Wen | Wu Qingqian
In the TV series "The World of Man", Zhou Zhigang said a last word about class differences before his death, saying that people from different classes were hard to get together, everyone was uncomfortable, and hao Jinlong and Jin Yueji, who were not willing to communicate with their Zhou family, stood tall and far, very reasonable, and it was good that they did not come and go for twenty years. These words made the eldest son Zhou Bingyi ashamed and embarrassed, although he knew that he could not change the class difference between the two families, and his father Zhou Zhigang was also relieved that they did not interact with each other, but he always blamed himself for not handling the relationship between the two families, otherwise he would not have made the relationship between the two relatives so awkward.
When Zhou Bingyi received the news that Zhou Zhigang had fallen ill, he was already the executive vice mayor of Jichun City, and he was investigating and inspecting Qihe County, perhaps because he had a premonition and rushed home. When they arrived home, they saw Zhou Zhigang lying pale on the bed, and as soon as he exited, he blamed his brother Zhou Bingkun for not calling him or his daughter-in-law Hao Dongmei at the first time, and if they told them in time, they would let Jin Yueji (Hao Dongmei's mother, Zhou Bingyi's mother-in-law) call for a car.
Zhou Zhigang listened harshly to this, saying that I was fortunate that I didn't die, otherwise you wouldn't have wronged Bingkun to death, Bingkun didn't call Dongmei to let her mother call a car, and did the right thing. You all know that your dad never wanted to ask for help.
Zhou Bingyi knew that on the eve of the Spring Festival in 1980, after his mother-in-law Jin Yueji mistakenly sent back the green tea sent by Zhou Zhigang and the southern specialties he sent, his father always had a grudge against his parents-in-law, and the two sides have not been in contact for the next 12 years, even if his father-in-law Hao Jinlong died, he did not notify the Zhou family. Hao Jinlong died in the second half of 1980, when the two sides were still secretive about the Spring Festival gift, it was Zhou Bingyi who attended his father-in-law's funeral and was still in college when he was preparing to return to Beijing to study, specifically to find his brother where Zhou Bingkun worked, mentioning the death of his father-in-law Zhou Bingkun only knew that Hao Jinlong was gone, and then the Zhou family knew that his relatives Hao Jinlong was dead.
During the funeral, Zhou Bingyi never returned home, probably because he was afraid that the problem of class differences would sting his family again. It is not that the Zhou family loves to compare and is very angry, but after the ordinary workers' families and high-cadre families become relatives, they want to communicate like normal relatives, and the result is always to show the gap between the two sides in various intentional and unintentional details, so that Zhou Zhigang, who has a lot of face in the light film, hurts his self-esteem. Zhou Bingyi is a student of philosophy, he can get out of the cognition in the brain and accept the true face of the real world, but Zhou Zhigang and other places know what philosophy is, and have not had contact with Hao Jinlong and Jin Yueji, and they cannot talk about feelings and emotions, and it is unrealistic to ask them to accept the gap like Zhou Bingyi.
Therefore, since the embarrassment of giving gifts during the Spring Festival in 1980, Zhou Bingyi has not mentioned anything about the meeting between the two families. The Zhou family also knew that mentioning this matter was self-inflicted humiliation, and they never mentioned it. The Hao family had clearly seen the gap between the two families early on, let alone mentioned.
Before 1976, Hao Jinlong and Jin Yueji probably did not know that their daughter Hao Dongmei and Zhou Bingyi were married, even if they knew that they were all sent to work, for Hao Dongmei's good, they would never contact their daughter's in-laws, let alone communicate. In 1976, with the reinstatement of the official, Hao Jinlong and his wife were busy with official duties, and more importantly, Zhou Bingyi asked Hao Dongmei to ask Hao Jinlong for the matter of his sister-in-law Zhou Rong's classmate Cai Xiaoguang going to college, which made the Hao family have an opinion of the Zhou family, afraid that the Zhou family would beat their Hao family's power, so they did not want to come and go at all, deliberately kept a distance from the Zhou family, and did not even want to mention the Zhou family. In 1980, it was Zhou Bingyi and his wife who mentioned meeting, especially Hao Dongmei also quarreled with Jin Yueji about the meeting between the two families, and Jin Yueji agreed to meet the two families. After the gift-giving incident, they realized that the class was different, and the exchange was really awkward, so they didn't mention it at all.
In this way, from the marriage of Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei in 1972 to the illness of Zhou Zhigang in 1992, the Hao family and the Zhou family became relatives for twenty years, until the death of Zhou Zhigang and his wife, the two relatives never met.
Regarding the marriage of Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei, in fact, since the Spring Festival gift-giving incident, Zhou Zhigang also has an opinion on this improper marriage like Jin Yueji, and it is because he sees that the eldest daughter-in-law is good to her son, which is put up with. Regarding this matter, Zhou Zhigang, who had just been injured by his relatives in 1980 for a few days, said to Zhou Bingkun, who had sent him, when he returned to work at the third-line construction site.
