Text/Little Fan Emotion
The night before Zhou's father died, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong both rushed back. The whole family slept on a kang, and Zhou's father said Zhou Rong:
Rong'er, Dad didn't mean to criticize you, you look at the three children in our family, you are not easy outside, Dad and Mom know, but your brother, your brother is not easy, your brother is bent on doing a good job in our family, how well is it now. My brother was bent on doing a good job in the work entrusted to him by the organization, and now he is doing a good job.
In fact, Zhou Zhigang's words are aimed at Zhou Rong, and they all say that his daughter is a sweet little cotton jacket, but his little cotton jacket has not been worrying since he was a child. Zhou Zhigang knew that the limit was coming, and he wanted to tell his daughter well before leaving. But he also knew that his daughter had been arrogant since she was a child, and if he said Zhou Rong directly, it would hurt her self-esteem and make her feel faceless, so Zhou Zhigang used the most euphemistic way to pull the two sons in.
Zhou Bingyi felt that he could not afford his father's praise, and he said with shame: Dad, I did not do well.
Zhou Zhigang encouraged his son to have confidence in himself and work hard!
Zhou Rong saw her father's advice to her brother, and she also wanted to know how her father saw herself, so she asked: Dad, what about me?
My girlfriend is the best, big intellectual, big professor, give Dad this old face to win the glory, Dad thank you!
You and Bingkun do things, whether right or wrong, it is our own family's business, but your brother is different, he did the right thing, the people support him, did not do right, the people scolded our old Zhou family.
Zhou Bingkun listened to his father's evaluation of his brother and sister, and he said a question that was held in his heart: Dad, ask you something, you said in your heart, who is the best of our sisters?
Zhou Zhigang said that you are both in your father's heart, and you are the best.
Zhou Rong smiled, and she said with disgust, Zhou Bingkun, you bastard, you provoke trouble.
Zhou Zhigang continued his daughter's words: He is giving his father a college entrance examination.
Zhou Bingkun asked his father unforgivingly: Who do you say is the best?
Father Zhou said:
Then I will tell the truth, when your brother and your sister are not at home, your father must tell you, Bingkun, you are the best. When you and your sister were not at home, Dad said to Bingyi, Bingyi, you are the best of the three. When you and your brother are not at home, your father will tell your sister that you are the best.
Zhou Zhigang's words successfully made the three children laugh, and Zhou Rong said coquettishly: Dad is an old fox. Zhou Zhigang played his humor again, saying that his father is an old fox, then you are not a little fox, your mother is a fox.
The three children all laughed, and Zhou Bingkun turned his face to his father's side, like a child who had just been praised by his parents, and slept contentedly.
For Zhou Bingkun, since he was a child, his wish is to get the approval of his parents, he believes that his mother likes his brother, his father likes his sister, but he has no one to hurt and no one to love. When he grew up, his older brother and sister were very successful, and he felt that he had not been welcomed by his parents.
Wanting to be recognized by his parents is Zhou Bingkun's biggest wish in this life. Over the years, he has done a lot of things for his family without complaint or regret, but he does not know how his parents see him, so he insists on asking the questions in his heart.
In fact, Zhou Bingkun did not know that his question revealed the hidden pain that the Zhou family's parents had buried all their lives.
1 Zhou Zhigang's heart is a hidden pain
Both parents are expected to have the heart of Jackie Chan, but for Zhou Zhigang, the first generation of construction workers in New China, he has never had such a luxury. He had been diligent and kind all his life, but he had not read many books. Therefore, in his limited cognition, he believes that "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, and the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix" is an unchangeable truth throughout the ages.
Although he did not know what genes were, he knew that people with no knowledge and no culture like himself and his wife could neither give their children the best education nor help them, so children were at most workers.
But to his surprise, his eldest son Zhou Bingyi and daughter Zhou Rong were actually admitted to Peking University. This made him feel more face-saving.
Anyway, in the whole light word film, it was the first time that his old Zhou family had produced two college students, and they were both famous universities.
Therefore, he had not visited for many years, and in that year, for the first time in history, he led his children out to pay tribute to everyone. When the neighbors praised his two children for their presence, he was also filled with a great sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.
