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Hit period drama "The World of Man"
Fade to the end
Many netizens think
This drama is comparable to "The Age of Awakening" and so on
"The World"
It is a realist play
Why on social media
Got a lot of discussion?
What kind of plot
Catching the eye of people of different ages?
The drama mainly tells the life story of three generations of a family surnamed Zhou living in a provincial capital city in the northeast, creating the image of a group of civilians who rise and fall in the tide of history.
The story begins in the 1960s and 1970s, with the zhou family, according to the policy of keeping only one child per family, the eldest son responds to the call of the state to go to the construction corps, the sister does not quit, and the younger brother passively stays in the city. Later plots, covering stories of family, love and friendship, allow the audience to experience the vicissitudes of the times through the survival and reproduction of a family within half a century, the twists and turns of fate, so that people can see that ordinary people can also shoulder responsibilities and live a life of integrity and self-respect.
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The "distance" between "The World" and Us
01
The epitome of a Chinese father and son
In "The World of Man", the two sword-rattling quarrels between the youngest son Zhou Bingkun and Zhou's father aroused strong resonance in many people's hearts due to excessive authenticity. Obviously, they care about each other but want to deny each other, eager to understand but rush to talk and fight for red ears, so that many Chinese families have seen their own shadows.
"Two men, most likely for the rest of their lives, just look alike. Those who are lucky become confidants. If there is misfortune, it can only be A and B. A widely circulated lyric has become a true portrayal of many fathers and sons. A taciturn, a young stubborn; obviously full of love, but never speaks up; satisfaction is hidden deep in the heart, criticism is often on the lips...
A lot between father and son
It's not just screwing and alienating
Many people describe it
His relationship with his father
It's a protracted war
What ignites the war may be that the father blindly imposes his will on the child, or it may be that he is stingy in appreciation but always picks mistakes with a magnifying glass. The flames of war are also burning stronger in children's struggles for recognition, respect, and self-pursuit.
Netizens on a social platform
Launched the topic "Why Chinese Fathers and Sons Are Difficult to Get Along"
120 million reads
This is evident
In fact, in most families, where there are so many irreconcilable right and wrong, the reason why it is difficult to get along is largely due to the lack of communication between the two sides and the lack of communication. Some people say that fatherly love is like Zen, it is not convenient to ask, it is not easy to say, it can only be understood. Silent and stern, many people label their fathers like this.
Writer Zhu Ziqing's "I'll buy a few oranges and go." You are here, don't move around", is the way the introverted father expresses his love. I quickly wiped away my tears. Afraid that he will see it, and afraid that others will see it", the son expressed the same stoic restraint.
sometimes
Fathers who love deep responsibilities
It is also very likely to be in the name of love
Excessive interference in the child's life
One does not ask, one does not say
Confrontation with emotions
It's like that, it's piled up over time
Father and son are increasingly estranged
Admittedly, harshness and silence do not mean no love. With the passage of time and the change of roles, many people will gradually understand the pulse warmth behind silence and see the fragility and hardship behind the strength at a certain stage of life and in the details of life. There are also fathers who are happy to let go when they see that the children who have not been able to rest assured have grown into warriors in life and picked up the burden of life. The tightness of the tip of the needle to Mai Mang will always disintegrate with the retreat of one side, reaching a reconciliation with the past and with each other. This is the warmth of life.
Literature, film and television works
I like to set up a link to relieve my previous suspicions
But life
Often there are not so many dramatic plots
In reality, long-term alienation can easily cross the river of time, and more understanding may not necessarily build a bridge of communication. The wounds in intimate relationships are likely to become a lingering shadow of each other's life, wounds that can never be healed. Also, hurt is hurt, not all misunderstandings can eventually be eliminated, not all regrets have a chance to make up. This is also the cruelty of life.
Obviously, in the tug-of-war of parent-child relationships, no one is the winner. Today, such topics are more discussed and have sparked broader thinking. Perhaps, let go of each other's judgment standards, respect each other, treat each other as equals, and say love well, the relaxed relationship will make each other more connected.
