When you are a parent, you have a wish to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix. In order to make children fly higher, they tend to pay a lot.
If the child is out of the way, parents will be very pleased and think that the child is here to "repay the favor".
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If the child does not meet their so-called success criteria, parents will think that the giving and receiving are not proportional, and the child is here to "collect debts".
Why? Look down and you'll see
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The 88-year-old man who lived alone fell late at night,
Call an ambulance yourself!
Mr. Gao, 88, accidentally fell late one night, called an ambulance in pain and discomfort, and then went to the emergency room alone.
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When the nurse saw that he was alone and older, she reminded him to call his family and ask them to accompany him to the doctor. The old man said that his family was not in the local area, and he could just pay the fee himself.
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The nurse was relieved and persuaded him to call his family, but the old man still refused to contact his family. After the words, it is even more mixed in people's hearts.
The old man said he had 3 children, all of whom settled in Australia. They had also let the old man live with them before, but the old man was older and did not want to change the environment, so he had been in China.
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It used to be good, but now that he is older, his body is prone to various problems, and he is not willing to trouble his children, saying bluntly: Now it is a good life.
3 children can settle abroad, presumably the economic conditions are quite good. But the ability to settle abroad, but the inability to give parents a happy and stable old age, is also quite regrettable.
And this is also the reality that parents must face: children who have a career will eventually fly higher and higher, and they will be farther and farther away from their parents.
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Children who have a job will fly higher and higher,
Getting farther and farther away from your parents!
Before discussing this issue, Xiao Kangjun first said what the public believes is the standard of "having an interest": making more money, having a car and a house, having a certain social status, and having a high degree of education. To put it bluntly, there are two points: money and status.
Whether or not the children are present or not determines to a certain extent whether the parents have face. Therefore, children who do not show up are often not very pleasing to their parents.
The most "unproductive" person in "The World of Man" is Bingkun, who has average academic performance and work is also introduced by his family. The most "outstanding" are Bingyi and Zhou Rong, who were not only admitted to Peking University, but also married the daughter of the provincial governor and a famous talent.
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Therefore, Zhou's father's favorite child is Zhou Rong, and the most painful child is Bingyi. When taking a big son to visit the New Year, Zhou Dad and Zhou Ma were quite proud, and Bingyi and Zhou Rong were full of smiles, only Bingkun had a bitter smile on his face.
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Maybe he was thinking: Who am I? Where am I? Why should I come out to visit the New Year?
But it was Bingkun who supported the Zhou family. Zhou Mama was in a coma for more than 2 years, and has been taken care of by Bingkun and Zhengjuan, and Zhou Rong's daughter is also taken care of by Bingkun and zhengjuan.
Bingyi and Zhou Rong are busy at work and rarely care about family affairs. This is not to say that the two of them are not filial piety, but that the two of them attach more importance to self-worth realization than staying by their parents' side.
Children who have a career are relatively strong, and it is difficult to achieve their ideals and ambitions by staying with their parents. In order to achieve their ideals and ambitions, they tend to go to big cities, which leads to a physical distance between parents and children.
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Coupled with the increasingly different environments that parents and children are exposed to, the thinking is less and less on one level, and there are fewer and fewer topics to talk about. Parents do not understand what their children say about work, and children do not understand what their parents say about the shortness of parents. Slowly, there were fewer and fewer words that could be said.
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Ordinary children,
I also came to repay the favor!
Many parents hope that their children will have a career and can shine on the lintel, but they do not know that ordinary children are also here to repay the favor.
Their academic performance may not be good, their careers may not be outstanding, ordinary, simple, is the most ordinary one among all sentient beings, unlike other people's children who have luxury cars and can earn millions a year.
But they are kind, warm and responsible.
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They may not be able to make their parents have a lot of face, but they have always been with their parents, after the home appliances are broken, they can call them to repair, they are unwell and call them to the hospital, and they don't want to cook and let them send.
Although they are not in line with the so-called "appearance" in the public's mouth, everyone who lives a life knows that they are very happy.
Many parents have thought about what kind of person their children want their children to become before they have children. What kind of future does it have?
But in fact, we simply can't decide what kind of person our children become, all we can do is help our children become what kind of person they are.
As psychologist Alison Goopnik put it:
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For children, we can only be gardeners, not carpenters. A carpenter polishes an object and molds it into the way he wants it to be.
But the child's development is more like a living plant, we are like gardeners, watering and fertilizing, but its growth is done by itself, and all we provide is an environment.
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Children who are "out of work" have great skills, can earn face for their parents, and meet the spiritual needs of their parents. Children who are "not out of work" are not very skilled, but they are treated with all their parents and treated them comfortably.
Both are filial piety, but the way of filial piety is different. As a parent, it is enough to accept which one is accepted calmly.
Well-off jun bar boo
Whether a child is good or not is not measured by grades.
Although those who have money and power are excellent, isn't it also excellent to accompany their parents and appear in time when they need it?
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