People have weaknesses, because the excellence of the two children can make the Zhou family grow a face in front of the neighbors, Zhou Zhigang feels proud, he is very proud.
However, he ignored the feelings in the heart of his young son.
Compared with the excellence of his brother and sister, Zhou Bingkun's academic performance from an early age is the last. When his father led the whole family out to visit the New Year, when everyone praised his brothers and sisters, as well as his sister-in-law and brother-in-law, the inferiority in his heart could no longer be hidden.
Yes, compared with his brothers and sisters, he did not go to a good university to win glory for his parents, nor did he marry a wife who could make his parents boast, everyone knows that Zheng Juan married NanNan, although he said that Nannan was his own child, in order to block the mouth of the yoyos, but what people will think in their hearts is not something they can control.
Therefore, after suppressing for a few days, Zhou Bingkun, who had low self-esteem, finally had a fight with his brother, quarreled with his father, and even the father and son did not contact each other for many years.
Zhou's father felt that he was a father, and his son should bow his head to himself. Zhou Bingkun felt that he must make a difference before writing to his father.
Later, Zhou Zhigang retired home and learned that his son had actually moved into a new house. However, such a big thing as moving, Bingkun did not tell him about this father.
Zhou Zhigang was very annoyed. That night the father and son clashed violently again.
Zhou Zhigang said: You say I am snobbish? Yes, I have a lot of problems with this person. But dare I say Snobby, you are the first one!
The more Zhou Zhigang spoke, the angrier he became, and he jumped off the bed and turned on the light.
He asked Zhou Bingkun:
Do you know why I turn on the lights? I just want to see your face, I look at your expression, I look at what you think every day? I ask you, have your friends, your friends who grew up in the light word film, ever thought that if you don't grow up in the light word film, it would be better if you could have a father who is an official?
Zhou Bingkun was silent for a while: I have never abandoned my birth in the light word film, nor have I ever abandoned my parents, nor have I abandoned this family.
Zhou Zhigang whispered angrily:
I'm even less. Every parent wants his child to be shiny and fresh on the outside, just like all your children, and wants to be born in the home of that rich man. It can also bring convenience to your own future. Is this snobbery? Do you know what snobbishness is? See the wind make the rudder, climb high and step low. This is called snobbery. But your father and I will never be such people! Yes, your brother and your sister were admitted to Peking University. I have a light on my face, my own child is out, trying. When Daddy doesn't mean it doesn't matter, that's fine? It was wood, and I was thinking of taking advantage of the New Year to take them out to show off, without taking into account your feelings. To be wrong, this is the only thing that Dad is wrong about! Just this mistake is worth so many days of not talking to your father, not writing letters, ignoring your father.
This is Zhou Zhigang's heart. He explained to his son and apologized. He had always known Zhou Bingkun's heart knot.
At that time, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong were both admitted to Peking University and gave the Zhou family a long face in the light character film. He was overjoyed and led the whole family out to visit the New Year. Neglected the mind of the younger son. Afterwards, he also realized that his behavior was inappropriate. But he was a father, and he couldn't pull down his face to apologize to his son.
Zhou Zhigang worked alone in the distant mountains. He misses his hometown and his loved ones. Watching the children's letters was his happiest moment. However, Zhou Bingkun followed his temper and stubbornly did not contact him.
He was sad and sad, angry that his son didn't understand him. Parents want their children to be well. The eldest son and daughter were admitted to Peking University. He led them out to visit the New Year so that everyone could see how successful his children were.
On the other hand, why didn't he praise his two children in this way?
Zhou Zhigang believes that the three children are the same in his heart, and since the two eldest ones have already made achievements, then he must have some expressions as a father.
But he did not expect this move, but it hurt the heart of his youngest son, Zhou Bingkun.
Zhou Bingkun is also very aggrieved, he has not been as good as his brother and sister in learning from childhood to adulthood. The only thing he could do was take care of the family and his parents. He thinks he's done his best for his family. The parents were originally three brothers and sisters. He and Zheng Juan not only took care of the obligations of the elderly, but also took care of their sister's children.
