Long and long, once in a lifetime, is the feeling that everyone yearns for.
But between the two sexes, sweet words, sea oaths and mountain alliances abound, but there are not many left that can be truly implemented into practical actions.
You think that the other party is your destiny, but perhaps in the other person's heart, you are just his dispensable.
Judging whether a man loves or doesn't love is never about how much love he says to you or how much beautiful promise he has to you.
It's about looking at what he really gives you and makes you feel when you're with him.
If with him he never gives you the following three things, then it only shows that he does not love you very much.
respect
There is a saying:
"The essence of love is inclusion, understanding, and respect, not control, manipulation, and possession."
Deeply believed.
People who truly love you will definitely respect your ideas and care about your feelings.
He won't impose his own ideas on you, much less force you to live according to his ideas and plans.
On the contrary, if a man always ignores your requests and does not have the slightest respect for you, then it can only mean that you are only an appendage in his heart.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
There is such a couple, after two people get married, everything is dominated by men, men ask women to resign as full-time wives, ask women not to have their own friends, ask women to be gentle and virtuous...
But whenever a woman is slightly unhappy, the man will lose his temper, and without waiting for the woman to refute it, he will be impatient just a sentence:
"How I say it, you do it!"
At first, women would comfort themselves, "He asked me this, and it was for my own good." ”
However, people cannot blindly wronged themselves, and over time, women can no longer tolerate a complete outbreak, and the feelings of two people have come to an end.
The writer Suzen said:
"Maintaining a relationship has never relied on condescending to seek perfection and generalization."
Truly good feelings are always equal, and they make people feel relaxed, happy, and free.
If, a man, who always doesn't consider your feelings, doesn't respect your ideas, always wants to manipulate you.
Then it is not so much that he loves you, but that he loves the obedient you.
With such a person, even if you can endure for a while, you must not tolerate it for a lifetime.
distressed
Wang Xiaobo wrote to his wife Li Yinhe:
"You cry when you get angry, and I'm stunned when I see you crying." It's like a little kid who is stunned before he does something bad and isn't blamed. ”
Loving someone is like that, he won't be able to bear to see you cry, sad, helpless.
But whenever you are a little unhappy, he will feel that he is not doing well, and he will be inexplicably distressed.
However, when a man, even if you tear your heart and lungs in front of him, he can be indifferent, then he really does not care about you at all.
Friend Xiaoyue has been with her ex for two years.
For two years, the man never really cared for her.
At first, Xiao yue thought that men just had big hearts, but they wouldn't hurt people, and they didn't care about her.
But until one time, Xiao Yue's stomach hurt badly.
So she staggered over to her boyfriend and said she was going to the hospital with a stomachache.
However, the boyfriend who was playing the game did not lift his head, but coldly replied: "I know." ”
That day, Xiao Yue endured severe pain alone, went to take a drip and take medicine tossed late, but a concern message from her boyfriend on her mobile phone was not received.
It was also at that moment that Xiao Yue completely recognized and was completely cold.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"The hurt a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he is in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations."
The coolest thing in the world is not that the whole world is against you, but that your partner doesn't know how to hurt you.
With a person who never knows how to take care of you, the patience will eventually run out sooner or later, and the feelings are doomed to be difficult to last,
Security
What is the greatest sense of security for a woman in a relationship?
It's not whether the man is strong enough to protect her, but it's about making her feel that she's being firmly chosen.
A man who loves you must be a person who knows how to restrain himself and will not sway the source, so that you can feel his singleness.
However, if a man is always looking at your feelings like a child's play and makes you insecure, then it is only because you are not very important in his heart.
In the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Simei loves Qi Chenggang very much, and for Qi Chenggang, she lowers her bottom line again and again, and even loses her own principles.
However, Qi Chenggang was restless, and he repeatedly betrayed Qiao Simei's trust, so that Qiao Simei had been living in uneasiness.
At first, Qiao Simei thought that she could tolerate it, thinking that she could move Qi Chenggang through forgiveness, but she was wrong.
After being finally injured and exhausted, the relationship between the two people also came to an end,
So does Qi Chenggang really love Qiao Simei?
In fact, it is not, because if he really loves, then he will not know that he will cause harm to Qiao Simei, and he will go to the mix again and again.
I really like this sentence:
"I did choose you seriously, but if you are still eager to move the world and delay in giving me a result, then I will not wait for you." 」
A person who is never serious about feelings and is never firm in feelings cannot withstand temptation at all, and such a person cannot give you a sense of security, let alone give you a happy future.
Love is never spoken out, but made in action.
If a man can't give you the above three things, then swing the knife and cut the love in time to stop the loss.
After all, your life is precious and there's no need to waste it on people who don't deserve it.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.