Yi said that the gathering place for women's growth, may you not wear armor, you can resist thousands of life is not easy, welcome attention.
"Forbearance" has never been a tool to ease relations, but a sharp blade that hurts oneself. Don't turn unrequited love into a knife that stabs you, and don't think that your unconditional giving is a responsibility that must be assumed under a bound relationship.
Zhang Ailing said: "Because I have loved, I am compassionate; because I understand, I am tolerant." ”
In the ending of "Joe's Children", Simei chose to divorce and raise the children alone. She calmly faced the past with Qi Chenggang and returned all the letters she had received in the past to him. Because he had loved, after knowing that he had betrayed his family and betrayed his marriage, he still chose to try to settle everything for him; because he understood, when Qi Chenggang cheekily requested remarriage, he chose to be different and two wide, completely clear.
People will not say goodbye if they do not exhaust all their expectations, however, Simei's expectations are snuffed out by Qi Chenggang's betrayals again and again.
I once saw a sentence, forbearance in the name of love, so that we are all unrecognizable, and the voice of the heart cannot reach how to pay has a deviation.
Before getting married, Simei knew that Qi Chenggang had a style problem, but she chose to forgive for love and in order to get the approval of her family; when she was pregnant, she witnessed Qi Chenggang making love to other women, but she still chose to forgive again for her daughter; later, Qi Chenggang and the bookstore clerk Meng Guizhi were unclear, making her pregnant, and even entangled with him after Simei knew, but in this way, Simei still chose to forgive and paid for the Meng family who went to the door to make a big fuss.
In the name of love, Simei chose to tolerate it again and again, making the marriage that was not equal even more unrecognizable. In front of her family, she did everything she could to defend Qi Chenggang, gain self-comfort in Qi Chenggang's rhetorical requests for forgiveness, and immerse herself in her full love for her husband and family.
She put on the humble shackles and drew the ground as a prison with forbearance, and she wanted to throw it away and grasp it tightly. The painful Qiao Simei believes in love too much, but she does not understand that the full love cannot impress a person who has a flower intestine in his bones, too active, and the love will be halved.
People are always too attached to what they see at first sight, and perhaps there is not only love but also too much attachment and reluctance in forgiveness again and again. People will always ignore those enthusiastic and active love choices, and the sense of freshness and excitement that they cannot get is more willing to chase.
Simei said, I always give you what I like and feel good about myself, whether you like it or not, whether you want it or not, all of them are stuffed for you, and in the end I make myself tired, according to what my eldest brother said, this is called self-contempt and self-contempt, and I don't want to do this in the future.
She openly proposed divorce, and the look in her eyes was the compassion for this love and the determination to say goodbye to the past life. Because I had felt the pain of extreme dead silence, after calming down, I had the firmness and calmness in my eyes. Simei has an older brother and sister who loves her incomparably, and before she met Qi Chenggang, she had a pure smile and a simple and beautiful fantasy. After meeting Qi Chenggang, behind the smile are tears of forbearance, and behind the calm is the undercurrent of sadness.
She exchanged all her persistence and childishness for the so-called maturity and tenderness, which were worthless in the amorous Qi Chenggang. Qi Chenggang's work and even life are inseparable from Simei's help, but Simei uses forgiveness and forbearance again and again to make him feel taken for granted, so he is unscrupulous.
To put it bluntly, they are a pretend affection, a love brain.
In Qiao Simei's body, we can see the epitome of too many girls who can't be loved, they may not be really stupid, stupid enough to wake up only when the truth is bloodied in front of them, they are just reluctant, they just force themselves to expect, expect him to change, expect betrayal without the next time. The feelings of two people, the person who often cries loses, the humble person loses, the person who has always forgiven loses, the person who does not ask for return and the person who posts upside down loses.
In the face of Qi Chenggang's quest for peace, Simei was indifferent. Such a man always remembers the good of the other party after suffering hardships, and he begins to covet Simei's unconditional dedication and love, and Simei buries Qi Chenggang's self-righteousness with a dead heart.
Simei took her daughter to live alone, and told all girls with the lesson of blood and tears: love can begin with romance, but it must stop at reason, and it is important to love yourself. Forbearance has never been a tool to ease relationships and maintain marriage, and excessive tolerance will only turn into a sharp blade and be stuck in one's heart. Don't wait for the hot blood to drip up before you wake up, be silent, and stop the loss in time. Never blindly love someone who doesn't value you. It's not terrible to break up, it's terrible that the person you love consumes your love and doesn't respond, consumes your love to love others, don't try to forgive someone who betrays you. Independence and sobriety are the best armor for women, and when you live only for yourself, you are not afraid of gain or loss.
Simei finally bid farewell to the past and welcomed a new life. On the day of holding an umbrella alone, remember to stride forward. Independence, sobriety, and loving oneself are always the most beautiful gestures for a woman.
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