But even so, he did not get the approval of his parents. That Spring Festival, their parents led them out to visit the New Year, and the words of the neighbors deeply stung Zhou Bingkun's heart.
This has led to years of breaks between father and son.
Someone has said that parents are waiting for us to say thank you, and we are waiting for parents to say sorry.
There are no parents in this world who do not love their children, and there are no children who do not love their parents. It's just that we have too many estrangements and misunderstandings that have not been opened in time, which has led to misunderstandings like snowballs, getting bigger and bigger.
Stable emotions and good communication are indispensable medicines in any intimate relationship.
2 The hidden pain in Li Suhua's heart
Li Suhua should be the happiest mother-in-law under the heavens.
She lay in bed for two and a half years, and when she woke up, all the functions of her body exceeded the doctor's expectations.
Because Zheng Juan massaged her every day for two and a half years, she was able to get out of bed and walk directly after waking up.
A vegetative person who had been lying in bed for two and a half years. Waking up and being able to walk like a normal person is a miracle in the history of medicine.
But this miracle was not brought to her by her own child, but the efforts of her daughter-in-law Zheng Juan.
She woke up delirious, and it was Zheng Juan who accompanied her to say confused words and coaxed her.
She knits a red sweater for her daughter Zhou Rong every year, and Zheng Juan has never complained.
In the original work, the old lady woke up and did not know Zheng Juan. Every time, she scolded Zheng Juan that the fox spirit had deceived her little son. Zheng Juan helped her scold every time.
Although the old lady was often in a semi-awake and half-unconscious state, she actually understood everything.
She and her husband treated their three children equally. But her heart is like a mirror, the eldest son Bingyi is busy with the affairs of the country and the people, and the daughter Zhou Rong is busy with the children's affairs in the school. Only their old pimple Bingkun was busy with his own affairs and his wife.
Over the years, Bing Kun and Zheng Juan have done to their second elder. Li Suhua knows it as well as her husband.
They know that the contribution of the parents to the family alone. Among the three children, Bing Kun and Zheng Juan did the most.
Mother Zhou may have thought of this, so she had to follow her husband to martyrdom, because she did not want to drag Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan anymore.
When she left, Zheng Juan could take care of Bingkun and her two children without distraction.
When Bingkun asked the father who did the best of the three children? Zhou Zhigang smiled and said that his son gave him a problem. Zhou Bingyi smiled and didn't say a word. Zhou Rong smiled and said that Zhou Bingkun was provoking trouble.
Zhou Zhigang died on the night of his death. Deliberately talk to amuse children. It is said that the three children are little foxes, and his mother is a fox.
At that time, the three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family all laughed. Only Zhou Bingkun's mother did not smile, on the contrary, there was a tear in the corner of her eye.
For many years, she knew that her husband was explaining the aftermath to the children.
She doesn't laugh for two reasons. One is that she knows that her husband will soon die. Second, Zhou Bingkun's words asked about the hidden pain in her heart.
Because of the three children. What she and her partner owe the most is Bingkun. Parents raise their children, and they all hope that their children will be out of the way, but at the same time, parents also hope to be accompanied by their children when they are old.
The eldest son is busy all day, and the daughter is busy all day, and the real filial piety to them is Bing Kun and Zheng Juan. However, they cannot be so selfish, they obviously have three children, and when they are old, they give the burden of supporting their parents to the younger son, and this son is the worst of the three children.
Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong are both husband and wife to earn wages, and they also do mental work. Only Bingkun earns money to support his family, and he still does the work of hard work.
Zheng Juan had to take care of herself, so she couldn't go out to work for many years.
Because of themselves, Bingkun and ZhengJuan not only work hard every day, but also have financial constraints.
Before, Bingkun Dad's pension could also help them, and after BingKun Dad left, he was no longer willing to add a burden to Bingkun and Zheng Juan.
When Zhou Zhigang explained the aftermath to the children, Li Suhua planned to go with her husband, so she showed unusual calmness about Zhou Zhigang's death. There was no appearance of a wife who had just lost her husband, not that she was cold, but that she was ready for martyrdom and was also ready not to cause trouble for Bingkun and his wife.
