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In the TV series "The World of Man", there is one person whose sobriety is worth all of us to learn.
She is Jin Yueji, Zhou Bingyi's mother-in-law, and Dongmei's mother.
Jin Yueji was not a simple person, during the Cultural Revolution, their whole family was torn apart and did not stay in one place for many years.
After the family reunion, Dongmei and Zhou Bingyi are married.
For her daughter's marriage, she could not serve as a counselor, but she gave her own opinion on her daughter's life.
The first time Dongmei because Zhou Bingyi's family begged her father for Cai Xiaoguang to go to college, after this matter was completed, Dongmei's mother was very unhappy.
Zhou Bingyi, who is good at observing the color, saw his mother-in-law's displeasure, and even Dongmei saw the change in her mother and accused her of looking down on the poor.
Mrs. Jin really didn't want to have too much contact with Zhou Bingyi's family, but the reason was not that she looked down on their family.
First, because Dongmei's parents had been beaten down, suffered hardships, suffered sins, and it was difficult for the whole family to reunite; in that era, it was an easy thing to be beaten, so she was afraid, so she was so cautious.
Second, Dongmei's father is the governor of the province, his work is to serve the people's major events, Zhou Bingyi's family is a small citizen, the small citizen has the thoughts and life of the small citizen, the two of them consider the direction of the problem is not the same.
The thinking of the small citizens also reflects the human nature of most people, they like to visit relatives and friends, but also like to help each other, Mrs. Jin knows that the contact is too secret, it is inevitable to violate the principles in the work, and even make mistakes.
If the two families have moderate interaction, it is good for the work of Dongmei's parents.
Marriage pays attention to the door to the door, and its truth is also here, because the two families who are the door to the door can understand each other's difficulties and feel more easily.
02
After Zhou Bingkun was cheated into buying a house, the whole family needed to move back to the old house to live, Zhou Rong was worried that her daughter's residence had found Dongmei, and Dongmei had the heart to let Yueyue live in her mother's house.
But this matter had to go home to discuss with her mother, and the kind Dongmei thought that her mother would agree, after all, there were several empty houses in her home that no one lived in.
However, Jin Yueji did not agree to her daughter's request.
The reason is that Yue Yue is in adolescence and is not easy to get along with, what should I do if something happens?
The second is, if you agree to Yue Yue to live in, what should she do if she is used to living in a small western-style building in the end? Jin Yueji knows too well human nature, and it is easy to send God to God.
The fact is that the problem that Jin Yueji considered does exist, Zhou Bingkun let Wu Qian's family live in his old house, and later because he was cheated of buying a house, he needed to live back in the old house, bought snacks to find Wu Qian to get a house, and as a result, Wu Qian turned against him and made a big fight with Zhou Bingkun.
Human nature is greedy, and Jin Yueji, who has experienced wind and rain, knows better than Dongmei, she understands that to be kind, to be kind, to be measured, and to do things in principle, so she treats the Zhou family coldly.
Because the two companies whose positions of power do not match, there is a gap in the way they look at the problem, and these gaps cannot be eliminated with a little enthusiasm.
Zhou Bingyi knows this, but not all of the Zhou family knows this, nor is it something that the Relatives, friends, and neighbors of the Zhou family can understand.
Even if it is a father and son, there is also the existence of a heart knot, just like Zhou Bingkun's contradiction and heart knot with his father.
Most of the time, everyone's mind is at the height of their own class.
This is also the reason why Jin Yueji's approach is not understood.
03
I have to say that Jin Yueji in the play is a rare awakening in the world.
From the relationship of keeping a distance from the Zhou family to seeing the greed of human nature, she is more sober than her daughter Dongmei.
She likes Zhou Bingyi because Zhou Bingyi is smart and self-motivated, filial piety, and most importantly, he is Dongmei's favorite.
So she helped Zhou Bingyi to pursue a career, and she could see the key to the problem to the point.
Zhou Bingyi ran to the Soviet Union for the future of the military factory, solved the problem, and returned home with joy, while Zhou Bingyi's lace news also reached the ears of his mother-in-law, Jin Yueji.
She did not make any noise, took the newspaper to Zhou Bingyi to read, and asked for the basic situation.
For Zhou Bingyi's denial, Jin Yueji has her own understanding.
Zhou Bingyi reached middle age and did not have his own children, although he did not say it in his mouth, but he also had knots in his heart.
His relationship with Dongmei is very good, and many times he has to disguise, because he is recognized by everyone as a talent, a recognized good person, he is a bully, and he is a sentient and righteous person in his mind.
Moral demands forced Zhou Bingyi to disguise himself as such a person, Dongmei could not give birth, he could not abandon her, which was what the sense of morality required him to do.
Zhou Bingyi is a man, not a saint, and Jin Yueji is fully aware of this, so she has a bottom in her heart for Zhou Bingyi's lace news in a foreign country.
For Zhou Bingyi's bold indulgence abroad is not empty, Jin Yueji knows human nature better than her daughter Dongmei.
Just like in "Little Shedd", when Nan Li wanted to fake a divorce for her children to go to school, her mother said: Where in the world there are so many love stronger than gold, don't die.
Love is too beautiful than Jin Jian's feelings, most of this feeling is also our own fantasy of beauty, human nature is too untested.
It was precisely because Jin Yueji knew this, and she also knew that Zhou Bingyi had been living carefully, so she had to do something to save her daughter's marriage.
She wakes up Zhou Bingyi, let him understand the consequences of making a mistake, and also offers to see Zhou Bingyi's correspondence with Olivia, because in case Zhou Bingyi is involved in this matter, she can help.
Oliya is abroad, and is the daughter of a Soviet general, based on the relationship between the two countries, Zhou Bingyi is well aware of the consequences of the continued ambiguity between the two, Jin Yueji does not quarrel, so she solves the son-in-law's extramarital affair.
Many emotional people hate Jin Yueji, but compared to the entanglement and panic of ordinary people, Jin Yueji quietly solves the problem and is worthy of being a master of emotional intelligence and IQ.
Her sobriety also made Dongmei a lot less troublesome.
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