Wen | snow fell without dust
This is a world of faces, as long as you look beautiful, you will be very popular with others. However, having a beautiful appearance will not always be valued. Between people, the first sight depends on the appearance, and the long-term residence depends on the character.
The same is true in marriage, where the inner nurture between husband and wife is always greater than the external beauty. Beauty is only a temporary eye-catcher, and excellent qualities are the power to maintain a lasting marital relationship.
If two people get married, if you don't have tolerance, understanding, and forbearance, even if you are beautiful, it is difficult to form a marriage; and if you have a kind, gentle, and virtuous heart, even if you look ordinary, you will be appreciated by your partner.
Therefore, we must choose someone with nurturing to get married, only in this way will we get along comfortably and will have a happy marriage.
It can be said that the husband and wife can not go to the end, do not look at anything else, look at a little.
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No matter how beautiful the appearance, it will eventually lose to reality
Between husband and wife, only the appearance value is far from enough. Because we live together, we will experience the chai rice oil and salt in the days, family chores. This requires our hearts to be rich, tolerant and understanding of each other, and only then will our feelings be long-lasting.
In real life, many couples only pay attention to the gorgeous appearance and ignore the inner feelings, and in the end, the once mountain alliance and sea oath are defeated by the messy reality of the place.
In the TV series "Qiao Family Children", the youngest daughter Qiao Simei grew up under the love of her brothers and sisters, and developed the habit of liking and not liking bad, and for her own mate selection standard, that is, the man is as long as he is handsome.
Later, her wish finally became a reality, but her marriage was not as happy as she had imagined.
In the process of shopping, Qiao Simei fell in love with Qi Chenggang at first sight.
Because she likes Qi Chenggang, she wrote letters to Qi Chenggang many times, did not feel sorry for the phone bill, repeatedly called Qi Chenggang, and came thousands of miles to Qi Chenggang's unit to date him...
Qiao Simei painstakingly worked hard for this relationship, and under her fanatical pursuit, she finally won the identity of Qi Chenggang's fiancée.
However, the good times did not last long, and after the two people fell in love, Qi Chenggang was punished by his superiors for making a mistake. Qiao Simei's family all opposed this marriage, but Qiao Simei still insisted on marrying Qi Chenggang.
However, after marriage, Qi Chenggang betrayed one after another, and he was lukewarm to Qiao Simei, and there was simply no warmth between husband and wife.
Qiao Simei also realized that in such a marriage, there was no benefit to her, and she later filed for divorce.
The handsome man that Qiao Simei wanted to marry not only did not bring her a happy life, but brought her a full face of frost in her life. At first, The marriage of Jinghua Shuiyue was defeated by the reality of unhappiness with getting along.
There is a saying that "people's hearts are separated from their stomachs", and you never know what is in the mind of the person who sleeps with you.
Even if he has a delicate appearance, it is not inevitable that he will be against you. What can make marriage unbreakable is always a person's rich connotation and noble character.
Many people start with appearance in marriage, but they lose to character. Entering marriage with romantic passion, but gaining disappointment and regret.
The most important thing in marriage is not the moving vows of the mountains and the sea, but the peace of mind of the long stream. No matter how beautiful the appearance, it will age, and the longer the good character, the more mellow it will be.
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Obsessive love also requires mutual understanding between partners
When in love, I always think that a sentence of "I love you" can overcome everything, but after marriage, it still falls apart. It's not that we don't love anymore, it's that we don't understand. Many times in marriage, understanding is greater than love.
Sisters and brothers-in-law are such partners who live in mutual understanding. They have been like a day for more than ten years, they have not quarreled, they have not had a red face, and some are just full of warm love.
The brother-in-law is the vice president of a factory in the south, while the sister teaches at a junior high school in a city in the north, and the children study at the side of their grandparents.
They only meet once a month, and the rest of the time is video, which has lasted for six years, but this has not affected the relationship between the two people in the slightest.
The brother-in-law understands the hard work of the sister, and the sister understands that it is not easy for the brother-in-law to work for the family outside. Two people encourage each other, help each other and love each other, although it is a long-lasting long-distance relationship, it is very sweet.
Love is a momentary heartbeat, but marriage is two people's mutual understanding and understanding.
Only in this way can you put yourself in the other person's shoes and receive the other person's empathy for you. Two people go hand in hand, and the days get better and better.
A happy marriage is to generate a sense of curiosity in each other, always want to communicate with each other, and feel that the other party is an inexhaustible treasure that they cannot dig. Even if life is tedious, you will find shining points in each other.
In this way, the two souls who understand and penetrate each other will warm each other and illuminate each other on the road of life. It makes sense more than any gorgeous confession, and together we reach the end of happiness.
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Between husband and wife, the heart is more important than the appearance, and the understanding is more important than love
A good marriage is not only beautiful in appearance, but also grows continuously, with a shell that can withstand the storms of life. Only those partners who see the essence through the appearance and the inner through the essence can reap true happiness.
In "The World of Man", Zhao Bingkun fell in love with Zheng Juan at first sight, saying that he had never seen a woman as good as Zheng Juan. But he did not have the courage to confess to Zheng Juan, but silently helped Zhang Juan in life.
Later, the two finally came together. Zheng Juan attaches great importance to this feeling and has not lived up to Zhou Bingkun's trust in her. She gave Zhou Bingkun the greatest support in life, both emotionally and in action.
Zhou Bingkun was imprisoned, Zheng Juan took care of his elderly mother for him; Zhou Bingkun gave all his savings to Zheng Juan, zheng Juan did not move; Zhou Bingkun's brothers and sisters were admitted to college, and Zheng Juan comforted him...
This couple, living and dying together in times of tribulation, and froth in peacetime. It makes people feel that marriage is not that you choose each other, but that you will choose each other at any time.
It is easy to love each other, and a beautiful marriage is not the surprise at first sight, not the confiding of sweet words, but the deep understanding in the years, the silent support after each choice.
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What determines whether a couple can live to old age is not money, let alone feelings
Marriages should have a powerful core to be happy, and those marriages that are combined because of beauty, wealth, and interests will sooner or later collapse because the emotional foundation is not solid.
True love is hidden in the details of life. It's you who're cold, someone adds you a piece of clothing; you're thirsty, someone pours you a glass of water; you're tired, someone carries the weight for you; you're sad, someone gives you a shoulder to lean on.
Marriage does not need to be earth-shattering, but someone to accompany you until dusk, someone to warm up for you. Marriage does not need to be sworn by the mountains and seas, but the passion fades, and the relationship remains the same.
May you always enjoy the beauty of marriage, feel happiness in chai rice oil and salt, and be able to read each other in each other's eyes.