Mr. Yang Dai once said:
"After a person has undergone different degrees of training, he will obtain different degrees of cultivation and different degrees of benefits." Like spices, the more crushed they are, the finer they are ground, the more intense the fragrance. ”
In this life, the most important thing is to invest in oneself and cultivate oneself.
Because when a person has achieved "sharp qi hidden in the chest, harmonious qi floating in the face, only when the qi is seen in things, and righteousness is applied to others".
People's charm and personality are very naturally reflected, and nature can live a high-standard life and have a high-level life.
As a result, his life also shone brightly.
1: Gentleman
To be a man, you must first become a gentleman.
To cultivate oneself, we must first cultivate ourselves as a person with the qualities of a gentleman.
The Tang Dynasty literary scholar Liu Zongyuan wrote in "Officials and Merchants": "Gentlemen seek the way and do not seek wealth. ”
True gentlemen are devoted to seeking morality, not wealth.
In their view, if a person has a moral foothold, natural popularity will come.
Once the popularity is high, then there are more channels to make money, more opportunities, and the natural living standard will also rise.
The reason why many people have lived a life of poverty and hardship is that they have put the cart before the horse about "seeking the tao" and "seeking wealth."
Therefore, once these people enter the society, they are very realistic into the eyes of money, everything is given priority to "interests", and if there is no money, then do not think about anything.
However, the more such a person likes money, the more money likes to stay away from you.
Many times, we have to tell ourselves a truth, money is also in the service of people, if money leaves people, it is nothing.
Therefore, a gentleman first acts as a person, then does things, and then earns money.
Confucius once said:
"A gentleman asks for himself, and a villain asks for others."
Gentlemen, generous, authentic, the pursuit of independence, even if they encounter difficult difficulties, they will try their best to solve them by themselves.
Even if they have many shortcomings, they will try their best to rely on their own strength to face them and deal with them bravely.
On the other hand, a villain likes to be eager for people all over the world to help them get through the difficulties once they encounter problems, and they know that they have shortcomings, they will also blame others, and like to blame others everywhere.
Many times, the villain thinks that he has won the present, but he does not know that he is losing the whole future.
Gentlemen, on the other hand, are willing to suffer losses and sins in the present moment, and even if they lose, they will firmly believe that they can win in the end.
2: Cultivate yourself
If a person wants to have a high level of cultivation, he needs to cultivate himself in life.
The writer Diane wrote in The Western Decision:
"Cultivating this thing is like a blood vessel, it can grow intricately in the deepest part of a person's flesh and blood, inseparable."
The reason why a person wants to cultivate himself is to be able to live a better life and live a more hierarchical life.
Therefore, when we can imagine what kind of life experience such a high-level life can bring to us, we will naturally be willing to work hard for it and fight for it.
Therefore, we also need to make high-level cultivation like blood flowing in the bones, and wherever we go, we can show a powerful charm.
To be a person, we must have enough self-awareness, and with this self-consciousness, we can soberly know what we should do and what we should not do every day.
Doing things also requires strong self-discipline, because once you develop the habit of self-discipline, you will naturally find the meaning of life in positive feedback.
Ruskin said:
"The human mind is malleable: if one watches a good painting every day, reads a page of a masterpiece, and listens to a wonderful song, one becomes a cultured person."
It is not difficult to become a person with cultivation and cultivation, the point is that we can remind ourselves every day to do what we should do.
Simple, ordinary words and deeds can also gradually refine the wisdom of cultivation.
Believe in yourself, affirm yourself, positive sunshine, optimistic and confident, calmly and calmly do yourself, in order to live well in the present, cherish the present, and achieve the present.
3: Self-achievement
A person's achievements do not lie in having the help of others or how much support they have, but in relying on themselves.
Only when a person has achieved economic independence, spiritual independence, and personality independence can he live out his self-confidence, dignity and strength.
Admittedly, to be such a person, it is destined not to be a journey that can easily reach the end.
Because in such a process, we will encounter many troubles, grievances, pain, torture and failure.
Therefore, we need to find the support point of life and find the direction of life in the process of various tempering and cultivating ourselves.
In fact, no matter how high a person eventually reaches the top of the mountain, the process requires a huge effort and price to be exchanged.
Therefore, no matter how much a person has achieved in the end, the process is bitter, painful, and painful.
But it is precisely because we have survived and also gained a wealth of cultivation, knowledge and cultivation from it, naturally this kind of life is earned and is very worth living.
It is precisely because of such a rich and wonderful life experience that our cultivation has naturally been sublimated, and then we can freely and calmly exude our strong personality charm in life.
Writer Roland said:
"The beauty of temperament comes not so much from the cultivation of the heart, but from the ability to appreciate beautiful things." This appreciation makes a person's speech and behavior different. ”
To be a person, you are conscious, and you are self-disciplined in doing things.
In this way, cultivate the body and mind and enrich the personality.
Therefore, do not be insulted, idle to watch the flowers bloom and fall before the court;
To stay unintentional, with the clouds outside the sky cirrus clouds, live out a beautiful life.
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