You have to admit that there are some women who do nothing but can firmly grasp the heart of men.
Some women, just do a lot, but make men stay away.
What is the reason for this?
The key lies in the four words of "holding your breath", which is a kind of wisdom of inaction and a charm of calm and self-confidence.
After years, sooner or later you will understand that the easier it is for a woman to be angry in the following aspects, the easier it is to eat a man.
Sink the "emotions"
One of the essences of love is to give each other good emotional values, such as knowing how to listen and empathize, so that the other person is in a happy mood.
When we are in love, we always want to share all the joys and sorrows with each other, hoping that the other party will laugh with me, relieve my sudden sadness, endure my anger for a while, and even be my "emotional garbage can".
You will see the "little girl" in love, not giving up for a day, and even challenging each other's patience indefinitely, and the patience of the other party is exhausted.
This kind of self-centered "sharing", regardless of the occasion and time of the emotional flood, just destroys the emotional value in love, but also pushes men farther and farther.
Li Juan's personality is outgoing and direct, everything hangs on her face, and she has to pull her husband to say a meal when she is happy or unhappy.
Sometimes the husband is absent-minded for a while, or can't understand her mood for a while, he will suddenly be anxious to "red eyes", and it is common for the two to quarrel.
Li Juan, who did not put the door on the mouth, is even more hurried, often because of her temper to say some words that hurt feelings, the speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart, which makes her husband angry and cold, and the relationship between the two has become more and more intense.
Can't hold your breath, eventually hurt others and hurt yourself, in the face of lovers, each other need a person who "can hold their emotions".
Calming emotions means not complaining easily, not making unreasonable trouble, not being emotionally flustered, calm and calm, just like a gentle and quiet woman.
Gentle woman, exuding tenderness and kindness in her bones, like a fragrant lily, even if it is not swaying, it is refreshing.
The highest realm of "eating certainty" in love is that even if you do nothing, the lover is willing to stay, and the woman who can sink her emotions has such charm.
Sink in "words and deeds"
In the relationship, there is a kind of woman who makes people feel painful: for love, give everything, and eventually end up full of resentment and scars.
Love him in his eyes, mouth, and heart are all about him, trekking through mountains and rivers for him, being a "good wife and mother" for him, and even breaking up with his friends and breaking with his parents for him...
The "bloody" facts prove that they do not know how to pay in proportion, cannot sink their "words and deeds", and ultimately just move themselves and are tired of others.
"Red Roses and White Roses" says: What you can't get is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear.
The more you can't hold your breath and tell him how much you love him, the less he knows how to cherish, just as in human nature, people often don't pay attention to what they have.
In "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Simei is a person who cannot "say and do". In order to marry Qi Chenggang, he chased all the way to Xinjiang, which is it. When he learned that the two were not old enough to marry for the time being, he sent a letter to Qi Chenggang every three or five minutes, saying that he would not marry unless he did.
Later, he took good care of Qi Chenggang, and when the two got married, Qi Chenggang would do nothing but cause trouble. Even because a clerk betrayed Qiao Simei.
From beginning to end, it was Qiao Simei who was paying, including paying money and contributing to solve Qi Chenggang's problems, but as a result, he was abandoned like a.
Excessive "enthusiasm" will only make men have no fear, and women who can sink "words and deeds" will pay, but will never be "on call".
On the contrary, you calm down and ignore the man, who loves you more.
There is also a kind of woman that makes men disgusted and afraid - for the love of "one cry, two troubles and three hangings" people.
A little wind and grass to suspect each other, need to hold the other party tightly, and even do some exaggerated moves, this kind of superficial "eating" is nothing more than to fill their own inner lack of security, but it is easy to "scare" the other party away.
To truly "eat" a person, it is by attracting and guiding the other party to willingly give to the other party.
When a woman sinks into "words and deeds", an invisible "mystery" will also follow, which is the most fatal attraction for men.
When you can sink your words and deeds, the gentleness, tranquility, and understanding in your bones will also make the man you love unable to extricate yourself.
Sink the "heart"
The background of love is personality, which belongs to the core part of feelings.
People without a sound personality cannot retain love even if they encounter love, just as thieves cannot share, and timid people cannot be brave.
Psychologist Fromm said in The Art of Love: If a person does not strive to develop his full personality, every effort to love will fail.
There are such examples around, Chen Chen is a child of a single-parent family, her parents divorced when she was four years old, and she lived with her mother, and she lacked the love of her parents since she was a child.
After slowly growing up, Chen Chen was extremely insecure in her heart, and every time she fell in love, she broke up within half a year.
And the reason for each breakup is one, and the lover can't stand her suspicious ghost. The boyfriend is a little away for a while, or does not reply to the message in time, she is worried about this, doubts that, and even the phone call, the boyfriend really can't stand it.
Chenchen is a person who can't sink the "heart", she is extremely insecure in her heart, and brings this anxiety to love, resulting in her own love tragedy, if Chenchen does not perfect her personality, this tragedy may always accompany her.
The more you lack something in your heart, the more you want to grasp something, and the more you lose something as a result.
Behind the calm heart, a person has developed a stable and mature personality, is gentle, steady, determined, etc., such a woman lets men like a spring breeze, and interact with them, can make people feel solid and happy.
In addition, women who can hold their hearts have better resilience, have forward-looking thinking in getting along, even if they encounter the wind and rain of feelings, they can have enough confidence to face and solve, such a woman can truly achieve a fit with the personality of men.
In the survey on the causes of divorce, 40% of people answered: personality is not compatible, the three views are different.
Indeed, whether two people can come together may rely on "love at first sight", and whether they can go long depends on the matching of personality and three views.
A woman who can hold her heart is a person with a stable personality, a woman who is confident and determined, and even if she does nothing, she can tightly attract the eyes of men.
To love someone, you don't need to grasp the other person with all your strength, otherwise you are only the one who gets him, and you can't get his heart.
The highest realm of entrapment is not how to use means to others, but how to "manage" oneself.
No matter how much you love someone, you must know how to restrain yourself and be a calm woman.
Sink the emotions and provide good emotional value to the other party.
Calm down on words and deeds, not overly pay, let him know how to cherish you.
It is even more important to calm down and bring him real personality charm.
You have to believe that the more you hold your breath, the more he will love you.
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