It's not just father and son
Other family members get along
Why not?
I want to say
Father and son are connected to the heart
Why the mountains and seas?
You can't be a confidant
Don't be A and B.........
02
The least outstanding child
Not all families, the whole family can be together all the time...
In the play, Zhou Father has always been eager to take a family portrait again, but he has been working outside for many years, because of various coincidences, this seemingly simple wish has not been realized until the death of Zhou Father, which makes people feel that time is fleeting, the world is impermanent, for real life, a mind is thrown at work, always feel that parents are still young, and there are people who have time to accompany them in the future, which is nothing more than a reminder.
The biggest "tear point" of the whole drama is the last conversation of the family lying on the kang on the night before Zhou's father died. The three children asked the father which child he saw as the best. This scene is endlessly evocative and heart-wrenching.
In terms of worldly achievements, the protagonist Zhou Bingkun is the "least outstanding" child of the Zhou family - poor study, average work... However, it is precisely this kind of non-"outstanding" that magnifies Zhou Bingkun's excellent qualities such as striving for work, daring to take responsibility, and filial piety to his parents, and creating a remarkable little person. Ordinary people who do not have much ability have become the "good people" who pay the most to their families and relatives.
Writer Liang Xiaosheng said that no matter in any era, especially in special years, there is a need for more "good people". As for the standard of "good man" —
Cultivation rooted in the heart
Self-awareness without reminders
Freedom premised on constraints
Kindness for the sake of others
…………
03
The Zhou family's view of education
Where there are people, there are fireworks, there is education. The nearly 50-year struggle of the three generations of the Zhou family allows us to see the inextricable connection between personal development and the original family.
During the viewing process
Xiaobian is not idle
Start with the story of the two generations of the Zhou family
Summarize a few laws of cause and effect
About homeschooling
The family style is positive, and the children and grandchildren are prosperous
In the whole light character film, most of the people are poor and humble, except for the Zhou family. The Zhou family produced a mayor, a professor, a director, a director of obstetrics and gynecology, and four Qingbei scholars. Even Bingkun, who only has a primary school diploma, is also the core figure in the "Six Little Gentlemen", and just came out of prison and was surrounded by friends to "lead everyone to engage in moving companies".
Zhou Zhigang, the "big parent" of the Zhou family, is just an ordinary worker who has been supporting the construction of the motherland for many years, why are his descendants so good?
The trees of the heavens will have their roots, and the waters of the mountains will have their sources. Family style is the "root" and "source" of a family's rise and fall. Looking closely at the three children of the Zhou family, The great righteousness of Bingyi, the loyalty of Bingkun, the enthusiasm of Zhou Rong, and the tenacity of the second daughter-in-law Zheng Juan can all find shadows in Zhou's father and mother.
The family style of "benevolent and righteous atmosphere" distinguishes the Zhou family from other families of the light character film.
Anti-sightseeing word piece other family
The National Day family loves to complain, so the family is restless, the husband and daughter-in-law have an awkward quarrel and freeze to death in the cold winter, and the grandson has not been admitted to college. Chun Yan's family is sophisticated, has many eyes, loves to calculate, and is finally despised by a group of old friends, and after the child fails the test, there is a farce of running away from home. Catching up with the kindness of the family, knowing the gratitude of the map, although the times gave them a poor fate, the third generation was admitted to the best major of Harbin Institute of Technology and walked on the road to turning over...
If the family style is right, the children and grandchildren will prosper; if the family style is not right, disasters will be born. Therefore, we must pay attention to the impact of our words and deeds on our children and set a good example for our children. If the family style is not correct, no amount of education is futile.
A good mother, Nengwang for three generations
The Zhou family has two good mothers: Mother Zhou and daughter-in-law Zheng Juan.
In the first half of the plot, Zhou's mother who stayed at home can be called the "soul figure" of the Zhou family, and the children's letters, telegrams, and the recent situation of Zhou's father are all connected through her, and how much love and expectation are pinned on her in the correspondence.
