The TV series "The World of Man", starring Lei Jiayin and Yin Tao, has received unanimous praise, especially several adaptations in the play have really touched people's hearts.
After watching this drama, my biggest feeling is to cherish the people around me and cherish every feeling!
Family, friendship, love, every love you encounter is worth cherishing, and every one can warm your heart.
In addition to warming my heart, I also have more rational thinking, especially for marriage relationships.
In the play, the three children of the Zhou family have a happy marriage, especially Bingkun and Bingyi (slightly different from the ending in the novel). Bingkun and Zheng Juan are suffering to see the truth, while Bingyi and Dongmei are the most rational marriage philosophies.
Many people think that the marriage between Bingyi and Dongmei is too "awkward", mainly reflected in the relationship between the two families, but what you don't know is that this marriage model, young people are imitating, and feel very good.
How "awkward" is The marriage between Bingyi and Dongmei?
Bingyi and Dongmei are middle school classmates, and the two are considered to be green plum bamboo horses and two small guesses. At that time, they often discussed novels and literature together. Later, the two went to the countryside together and suffered a lot, but in the green years, the sweetness only increased!
Bingyi gave up the opportunity to be promoted for Dongmei, which is something that can change his life's destiny! Dongmei was unable to have children due to accidents, and Bingyi told his father that it was his problem, and the Dongmei family was very moved. After marriage, Bingyi lived in his father-in-law's house, and Dongmei also turned his face with his parents many times for Bingyi. It can be said that there is nothing wrong with the relationship between Bingyi and Dongmei, and it is not too much to describe them with unswerving chastity!
Putting aside themselves, in fact, the "awkward" part of The marriage between Bingyi and Dongmei lies in the relationship between their parents.
Basically everyone feels that marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. After marriage, a woman should have her in-laws' family as the mainstay, because that is the home of the second half of her life. And when the situation occurs at the same time as the in-laws' families, women should be mainly in-laws' families, and this is the case now, and it was even more so in the past. In the past, women did not even deserve a name, and whoever married into the family was the daughter-in-law of whose family, and had no self.
And Bingyi and Dongmei's parents have never met, which is not caused by the social environment at that time, but they actively chose.
The Hao family and the Zhou family are two completely different classes, and there is no common language between them. Although Dongmei and Bingyi are very good, and their parents do not intend to interfere, their parents do not want to have any crossover. How "awkward" are they?
Dongmei's father died, and only Bingyi in the Zhou family participated, and Dongmei and her mother did not complain in the slightest. When the Zhou family's parents died, Dongmei went that day, but at night she still returned to her mother's house, because she had to go to work the next day, would this be criticized as a big filial piety in real life?
The parents of Zhou Hao's two families have truly achieved "old age and death do not interact with each other"!
But throughout this life, Bingyi and Dongmei rarely quarreled because of this matter, and their relationship was not affected in any way, if it was you, how would you think of such a marriage model?
Marriage that young people crave
Remember papi sauce? The webcaster who has teased us countless times.
Personally, I think Papi Sauce is a very thoughtful and in-depth anchor, she has a deep understanding of life and self, and likes her very much.
Recently, I watched a video about papi sauce and her husband who have been married for several years, but they have never returned to their mother-in-law's house during the New Year, and the parents of the two families have not met. They feel that for their parents, the most important thing is their children, and the daughter-in-law or son-in-law may not care so much about whether they go home, so they choose to return to their parents in the holidays that Chinese value most.
This is a good discussion between the two, no disputes, no complaints, every Spring Festival they have a very happy and relaxed life, is this not what you desire?
During the Spring Festival, how many women returned to their in-laws with complaints? I can't go back to my hometown several times a year, I've worked hard for a year, I left my parents alone and went to a strange family to serve them, are you willing? And who to go back to in the New Year is also a problem for many only children, parents have only one child, who is not raised by the father's parents?
If you can choose, are you willing to draw a line with your in-laws or in-laws?
It is not that the relatives are no longer kissing, but the marriage is more rational
Many people feel that if they only care about their parents, what is the difference between living with a partner? Relatives are not relatives, family affection is gone, when encountering difficulties, no one can help, what kind of human touch can be said?
I very much agree with that view. People have the feeling of meeting, if you don't meet for a long time or don't know at all, don't say feelings, friendship is not ah!
China is a country that pays great attention to human feelings, and if two relatives do not meet, does that not go against the fine traditions of the Chinese nation?
Having said that, please think about all married people, have you ever had a headache for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and sister-in-law? Have you ever complained about the harassment of some of your bottomless relatives? Have you ever complained that your mother-in-law doesn't help with the children? Have you ever resented the eccentricity of the other parent?
So if we follow the marriage model of Bingyi and Dongmei, can all these contradictions be avoided or reduced?
In life, where does the root cause of contradiction come from? From extravagance and expectation, but if there is no relationship, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is gone, and life can at least enhance the happiness of 70%! Your children you bring yourself, don't blame the mother-in-law, everything is your own choice, the mother-in-law's trouble is also less, isn't it?
There are fewer complaints, fewer contradictions, fewer distractions, life is simpler, you can do certain things wholeheartedly, is this what you are looking forward to?
Personally, I feel that young people choose this marriage model, and it will not make their relatives not kiss, if they want, the relatives are still relatives, not seen today, can be seen later. But more and more young people's attitudes towards marriage are more rational, life is their own, all the difficulties can be carried by themselves, but also want to be happier, is this too much to ask?
epilogue:
At least for now, the marriage model between Bingyi and Dongmei is still difficult to achieve, because it will encounter a lot of obstruction. I am not entirely in favor of such a marriage, what I want to say today is that marriage is a matter of two people, don't live it as a matter of two big families, life is simple, happiness can be simply harvested. Don't go online, and try to minimize the expectations and extravagance of others, then you will feel that life can be so comfortable.
As a parent, please respect the choice of the children, the children grow up, married, not to leave you, not to bring someone home, but they re-establish a new family, this new family has a new male and female owners, you still do not interfere. Especially mother-in-law, less interference in the life of daughter-in-law, since you can't replace others, then don't bother others!
Here I would like to say to female friends: look open, don't always pursue perfection! Shake hands with life and make peace, do not embarrass yourself, do not embarrass others, life is not screwed, life can go smoothly. What do you think?