"Born with the same body, died with the same tree" was originally the most beautiful way the ancients described love, and Li Suhua also did it, but she did not only have a deep affection for her husband, but also a maternal love for her children. She thinks that as soon as she leaves, the children will be able to live their own lives without burden and distraction.
But she didn't know that as children, how many people were afraid of the old man causing trouble for himself? As Zhou Bingyi said: It is happy to go home and have a mother call. As he said to Zhou Bingkun: Being a dad can still be beaten by his dad, which is the happiest.
No matter how busy and tired you are, as long as you can see your parents when you go home, you can have your parents shouting, even if your parents are too old to move, even if your parents can't take care of yourself at all, it is still the greatest happiness for your children.
Li Suhua did this because she thought it was a fulfillment for her children, but in fact, it was a harm to her children.
3 What is best
In the hearts of parents, Ba looks forward to every child being good, but everyone's talent determines this person's life. And the children born to the same pair of parents are also different.
So, there is no best, only the most dedicated.
For the three children of the Zhou family, although Zhou Bingyi was a good official, he transformed the light character piece to fulfill his father's dying wish, he grew a face for his parents and gave the face of the old Zhou parents. But after his parents left, the most uncomfortable thing is Zhou Bingyi, his discomfort, not only in the reluctance to his parents, more deeply in his own self-blame and guilt, he knows that his father left three regrets before his death, his father's regret is also his regret, but as the eldest son, he can not let his father leave without concern, without regret, is the biggest hidden pain in his heart.
Before his parents died, he still lived in those two old houses, which was even more painful in Zhou Bingyi's heart.
The real reason why the mother and father left together in martyrdom is even easier to guess with Zhou Bingyi's IQ.
Therefore, the death of his parents became an unforgettable hidden pain for Zhou Bingyi, so twenty years later, there was an outbreak between him and Dongmei. Therefore, he obviously did a good job in the Beijing Central Discipline Inspection Commission, but he preferred to transfer back to Jichun before retirement, because he wanted to fulfill his father's last wish.
On the night that the light tablet was overthrown, Yue Yue came to him and said that the uncle was really remarkable.
Zhou Bingyi sighed: Unfortunately, your grandfather could not see it.
This sentence contains the hidden pain of Zhou Bingyi's half life. In this life, he has devoted himself to serving the country and the people, and he is worthy of the party and the people, but he has only failed his parents and brothers and sisters-in-law.
However, since ancient loyalty and filial piety are difficult to complete, Zhou Bingyi's tenure has as many as more than 10 billion yuan in his hands. But he was clean, and every penny went clearly. He remodeled the glossary film so that his brother and his neighbors could live in a good house.
At the age of more than sixty, he still remembered his father's dying wish and successfully completed it, believing that Zhou Zhigang had a spirit in heaven and would be proud of him.
Zhou Bingkun's greatest filial piety to his parents was that he married Zheng Juan. Zheng Juan can be said to be a noble person of the Zhou family. Because Zheng Juan and Bingkun took over the burden of taking care of their parents, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong could shine in their respective fields without distraction.
During the two and a half years that Zhou's mother was unconscious, Zheng Juan massaged her, took care of her defecation, and turned her over. Zheng Juan's care for Zhou Mu seems too shallow just to use the words kindness and filial piety. Zheng Juan's care for Zhou Mu is on the one hand out of gratitude to Bingkun, on the other hand, because of love for Bingkun.
It is precisely because she loves Bingkun deeply that she will regard her husband's relatives as her own relatives, and she must take care of both the elderly and her sister's daughter, but she has never complained. How much sense of sacrifice and dedication a person should have to be able to do what Zheng Juan is!
Zheng Juan really regarded Zhou Mu as her own mother, so when Zhou Mu died, Zheng Juan would be so sad.
When their parents were old, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong gave their parents a long face, but Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan were the ones who supported their parents.
For the three children of the Zhou family, they use their own behavior to interpret the love for their parents. For the Zhou family's parents, they all love all three children. As for which is the best, it is the best in the hearts of parents.
People live one life, grass and trees in autumn. Black and white, all in the hearts of the people.