Zhou Rong only mentioned once that she wanted a red sweater, and Zhou's mother knitted one for her every year.
Although the family is separated, the strong family affection always surrounds the heart.
There is almost no red face between the brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, between husband and wife, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is their mother who teaches them love and warmth.
In the book "The Influence of Mothers", there is such a passage: a family, even if the family is surrounded by disciples, as long as there is a mother who is upright, industrious, kind, and optimistic, such a family is the temple and source of spiritual growth. Zhou Mu is the best annotation of this passage.
Later, Zhou Mu was confused from time to time due to cerebral thrombosis sequelae, and Zheng Juan supported the rear of the family. The whole family's eating and drinking, and the children's supervision of learning are also her own efforts, which can be called the "common mother" of the third generation of the Zhou family.
Zhou Bingkun's 8-year prison disaster and the collapse after his release from prison were zheng juan's provocation to ensure that the sky did not collapse, the family did not disperse, and the children could study with peace of mind.
Half of the credit for the well-being of a family is due to those who work outside, and the other half is due to the mothers who take care of the old and young at home. They do the most inconspicuous work, but they play the most powerful logistical support role. A good mother, Nengwang for three generations.
Ordinary children are here to repay the favor
The most prominent child of the Zhou family is Zhou Bingyi: a high-achieving student in the Philosophy Department of Peking University, a mayor with a head and a face, and the Yue family is also powerful. As a son-in-law and leader, he is qualified, asking for the people's lives and filial piety for his parents-in-law. As a son alone, he was unqualified: he had no time to serve his parents in front of him to "raise his mouth", nor did he take into account the dignity of the old father to "nourish the mind", and the in-laws who were in a high position did not see their relatives, or even inferior to the neighbors, who still took care of one or two when their parents were sick.
Also out of the scene is her daughter Zhou Rong, the youngest professor in the department of Chinese at Peking University, but she not only did not take care of her parents, but also added a lot of trouble to the whole family.
The world of good kids is bigger and farther away, and they may not see their parents several times a year. On the other hand, the younger son, Zhou Bingkun, although he did not have a big show, he was able to keep filial piety in front of his parents.
During the two years that Zhou's mother was in a cerebral thrombosis coma, Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan dressed and fed their mother, wiped the urine with, and snatched her back from the hands of the god of death. When Zhou's father fell ill, Bingkun was also sent to the hospital for the first time, and when his father was thirsty, hungry, and wanted to smoke, he saddled up and waited. Even Zhou Mu, who was confused from time to time, knew that Bingkun was stronger than his brother and sister, and he was at home, and his heart was solid.
I remembered a school principal's screen brush remarks: "Ordinary children are here to repay their parents' kindness, they can often accompany their parents around, today they eat beef balls with their parents, tomorrow they can eat seafood with their parents, so that their parents can enjoy their old age in peace." And excellent children, in the future to go to a bigger place to develop, meet can only rely on video ..."
So, please cherish the child with mediocre qualifications around you! Although the children who stay around are ordinary, they can bring their parents steady happiness.
The closer you are to the person, the better you have to say it
The most eye-catching scene in "The World" is that Bingkun quarrels with his father.
The incident stemmed from the fact that my brother and sister were admitted to Peking University and went home together to visit the New Year. The whole precinct produced two of their college students, so Father Zhou was very proud and led his three children out to greet the villagers in the New Year, and by the way, he showed off.
However, how glamorous the older brothers and sisters are, how gloomy the ordinary Bingkun is. Instead of taking care of his emotions, his father gave him a blast of training at the crowded station.
"Your brother and your sister have studied well since childhood, but what about you?" Your grades are always counting backwards..."
"Even if there is no chore dragging you down, can you get in?"
At this moment, Zhou Bingkun's dignity was completely torn apart. His face was full of shock, anger, grievance, disappointment, disbelief!
His father's "sprinkling salt on his wounds" made Zhou Bingkun sad, so angry that he ignored his father for many years, and did not even tell his father about moving. Years later, after the heartbroken old father figured out the reason, he cried and scolded and apologized to Bingkun.