Zhou Zhigang said that outsiders think that his eldest son married the girl of the governor (referring to Hao Jinlong), which is a fortunate thing, and it is a matter of burning gao xiang for several lifetimes, but this matter is spread on himself, and he knows that it is not so, just take the Matter of Giving Gifts for the New Year, it is really uncomfortable. Zhou Zhigang was also quite a big son, saying that Zhou Bingyi was so good when he was a child, and now that he has grown up, he is also excellent, "Just don't do it, the son is married, his own family can't squeeze it, he has to live in someone else's home, and see people's faces live." A man who does not nest. Fortunately, Dongmei her father and her mother are also good people, and their political consciousness is also high, but they are not a world with us, it is uncomfortable, and I really don't want to associate with them. If you don't look at Dongmei, it is sincerely good for your brother, I really want to persuade your brother more, leave it. From Zhou Zhigang's mouth of a "person", it can be known that the gift was returned to him greatly.
These unpleasant things and the awkwardness of the Zhou family, especially Zhou Zhigang, Zhou Bingyi knew that this time Zhou Zhigang was seriously ill, and he also heard his father's meaning of not wanting to ask for help, and he did not blame Zhou Bingkun. Zhou Bingkun was like Zhou Zhigang in this regard, knowing that the Zhou family and the Hao family were not of the same class, and the Hao family was not as easy-going as Ma Shouchang and Qu Xiuzhen, and they were unwilling to cross the class to ask for the Hao family's relatives. So Zhou Bingyi changed his attitude, saying that he should not blame his brother, he should blame himself, he should call Hao Dongmei first, and let her come to see it first.
Zhou Zhigang, who did not want his eldest son to blame himself, said, what can be done if she fights, her mother can't come? She doesn't come, I'm your father, you're her son-in-law, I don't think it's okay to say it; but when I come, I don't recognize it, everyone has a burden, and my burden may be even heavier.
Zhou Bingyi blamed himself even more, saying that he blamed him for not handling the relationship well. No matter how to say that the two parents' families are in the same city, they have not seen each other for twenty years, and they have not interacted with each other, that is not normal.
Zhou Zhigang knew where the gap was, no wonder who, comforted his son and said, it has nothing to do with you, our Zhou family and your mother-in-law's family, this is indeed not a class. You're not a class person, you force him together, people are uncomfortable, we ourselves, it's not good. It turned out that I never understood this matter, and I still had an opinion on their family. Now ah a little view is gone, I actually think ah, people, that is really prescient, worthy of standing tall, see far. Each has its own destiny, each has its own destiny, it has its own difficulties, each has its own good. You said that today's incident (after Zhou Zhigang fainted, Sun Chaochao, Xiao Guoqing, Cao Debao, and Zhou Bingkun, one of the six gentlemen of the light piece, took turns to pull him to the hospital), Dongmei and her mother can call the car, this is the ability of the people, I can let these children of the light character piece, for me, desperately and willingly send me to the hospital, this is my father's creation. What is this, the chicken does not pee, each has its own way.
Although what Zhou Zhigang said is very reasonable, it is the same as the cognition of Zhou Bingyi, who studied philosophy, but the expression is different, but in the face of his close relatives, Zhou Bingyi cannot accept the damage caused by this gap, especially the gap, after all, he is an emotional person, listening to his father for his daughter-in-law's parents to stand tall and far-reaching for nearly a lifetime, how can he not blame himself. If he hadn't known him well and recklessly asked Hao Dongmei to ask his father-in-law to help Cai Xiaoguang, perhaps the Hao family would not have had an opinion on the Zhou family, and the two families could have exchanged normally at least once or twice, so as not to cause embarrassment in the 1980 Spring Festival gift-giving. After all, the two families of different classes have become relatives, and the gap between the objective existence has caused harm, this injury is not only unique to Zhou Zhigang, but also there is Jin Yueji, but many years of cultivation have made her not casually confide.
It is the harm brought by this gap, when Hao Dongmei said in front of Zhou Zhigang's body that she would let her mother come to participate in the farewell of the body, Zhou Bingyi refused, saying that there was no need, it was cold, your mother was not in good health, and the car here could not come in, so seek truth from facts. Although these are also reasons, but they are not the key reasons, the key is that Zhou Zhigang said before leaving that the two families are not a class, it is good not to come and go, Zhou Bingyi can also be regarded as abiding by his father's last words, and at the same time, he let his mother-in-law have steps, so as not to be embarrassed.
Zhou Bingyi's desolate and resolute refusal also shows that Zhou Bingyi's heart is not happy. As a person sandwiched between the two families, Zhou Bingyi has lived a very depressed life for most of his life, whether it is the Zhou family or the Hao family, he cannot blame, not only the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands are meat, there is no fault in the two families, and the unhappiness of the two families is not caused by which family is wrong or right, but because of the different classes on both sides, so no one can blame. He also did not regret that he had married Hao Dongmei, after all, Hao Dongmei loved himself very much and was very good to the Zhou family, and Hao Dongmei was also sandwiched in the middle, and he was just as uncomfortable as him. Therefore, for the harm and depression caused by the gap, he can only bear it in silence, and there is no other way.
Of course, Zhou Zhigang's release of class differences before his death no longer has an opinion on Jin Yueji, and he looks down on the embarrassment of the Spring Festival gift being withdrawn 12 years ago, which also makes Zhou Bingyi feel better. Just looking back on the past, I somewhat blame myself, blaming myself for not finding a good way to deal with the relationship between the two families and eliminate the knots of the Zhou and Hao families. With the deaths of Hao Jinlong, Zhou Zhigang, and Li Suhua, he has no chance to repair the relationship between the two families at all, and regret and self-blame will always torment himself.
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