adjustment and guidance.
Romantic and aesthetic fantasies after the relationship is deepened gradually drifting away, doomed to withstand the critical blow of reality, a poke on the broken dream, at any time will bring hidden dangers and costs to their lives, so women should remember that communication is not simply to enjoy the beauty of love, but also the process of mutual identification, if the man in love has these characteristics, don't care more love, it is recommended to forget it, because even if you persist, it is difficult to have consummation and happiness.
Eventually, in the future after growing up, you will find that in the relationship, the choice is more important than the effort.
Real life love is definitely not great, no one will give up their original self because of love, and no one has the charm to make the other party completely reborn, choose a suitable person, choose a person who is willing to care and know how to respect themselves, far more effective than stubbornly insisting in a relationship and blindly paying.
Excessive rational utilitarianism
Male thinking is relatively more rational, which is not a derogatory term, but an objective fact of probability, but if a man is excessively rational and utilitarian, then it contains selfish and indifferent traits.
Gu Xin of the hit drama "Heart Residence" found the daughter of the director in order to rise step by step, and ruthlessly abandoned his girlfriend Sun Qi, who had accompanied him for ten years.
The newlyweds also loved their wives, but their father-in-law immediately changed his face and even cheated and betrayed when he was not in power.
Self-interest is not a problem, and calculation is not shameful, and I am afraid that I will stop at nothing to achieve my goals without a bottom line.
For an extremely rational and utilitarian person, all relationships are profitable, and the so-called love and tenderness are just deductions for the purpose of achieving the success of the transaction, and when one day you have no value to squeeze, you are doomed to be ruthlessly abandoned.
Emotional instability
Emotions are like water, stable emotions are like a trickle, nourishing all things; unstable emotions are just the opposite, roaring waves at any time, extremely destructive.
Emotionally unstable people, there are many triggers, the way of expression will also be shown in a variety of forms, may be moody, difficult to control their mood, may be very low psychological endurance, frequent negative energy, impulsive irritability or do not control into pessimistic emotions.
A person with low endurance is easy to be controlled by the environment and the people around him, because encountering a little thing or interference will disrupt his original life and mood, and at the same time, his emotional ups and downs will most directly affect you around you.
Although emotional instability is not necessarily equal to a certain amount of domestic violence, the probability of emotionally unstable people committing domestic violence will be higher.
In The Identification of Dangerous Personalities, emotionally unstable people are considered dangerous personalities.
The characteristics of this kind of person are that they are especially good when they are good, and they are willing to pick the stars and the moon for you, but once something stimulates him, they will be like out-of-control beasts, biting people everywhere, and their faces will change without warning.
Emotional instability is likely to be like the tip of the iceberg, the inner world hides huge hidden dangers, according to the book to roughly classify, the following kinds of personality possibilities will appear, can be used as a reference and cause vigilance.
Paranoid personality: This type of person has a typical characteristic, that is, delusional, suspicious, paranoid, and often unfounded. The more common phenomenon is that they have no way to communicate with normal people.
It is likely that the long-term pressure is too great, and the emotional problems lead to serious psychological problems and even mental and physical diseases.
Split personality: Due to the existence of some strange beliefs, such as believing in clairvoyance, telepathy, superstitious ideas, magical thinking, etc., some people may even do harm to themselves or others under the influence of thought.
Antisocial personality: This is very easy to understand, the typical manifestation is antisocial, such as cynicism, fighting, breaking the law, seeing nothing right, seeing no one is pleasing to the eye, and so on. However, criminals are not necessarily people with antisocial personality disorder.
Narcissistic personality: Excessively narcissistic people, lack of compassion, but also lack of respect for people, therefore, in daily life, always regardless of the interests and feelings of others, in order to achieve the end of the unscrupulous means. In life-threatening situations, they choose to sacrifice others.
Borderline personality: identity disorder, there is a potential self-harm impulsiveness, such as repeated self-harm, suicide, substance abuse, reckless driving, promiscuity, overeating and so on. And it is easy to provoke, and it is easy to get out of control when encountering a small matter, and it is easy to fight and fight.
Some personality disorders are not actually dangerous in themselves, but once they enter the situation of depression, mania, bipolar disorder, etc., they may harm themselves or others.
Therefore, on the surface, the uncertain man needs to think twice about the relationship between the two, and he needs to be cautious in deciding the development of the two.
Men who don't respect women
What do we choose men for? All you need is someone who can support each other and live a life, but a man who lacks the most basic respect for women, you can rest assured, none of this will happen.
The most terrible thing about women is that they think that they are good to themselves at this moment, no matter what they do to others, but the temporary good is just a way and attitude to get it, which does not mean that the future will really be good to you.
Don't think that he is just to others, that is the recognition of male superiority and female inferiority in his bones, under his point of view, women are inherently subordinate to men, and even should bow down and lean on their own noses to live a life, so no matter how much self-righteous you pay, in his opinion, it is all right.
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(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.