Love your children
Words that can be spoken
But it seems to blame the child
That's how a lot of parents talk
Many viewers said
It's so real
To be fair, Father Zhou was already a relatively patterned father of that era. He also repeatedly praised Zhou Bingkun as the "most satisfied" of the three children, which was a completely avoidable misunderstanding. However, when he saw Zhou Bingkun's mood, he got angry, and when he quarreled, he got on fire and ignored it.
The closer you are, the more you understand your pain points, so it is easier to say the most sting words, what words are difficult to hear, where the pain is poking.
Home is a harbor of love, and the best emotions should be reserved for the closest people, such as parents, such as children. The closer you are to the person, the more you should have something to say.
It's hard
Take your child with you too
The most unpleasant descendant of the Zhou family is probably Yue Yue. She is willful, selfish, affectionate, rebellious, and always thinks only of herself.
Many viewers couldn't help but sigh —
The loyal and benevolent Zhou family
How to raise such a child?
Looking back at her upbringing, you will find that she was actually a poor child.
When she was a child, her parents were inconvenient to take her, and she grew up with her uncle and aunt until she was 16 years old, until her uncle's family could no longer live and was forced to return home. She vowed that when she had children in the future, no matter how difficult it was, she would take them with her.
Although her uncle and aunt never treated her badly, her parents were not around, and she always had a sense of inferiority under the fence.
She always felt that she was just the nominal child of her parents, and there was no affection. So she didn't care what her mother said, and didn't obey discipline. Later, when she became a third party in the family of an elderly man in her 50s, she didn't care if her parents were injured.
Educator Charlotte Mason says:
"Many parents are always busy and never have time to take care of their children.
When they finally want to take good care of their children one day, they find that they can't communicate with their children, and parents have become insignificant to their children. ”
Parents who only care about birth and childbearing are dereliction of duty. Psychologists believe that if a child has a significant period of separation from his parents, it will cause "parent-child interruption" trauma, causing low self-esteem, no sense of belonging, emotional vulnerability, and difficulty in establishing a trusting relationship with others. Before the age of 7, it is the critical period of children's personality shaping and emotional development, which almost constitutes the basis of children's mental health.
Parents who are absent from the growth of their children will lose not only the child's childhood, but also the child's intimate relationship with you, the child's mental health, and the health of the personality. Parental companionship has a "validity period", and if you miss this period, it is difficult to make up for it later.
The price of not reading
It will take a lifetime to repay
The most lamentable character in "The World" is Zhou Bingkun and his friend "Six Little Gentlemen". The "Six Little Gentlemen" started from the same point, all of them were ordinary workers. The only difference is that Lü Chuan and Xiang Yang love to study, and after the policy improved, they were admitted to the university.
After graduation, Lü Chuan entered the career path and rose all the way to the Central Commission for Discipline Inspection. Xiang Yang became an engineer with an annual income of hundreds of thousands. At this time, the views and patterns of the two are different from those of the 4 old friends, and they also have different social circles. They either did not attend the gathering of the six little gentlemen, or they reluctantly joined without a common language.
The diploma is only a thin piece of paper, but it can draw a deep gap and open the gap between people, which is the power of knowledge. Chao Chao soberly saw this, so before dying, he told the child a thousand words -
This is the last entrustment of a father who has suffered all his life to his son, and it is also the deepest feeling of his struggle for half a lifetime.
Don't read, don't say hello at all when the times eliminate you. Therefore, we must tell our children that life is not easy, and we must arm ourselves with knowledge. Only by making knowledge as the foundation can we withstand the torrent of the times and change the fate of mediocrity.
"The World of Man" uses 50 years of life change history to tell us: the fate of a person's life is rooted in the original family; the future of the child is hidden in the words and deeds of the parents. What we want to do is to be a family style, respect parents, love children, and pass on the virtues of warmth, goodness and positivity from generation to generation.
May our children
Live as a hero in ordinary life
There is affection and righteousness
responsible
In charge of yes