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Brothers and sisters are people who "break bones and connect tendons".
Regarding brothers and sisters, there is a classic movie line that goes like this: "We used to be snowflakes floating down from the sky, originally we didn't know each other, but after landing on the ground, we became one, froze into ice, turned into water, and never separated." ”
Yes, in this life, if you have one or two brothers and sisters, no matter how old you are, you will not feel lonely, there will always be someone to take care of, and that person, as if he is a part of himself, many words, without saying more, can be understood in seconds; many things, do not need to be picked, each other has tacitly understood.
Therefore, people who can have brothers and sisters in this life are born with more happiness and luck than others.
However, the tree is big forked, and the children are big and the family is divided. Even the closest brothers and sisters, when they become adults, will eventually have their own families. If you want to be as intimate as before, you must begin to learn to have a "degree" everywhere.
Only by using such a "polite" method can we maintain the eternity of family affection.
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The exchange of money and wealth should be "measured", not to punch the swollen face and fill the fat, and to borrow and not to hurt and be angry.
Brother, settle the account. It seems to put family affection aside and put the word li first, but it is a kind of great wisdom.
A few years ago, the house in my hometown was demolished, and the old house left by my grandfather had to be divided. Therefore, the uncle, who was over eighty years old, gathered five brothers and sisters to his home, laid out a table of good dishes, and after eating, discussed together how to divide the money.
My father ranked fifth, the first to express his position, listening to his brothers and sisters, my aunt is the only daughter, she said to listen to my brothers and brothers, the third uncle went to the village, only said that he took some money on the line, do not care how much.
Finally, the uncle synthesized everyone's opinions, on the basis of equal distribution, voluntarily made some exchanges, and wrote down the notes, and all five of them pressed the handprints, and the harmony was dispersed.
This practice is a tradition that our entire extended family has been following. In the early years, our three sisters went to school and often worried about tuition fees. Dad would borrow money from his uncles, write an IOU every time, and when he had money, he would pay it back and tear it off.
Therefore, no matter how many times they borrowed, no one had a quarrel because of it.
As for doing good deeds with the share of money, they are also discussed well, not with very heavy gifts, and it is the same for everyone's house.
It is precisely because in terms of money exchanges, everyone has grasped a scale, although there are no small deviations in each other's economic strength, but a large family has always been harmonious and happy.
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Supporting parents should be "measured" and take responsibility for each other, which is the best filial piety.
In the TV series "In the World", among the three sons and daughters of the Zhou family, the one who is the most unproductive is the old third Zhou Bingkun, but the most filial piety is also him.
On ordinary days, Bingkun and Zheng Juan accompanied their parents and guarded the family. When Zhou Dad suddenly fell ill, he and his wife waited in front of the bed after they were busy.
At that time, the eldest brother Zhou Bingyi and the second sister Zhou Rong were rushing back from the field in a hurry. As soon as they returned, they blamed Bingkun without saying a word.
Fortunately, Zhou's father said fairly: "I am the father of the three of you, not Bingkun alone." You can't blame Bingkun for being by his side and having an accident. ”
Zhou Bingkun is the most aggrieved, in the hearts of his parents, the eldest brother and the second sister will always be their pride and pride, is their family's "golden signboard", and himself, is the person who is not welcomed and not valued.
But these grievances, Zhou Bingkun finally let go, some people gave their parents a long face, some people brought tea and water to their parents, this is not to fulfill the duty of each person.
Therefore, he suffered the most, but he did not hate his brother and sister in his heart, and those obstacles that could not be passed were also dissipated with the passage of time.
A family that can be harmonious and prosperous depends on the indifference between parents and children: those who have money and make a strong contribution, as long as they think in one place and work hard together, no one should be happy if they have not "left a hand" with their responsibilities and obligations.
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Mutual help should be "measured" and distinguish between inside and outside, so as to take care of the "small family" and not hurt "everyone".
There is a saying that "the eldest brother is like the father, and the eldest sister-in-law is like the mother." ”
Those who take the initiative to take on the responsibility of caring for and raising younger siblings are often the most suffering people in a large family. But this kind of payment, if you do not pay attention to the scale, will also do bad things with good intentions.
My uncle was my grandmother's only son, and he had five daughters before him, all of whom were pampered by the arrival of this younger brother.
Because his parents were spoiled and his sisters were spoiled, his uncle only managed his clothes to open his mouth when he was young. When it came to the age of talking about marriage, it was also a few aunts who pooled money to help him buy a house, gathered the bride price, and arranged the wedding.
When the uncle and aunt gave birth to a child, the mothers and aunts once again made a large sum of money to help the uncle buy a small truck, hoping that they would be able to support themselves.
But where the uncle ate the pain of getting up early every day to pull goods, within a year, he sold the pickup truck and played cards at home to live.
Therefore, no matter how much the grandparents put pressure on their mothers and aunts, they decided not to "rescue" the brother-in-law again, and they even regretted why they did not stop the "funding" of the brother-in-law earlier and forced themselves to make a living.
It is natural for brothers and sisters to take care of each other and support each other, but if they continue to blackmail under the banner of family affection, there is no need to lend a helping hand at all.
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Conclusion
Brothers and sisters are the best gifts that our parents have left us in this life.
The older the person, the more he wants to remember the past, the more he misses his childhood life, at this time, if he can still go to his brothers and sisters' homes to walk around, reminisce about the past, chat, even if it is a face-to-face, his heart will be very solid.
Because, brothers and sisters, accompanying themselves, all the way to today, that blood and affection is the preciousness and warmth that can no longer be found in this life.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
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